Bf Received Nude, What Should I Do?

[MattAU]

So long story short I had to use my bf’s phone to fill out a form online and I asked his permission and he said yes.
I unlocked the phone (there’s no code or anything) there was Facebook Messenger open on the main list of the chat he’s had, I noticed straight away there was a chat with a guy so I didn’t resist and I opened it to check and I saw that this guy messaged my boyfriend several times in the last few weeks and my boyfriend never replied to him.. the latest message that thus guy sent was a dick pic saying “we should catch up” or something similar and my boyfriend replied saying something like “thanks for the thought but I’ve got a partner”
Now my boyfriend never told me about this while in the past if something like this happened to one of us we used to tell each other to be completely transparent but this time he didn’t.
We are exclusive so not an open relationship type of situation and I don’t know how I should feel about this.
If I’m gonna ask him he’s gonna be like “why were you looking through my conversations” but if I don’t I’m gonna wonder if there was more to that convo that I didn’t see.

Ps: I remember seeing more messages up in the convo to which my boyfriend replied to but I didn’t see the date of them so they could be 3-4 years old.

Pps: he doesn’t have any social media so when he was on Grindr and stuff he used to give guys his Facebook to chat so he’s got old conversations with guys he hooked up with. I think that those messages that had a reply were probably before he even met me but I can’t be 100% sure unless I go through the convo again.

Advices?

 

[uncutnhard]

I think I'm most of this you have answered your own questions. First off how like have you two been together? Sounds like it's possibly old connections he had before you that are still trying to connect with him using FB. He is not responding to them and has clearly told them that he is with you now. Would be a bit different though if he was indeed responding back with his cock pics. Don't think you have any worries but than again why wouldn't he just delete all those contacts if he is with you now? Are you guys both using LPSG or just you?

 

[Brodie888]

At this point you have to trust him. He hasn't actually done anything wrong. In my opinion you shouldn't say or do anything but at the same time you should never take him for granted.

If you spring him on something that is easily deniable like this, he will make more effort to cover his tracks if he is doing something wrong in the future.

 

[MattAU]

I think I'm most of this you have answered your own questions. First off how like have you two been together? Sounds like it's possibly old connections he had before you that are still trying to connect with him using FB. He is not responding to them and has clearly told them that he is with you now. Would be a bit different though if he was indeed responding back with his cock pics. Don't think you have any worries but than again why wouldn't he just delete all those contacts if he is with you now? Are you guys both using LPSG or just you?

I’m the only on here, I’ve created an account for the good porn and now it has come handy to have a second opinion on this as I felt a bit confused and I wanted someone else’s advice not just my friends.
I don’t think I’ve got anything to worry either I do trust him.. just what I’ve seen was a little shocking and wasn’t sure how I should react.

 

[MattAU]

At this point you have to trust him. He hasn't actually done anything wrong. In my opinion you shouldn't say or do anything but at the same time you should never take him for granted.

If you spring him on something that is easily deniable like this, he will make more effort to cover his tracks if he is doing something wrong in the future.

At this point you have to trust him. He hasn't actually done anything wrong. In my opinion you shouldn't say or do anything but at the same time you should never take him for granted.

If you spring him on something that is easily deniable like this, he will make more effort to cover his tracks if he is doing something wrong in the future.

He’s the type of guy that would leave his phone at home, his phone doesn’t have any code either so for me it is quite easy to check it when I have the chance.. I feel like he’s not hiding anything from me otherwise he would put a code on his phone or take some precautions to not get caught

 

[Brodie888]

He’s the type of guy that would leave his phone at home, his phone doesn’t have any code either so for me it is quite easy to check it when I have the chance.. I feel like he’s not hiding anything from me otherwise he would put a code on his phone or take some precautions to not get caught

Yes, exactly. So in future, if you ever had real reason to be worried, you could go looking if you had to. But if you say to him today "hey, i was looking through your facebook messenger app and found...." he'd start taking precautions like taking his phone with him all the time.

I think he still deserves your trust and worrying about a problem that doesn't exist is counterproductive.

 

[ravenx]

I don't get why you are upset.

You violated his privacy but in so doing just discovered that he is operating under the same rules that you both agreed to in the relationship.

You should be happy.

 

[malakos]

Why do you feel you were in the right to snoop into things unrelated to what you were given permission to use the phone for?

I don't agree with your focus on your boyfriend here. The biggest problem is your lack of acknowledgement that what you did was wrong.

 

[ohiorod]

Why do you feel you were in the right to snoop into things unrelated to what you were given permission to use the phone for?

I don't agree with your focus on your boyfriend here. The biggest problem is your lack of acknowledgement that what you did was wrong.

I agree that you should not have read the message. But in regards to your request for advice, I would be happy that when your bf was faced with opportunity, he clearly stated that he has a partner and turned him down. Sounds like a keeper to me!