ConstantComment
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I think you're in a tough position because you may be wondering if something is "wrong" with you and that's why he won't pleasure you orally......and we all seem to opt for "what's wrong with me?" when we deflect the real problem....which in this case may be he A. Does not like it B. Does not really know how to do it C. Has some sexual abuse in his past that reminds him of something very negative regarding his doing it D. He's selfish and it's not about your pleasure at all E. Considers it beneath him F. Would rather suck a cock than eat a pussy G. Does not know what he's missing and what he's causing you to miss H. Has to do it OR will ONLY do it with somebody he's in love with I. Is waiting to do it ONLY with his wife when he gets married (some virginal thing in his head)
Anyway....you get the point....to many variables, but I don't think withholding head from him will stimulate him into eating you......and from my experience if my partner...either a guy or a gal won't suck my dick....it SURE won't stop me from enjoying what I get off on....and that's using my mouth on their sexual organs and orffices....
It actually did. I would turn him down for sex a few times. Then say yes, then he would go down on me a few times. Then stop. Then I would turn him down.....lather, rinse repeat.
My guess is that he was in denial about his own sexuality; hoped that he could keep a girlfriend for public display and to satisfy his own sexual needs without being open about the arrangement he was looking for. But if that was the plan, I would not have agreed to it and he would have to hope that there was someone who met his standards who would.
I don't understand how so many people believe that open honest dialogue (if indeed it does exist) can solve every problem.