BHR is taking a sabbatical....

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  1. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    As many of you are aware from the Asperger's Syndrome thread- I have an almost 6 year old with daughter with Autism. We've been noticing some things that are regressing in our daughters behavior in the last month or so. We weren't sure if it was a weekly phase or things due to some recent illnesses shes had. But she's obviously at this point need a big change in her life and our daily regimen with her. Today when i picked her up from school the teacher shared some concerns and some things she has noticed the last month or so as well. It was devistating to hear. After all the years of therapy with her and her miraculous progression month to month and year to year, we are having to go back to some basics because she obviously exhibits that shes having too much stimulation in her life.

    I know there are a lot worse things out there i could be dealing with. It's just a big blow to see that others are being affected by whatever is going on with her. I need to reevalutate my priorities and brainstorm for some remedies to this.

    I'm not leaving LPSG, i just wont be as prominant as i have been. So don't worry i will still check in every now and again.

    I always promised her i would do whatever it takes to be the best mother i can be to her...we chose not to have anymore children not only because the chances of autism being more severe with our next child, but because we knew she needed a lot from us and it wouldnt be fair if we were distracted with other kids.

    Just thought i'd share a little of whats going on in my corner of the universe so you all would understand why you wont see as much of me.

    -BHR

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  2. D_Gunther Snotpole

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    Good luck, BHR.
    Sure, there may be some issues more serious than that ... but damn few, and on the scale of things, this will need a lot of attention.
    I wish you and your daughter the best.
    And I'm glad, BHR, that you'll be popping back in at least once in a while.
    Take care.
     
  3. IntoxicatingToxin

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    Good luck with you and your daughter! I wish you two the best.
     
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    BHR.. I am new to the site, but you have been most generous and gracious in sharing. I wish you and your family the best.

    I'm sure no one will fill your spot, so we will miss you.
     
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    No one could ever accuse you of not being a good mother BHR. Just realizing you need to spend some time with hwer is huge. Most parents don't get it. I have been rather absent due to the same with my two little one's. Nothing as serious as you, they just need some quality dad time is all.

    My hat is off to you babe and we'll keep your seat saved and warm for you.

    I bid you peace and prosperity.
     
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    You know where to find us - though why the fuck you'd want to beats me - Oh yeah, the cocks!! I forgot :biggrin:

    See you round, Red.
     
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    See you back in chat when you have the time.
     
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    Hey BedHeadRed, I know you will make the right decisions concerning your family, I had no idea. My wife teaches at a local school for children with autism and similar learning needs. You are right, it is not the end of the world, I know there is a broad spectrum for autism. I appreciate your concerns and I hope everything works out the for the best. We all miss you, but family first, and lpsg whenever you feel you have time.

    Mr A Lien (.....from my little corner of the universe)
     
  9. MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK

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    BHR, I wish you the very best with your daughter, and hope you pop in every now & then to say, "hey":wink:
     
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    Take care BHR. Family comes first. Stop by when you can. You're a strong woman!
     
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    Take care of your little girl, hope her issues are ones you can sort out.
     
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    Your family is first , good luck with your daughter.
     
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    BHR, I am sorry to hear your daughter is having issues of regression. I hope that getting her on the right track again goes as smoothly as possible. Take whatever time you need, we will be here when you are ready to come back. You are a great mom!

    Hugs
     
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    Best wishes, BHR. I'm confident that with you and your hubby giving her the attention she needs, your daughter will show more of the progress you saw before.

    ~R
     
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    hope for u the best things...see u soon i hope...good luck!:wink:
     
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    I wish you all the best in getting through this with your daughter. It really can't be easy to have to deal with. My thoughts are with you.
     
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    Lifelong special educator here -- teacher, administrator, university faculty member.

    Let me know if you need anything.
     
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    Best of luck in the most important job of your life BHR.
     
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    BHR - I wish you all the best and haven even more respect for you than I did before - This place, unfortunately, gives the impression that all men have dicks larger than 8" and that sex is more important than anything. We all have our own lives and priorities must remain with family, close friends and loved ones. You light up the room when you are there and we will miss you but your daughter's health is more deserving of that light. Looking forward to your occasional visits as always.
     
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    BHR, you know I understand completely as I have a little cousin who just turned 7 on Wednesday with Asperger's. No one with a brain would think ill of you for taking care of your bairn. Take all the time you need.

    I love ya BHR be good to the bambino and your delectable hubby.

    Be Blessed,
    njqt466
     
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