Bi-curiosity

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  1. hot97

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    What are your thought on this? Is it just a way for straight guys to experiment but maintain their straight label. Are girls the only ones who are allowed to be bi curious and still getaway with it here in the states? Is a bi curious man really gay and the only way he can accept the fact that he likes men is to call him self bi curious. I personally think EVERYONE is a little bi curious. What about you.
     
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    I definitely think there's a double-standard when it comes to guys and girls and experimenting.

    If you love women (relationships and sex) and occasionally jerk off with a dude, you're not gay. If you realize you have feelings for both then you're bi.
     
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    labels are so restrictive, we live once, don't let another person's opinion box you in, although I do agree with uncut_wonder that there's definitely a double standard in today's society. that's just the way it is, I guess. What's deemed acceptable or in-acceptable all depends on the individual. Opinions are like a**holes, everyone's got one.
     
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    I fully Agree...
     
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    i started out sayin i was bi curious after having a few relationships with girls i stated some light play with guys when i was single....jacked off with a guy, went down on a guy, and now i've been in a relationship with a guy for two years. In my opinion sex with guys is more intense then with girls...dont hold yourself back from something natural....i say if it feels good do it just as long as no one gets hurt
     
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    always been bi-curious but suppressed it until maybe 10 years ago, then i went to a swinger club bi-night with my new (at the time) wife, who is very bi, and haven't looked back since. wish i'd had the courage to try it when younger, i often think of the fun i've missed.
     
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    Im def bi-curious. I can see my self getting jacked off by a guy or going down on him but me actually having sex with one isn't appealing to me. Everyone is different!
     
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    ive wondered about a bi experience..
     
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    A mutual JO session is just great fun! Why can't guys have simple fun together?
    What guy does not dream of a blow job?
    A hand job? And more...

    Why not with another guy!
     
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    Everyone is curious, even if in reality you end up not liking it; it's just human nature.

    Our society is hellbent on labeling men as either ALL STRAIGHT or ALL GAY -- never can you be anything but one or the another. Women, on the other hand, can move all over the "sexual orientation" board all while being "believed" in her preference declarations with a good chance of never being permanently labeled (gay, straight, bi).

    I'm not real into gay sex - never was; but society would insist on labeling me just a gay man in denial for admitting certain fantasies (most I have little desire of living out).

    We are anything but a sexually sophisticated society, but rather one which is quite rudimentary in its knowledge of human sexuality. And that is a real shame, as ignorance breeds confusion, then isolation, and ultimately, fear. But don't we all want maximum sexual pleasure? Ignorance won't provide that.

    In our society, simply admitting that you don't like lesbian porn could make you a gay man.:biggrin1: It's absurd!
     
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    ok as a guy that is bi but prefers guys and Lesbians lol it is very rare that i find a female to turn me on I like them butch male or female so i stick to males but i still like females too
     
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    and for me dick felt better than pussy
     
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    I'm having a small problem with an above statement (I can see my self getting jacked off by a guy or going down on him but me actually having sex with one isn't appealing to me.) Isn't going down on a man or a man going down on you, a form of sex? I'm not being judgemental, I'm just wondering how that works.
     
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    Not a problem with that statement, Canuck. There's a familiar quote to define that... "I never had sex with that woman".
     
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    not really to me, i guess its just penetration of the anus doesn't appeal to me. I don't like the way an anus looks nor do i wanna stick my cock in one.... its just me i guess.
     
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    For me, being curious or even occasionally mm interaction sexually does not change your orientation. But, how everyone views this is different. For example, if a guy says he is straight but bi-curious it doesn't make him "less" str8. I'm curious what it would be like to fly a plane but that doesn't make me a pilot. Even if I take a few lessons and grab the stick. . .still not a pilot. I understand "labels" with two meanings. One is Just sexual. You enjoy getting off with someone of the same sex. There is some sort of physical, sexual enjoyment but not necessarily emotional connection. The other meaning is the emotional, relationship aspect of sexuality. I separate sex from love. Sex is a pleasurable physical act, nothing more. I am technically bi because I have physical, sexual attractions to women. Now, I rarely if ever have a love like emotional bond with women. This is something that I typically feel Just with men. This shifts me to self identify as gay. Even if I have sex with a women I am gay. I use the relationship based label because it is less confusing socially. I found women heard mixed signals from bi. Like there was a chance we would fall in love and marry. Not the case for me, bi means only sex.
    I tend to ignore the social stigma and fight over sex, labels, and sexuality. I think of this logically just like Any other sexual pleasure. Some people enjoy vibrators some don't, some enjoy teeth on their cock others no way. What feels good and gets you off are actions and behaviors not orientation. Orientation, at least for me, is established by emotional and social bonding. But again, my personal opinions are just That, my opinion. Everyone sees this differently and another persons label should never pigeon hole your identity.
     
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    Wow, I don't think someone could explain this topic any better. You did a really good job putting it in perspective.

    Nice pics, by the way!
     
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    I'm gay however penetration of the anus doesn't appeal to me either. It seems most straight guys equate gay sex to anal penetration ONLY, which is actually understandable, but not true. In fact I think most straight guys would be surprised at the amount of gay men who DO NOT engage in anal sex. Oral, mutual masterbation, and the various forms of frot can be just as satisfying. TRUST ME.:biggrin1:
     
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    I feel the same way as most of the people above, but I still feel pressured into maintaining a "fully straight" persona with my friends and family. I've often felt like telling some of my closest friends that not only do I find women attractive, but men too, however I can just see them now saying to my face "that's fine I fully support you" whilst secretly thinking "he must be gay".

    I think of myself as mostly straight, as I have only ever considered relationships with women, but the urge is still there to experiment with guys. Why oh why can't we all be more open and abolish the stigma around homosexuality?? It can't be too far off though...
     
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    I am BI, have always been BI since before I ever knew there was a name for it, and
    have had an exceptionally satisfying sex life with both sexes. I have been married and have had children with two women and not once while with them did I look elsewhere for satisfactions.
    I prefer to keep my being Bi a secret in real life. Why? Because BI's don't have the
    acceptance, nor the respect that today's Gays have obtained and are enjoying (although
    it is not acceptable by all people). Even Gays don't accept BIs for the most part and
    think they are just closeted Gays who do not want to come out. I would love to be able
    to tell others of my feelings (if to know was any of their business in the first place) that
    I am BI. I can't tell my best friends, nor can I tell my sons, for I'm afraid of what they
    would think or that our relationships would change.

    I have to say that Gays and BIs are not all into anal sex. I have to agree with
    Harold81, for I am not into anal either. I also believe that many Straights would
    be surprised that most Gays are not into anal either. Maybe it's just that I have not met that many
    who have shown a preference for anal...:shrug:.
    However, I do think all Gays and BIs are into oral and other means of expression.
     
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