Bi-curiosity

[killerb]

SOME men claim to be bi because they either don't want to admit to themselves or others that they're gay or they don't even want to be considered to be gay.

SOME men ARE actually attracted to both sexes and are truly bi.

ALL people should just be what they are and not worry so much about what others may think or say about them and stop pretending to be something they are not.

 

[D_Rosalind Mussell]

It looks like I'm the first female to respond here, but I am also bi-curious.

I've been bi-curious since I was 12. I never told anyone until I was in my 20's. I never acted upon and I often think about the fun I might be missing also. I approached my husband about this and he has given me his blessing to find out if I am truly bisexual or not. I definitely find myself physically attracted to women and would love to experiment with one. My problem right now is I need to finish taking off the weight, as I wouldn't be comfortable taking off my clothes for anyone right now. Once it's off I plan on going for it.

 

[D_Hammond Happydipper]

What are your thought on this? Is it just a way for straight guys to experiment but maintain their straight label. Are girls the only ones who are allowed to be bi curious and still getaway with it here in the states? Is a bi curious man really gay and the only way he can accept the fact that he likes men is to call him self bi curious. I personally think EVERYONE is a little bi curious. What about you.

Currently undecided about my sexuality.
Try again asking in a few years.

lol

 

[maxcok]

Im def bi-curious. I can see my self getting jacked off by a guy or going down on him but me actually having sex with one isn't appealing to me. Everyone is different!

I'm having a small problem with an above statement (I can see my self getting jacked off by a guy or going down on him but me actually having sex with one isn't appealing to me.) Isn't going down on a man or a man going down on you, a form of sex? I'm not being judgemental, I'm just wondering how that works.

not really to me, i guess its just penetration of the anus doesn't appeal to me. I don't like the way an anus looks nor do i wanna stick my cock in one.... its just me i guess.

Sucking cock is sex. Jacking off with another dude is sex. For that matter, jacking off by yourself is sex.

Basically, anything you do with your genitals or someone else's genitals that involves arousal and that you wouldn't do in front of your mother is more than likely sex. (Unless you have a very twisted relationship with your mother.)

Contrary to popular belief, buttfucking is not the main event of sex for many, possibly the majority, gay or bi men. Many gay or bi men never indulge in buttfuckery at all, although they generally have other sorts of man to man sex. Buttfucking, or the lack thereof, makes one no more nor no less gay or bi.

 

[416273]

I'm gay however penetration of the anus doesn't appeal to me either. It seems most straight guys equate gay sex to anal penetration ONLY, which is actually understandable, but not true. In fact I think most straight guys would be surprised at the amount of gay men who DO NOT engage in anal sex. Oral, mutual masterbation, and the various forms of frot can be just as satisfying. TRUST ME.:biggrin1:

Agreed!

 

[addy]

There are a lot of really thoughtful and informative posts here and many point out that whether someone is bi or not shouldn't matter. Which is true but it is more difficult when you are in a relationship.

If you are, for example, with a woman or a guy in a long term relationship, and with an individual that will not countenance sexual contact outside the relationship, then bisexuality can be rather difficult.

For instance, I am engaged, very much in love and really, really looking forward to spending my life with my fiance. However, she is, understandably, unable to accept me having any sexual contact with a man (although she found the idea of me with other men very erotic before we got serious). She argues it's no different to sleeping with another woman. It's cheating in her eyes and without her permission or support then it will be.

How does a bi person satisfy same sex urges in such a situation? I guess you just have to bite the bullet and give up on that side.

Thoughts on this would be appreciated.

 

[Charles Finn]

you need to find a woman that accepts all of you.
I know you love her but my experience has been that most bi married men will cheat at some point.

 

[silvertriumph2]

There are a lot of really thoughtful and informative posts here and many point out that whether someone is bi or not shouldn't matter. Which is true but it is more difficult when you are in a relationship.

If you are, for example, with a woman or a guy in a long term relationship, and with an individual that will not countenance sexual contact outside the relationship, then bisexuality can be rather difficult.

For instance, I am engaged, very much in love and really, really looking forward to spending my life with my fiance. However, she is, understandably, unable to accept me having any sexual contact with a man (although she found the idea of me with other men very erotic before we got serious). She argues it's no different to sleeping with another woman. It's cheating in her eyes and without her permission or support then it will be.

How does a bi person satisfy same sex urges in such a situation? I guess you just have to bite the bullet and give up on that side.

Thoughts on this would be appreciated.

Maybe I am a different BI, but when I am in a "committed" relationship, I am totally monogymous, and I absolutely do not fool around with anyone else. If I am in love with someone, then I am really not interested in others and I give them my full
attention in every way. Of course, I do have "urges" and I do look, for I think it is impossible to control that part, but that is all I do...look!
But, that is just me.

Yes, I think that would be a good explanation...bite the bullet.
I will say that the opposite sex urge does come upon me, so I do a bit of wanking, but that was all. That is one reason why I am here at lpsg, where some of my urges are satisfied.....where I am safe from the real thing.
I know some think it is just being lustful...and it is...but a loving, monogymous relationship is more important to me than fooling around. I will not do it. Btw...I also believe in being truthful, so my partner knows about me being here.
I guess I am just a sentimental guy who believes in being true and faithful.

 

[addy]

Maybe I am a different BI, but when I am in a "committed" relationship, I am totally monogymous, and I absolutely do not fool around with anyone else. If I am in love with someone, then I am really not interested in others and I give them my full
attention in every way. Of course, I do have "urges" and I do look, for I think it is impossible to control that part, but that is all I do...look!
But, that is just me.

Yes, I think that would be a good explanation...bite the bullet.
I will say that the opposite sex urge does come upon me, so I do a bit of wanking, but that was all. That is one reason why I am here at lpsg, where some of my urges are satisfied.....where I am safe from the real thing.
I know some think it is just being lustful...and it is...but a loving, monogymous relationship is more important to me than fooling around. I will not do it. Btw...I also believe in being truthful, so my partner knows about me being here.
I guess I am just a sentimental guy who believes in being true and faithful.

Yeah I think you just said back to me what I'm already thinking. I probably just needed to hear it from someone else. She knows, we talk about it but she also knows that I wouldn't have sex with anyone else. I was just interested in how others dealt with it and judging from your post, it is what I do - wanking and a bit of porn to help one on one's way!

 

[silvertriumph2]

Yeah I think you just said back to me what I'm already thinking. I probably just needed to hear it from someone else. She knows, we talk about it but she also knows that I wouldn't have sex with anyone else. I was just interested in how others dealt with it and judging from your post, it is what I do - wanking and a bit of porn to help one on one's way!

Good Luck.....glad you realize it IS possible...

 

[enderwiggen88]

Sucking cock is sex. Jacking off with another dude is sex. For that matter, jacking off by yourself is sex.

But, using that logic then none of us are homo or hetero. We're all asexual because we do ourselves.

Who would have thought I had something in common with a tree other than getting a bit woody in the morning!

 

[SCSea]

OK, I'll play devil's advocate, as a gay man who likes fucking women, but doesn't identify as bi, and is in a long-term relationship where fooling around is tolerated-if-not-encouraged, but dating isn't OK...

What happens when the wanking stops working? Are you honestly willing to sublimate your desire for a piece of the other side of the street for that long? Are you going to try to renegotiate the terms of the relationship? Sneak around? Get depressed? I'm not saying any one answer is right for anyone, but I don't see how knowing you're *never* going to have both "this person you love" and "the other thing you crave", at the same time, is a setup that leads to a full happy life.

 

[maxcok]

Sucking cock is sex. Jacking off with another dude is sex. For that matter, jacking off by yourself is sex.

But, using that logic then none of us are homo or hetero. We're all asexual because we do ourselves.

"asexual"? How so?? Speaking of "logic", what you're saying makes no sense.

Who would have thought I had something in common with a tree other than getting a bit woody in the morning!

Believe it or not, trees have the plant equivalent of sex organs and most definitely have sex. Pollination?

Of course the common human definition includes activities which are not strictly procreative.

 

[B_willy5904]

Forget the labels. Enjoy your partners and enjoy the sex. Why does if matter if a person is str8, bi, or gay? Let's just respect the choices that our friends make.

 

[SirConcis]

I had thought that "bi-curious" is more of a strauight guys whose curiosity is greater than comparing bodies in locker rooms and might want to see how other guys jack off etc but once that curiosity has been satisfied, would not actively pursue sex with males.

 

[hot97]

just wanted some new post on an old thread

 

[rubbernuts]

I had thought that "bi-curious" is more of a strauight guys whose curiosity is greater than comparing bodies in locker rooms and might want to see how other guys jack off etc but once that curiosity has been satisfied, would not actively pursue sex with males.

Yes I think this thread went a bit off-track. I see a distinct difference between bi and bi-curious. In my mind bi people know they enjoy sex with either gender. A bi-curious person is one who wonders what same-gender sex is all about and wants to try it some day [soon].

Once a bi-curious person has tried same-gender sex then I think they are in a position to decide if they are now straight, bi, or gay. They are no longer curious

Me? Still curious :biggrin1: