Bi guys that are not emotionally attracted to men; why is that?
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I'm very passionate with my partners regardless of gender or how they identify, but deeper emotional connections are easier for me with women. I could happily go through the good times in life with a man, but when the going gets tough and life's a bitch, I want a woman at my side. Can't explain it, it just is.
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Not a fan of this question, but I understand why it's asked -- so few people understand bi people. I am not romantically attracted to men because the idea turns me off. I have no choice in the matter, I did not decide I don't want to be romantically attracted to men one day, I am simply turned off by the idea of being with a man romantically and have no say in the matter. I wager this is no different for a gay man who has zero interest in romance with a woman.
I love me a hot, smooth or twinkish effeminate dude with a huge dick, but the idea of being romantically attached to him... nope nope nope nope does not do it for me. A hot, hung king is a fun and extremely desirable play toy, but for me when it comes to matters of the heart, only a queen will suffice.
I love me a hot, smooth or twinkish effeminate dude with a huge dick, but the idea of being romantically attached to him... nope nope nope nope does not do it for me. A hot, hung king is a fun and extremely desirable play toy, but for me when it comes to matters of the heart, only a queen will suffice.
There's less "romantic foreplay", in my experience, so it's easier to get a sexual relationship than romantic. But I've been with a guy for almost six months, during that time we fucked so well that I become very emotionally attached to him. Wasn't the same with girl, tho.
Probably the way guys are educated brings to habits that don't trigger my romantic side, dunno.
It's a good question bc this describes most of the bi (and closeted bi men) I've dealt with in life. They typically only have relationships with women like 90% of the time
Im certainly on outlier in that I have both emotional and physical attraction to both sexes. I've had more gfs but I did have a bf at one time too. I could see myself long term with someone of either gender tbh.
Im certainly on outlier in that I have both emotional and physical attraction to both sexes. I've had more gfs but I did have a bf at one time too. I could see myself long term with someone of either gender tbh.
For me, the attraction to men has always been the lack of emotional ties, just sexual. I'm a very loving, considerate person, but the only thing I want from men is sex. I have developed good friendships over the years with some of the guys I've seen on a regular basis, but that's as far as it's gone. Like a lot have said on this thread, when I initially started, I would not kiss. As time has gone on, there have been moments when it seemed like the natural thing to do and I've done it. But kissing a guy is nothing like kissing a woman for me. If I really think about it, it's the no strings attached aspect of sex with men that really turns me on.
ZERO romantic attraction to guys here. No kissing, body rubs, etc... but truly enjoy giving and receiving oral when the itch occurs!
- bi2,
Good posts.
Both myself and my partner are on the same page in regards to what we want and need and both wanting no emotionally attraction.
So when we hook up, the sex is raw, hot and charged. Our foreplay comes from organizing and arranging a time, so when the moment occurs and we meet up and are alone, it happanes straight away. No coffees, no drinks, no dinners, no small talk, my dominant Top partner, takes charge and I follow his lead as a submissive obedient bottom. I prefer and want that, he likes to and wants to only be like that, so its a win win situation for both of us.
I can be emotionally attracted to both genders, even though I can't see myself living with a guy for the moment.
I have already experienced a form of sentimental attraction for a guy, in the sense that I wanted something other than just sex with him, but also to share moments, hug him and ensure his happiness. Some might call it a bromance.
I have already experienced a form of sentimental attraction for a guy, in the sense that I wanted something other than just sex with him, but also to share moments, hug him and ensure his happiness. Some might call it a bromance.
On the other side, I've met a fair few bi guys who aren't emotionally attracted to women, yet can't get enough of pussy. I'm one of them.
- bi2,
I would say this applies to most bi guys that are more into women than guys. Personally I could never be more emotionally attracted to a guy than a woman. Thats me, Im sure many agree, Im sure many dont. Its fine to feel this way, because this is bi forum. Thats what we are.
The feeling/pleasure/getting off with a guy then departing till the next time without emotional entanglement is great.
If youre with a guy thats like this as well, I see no problem with this whatsoever.
Romantic and sexual attraction are two separate things. People think that everyone HAS to be both romantically and sexually attracted to a gender but that's incorrect.
I know gay men who are more romantically attracted to women, yet are sexually into men. But because we view sexual attraction as a sum all game they think they have to be romantically and sexually into men exclusively and it never works out for them.
I can imagine sucking each other's cocks and fucking.
But the idea of kissing a guy, cuddling, laying on a couch watching a movie with our legs intertwined, going on dates, cute little touches as we pass each other in the kitchen, etc... All those things almost make my skin crawl. I can't really explain why.
But the idea of kissing a guy, cuddling, laying on a couch watching a movie with our legs intertwined, going on dates, cute little touches as we pass each other in the kitchen, etc... All those things almost make my skin crawl. I can't really explain why.
- bi2,
Nothing at all wrong with this.
I would say most bi men that are predominantly straight feel this way.
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