This is exactly me.
My attraction to a man is based on having him totally in control over me; feel his presence and dominance. I do not mean I like to be with him as a Slave and Master or other BDSM roles. I am not that much into this.
But the men I date need to have a different form than what I have (bigger physique, older in age, Bigger Dick) and he needs to have no boundaries when it comes to sex (I know men who are not into dicks/ rimming/ some don't like kissing) and those kind of men are not my type, they turn me off. I like a man who enjoys everything about another man and has not put any walls in between.
Being attracted to a man is like a philosophical adventure that I have made in my mind. The Alpha Man and the Beta man.
With women I like to be in charge, show my own strength, I am very romantic but also wild;
If I happen to have a grander physical feature than the guy I meet (like bigger built, the bigger dick) I might engage in just an oral experience and I apologize later on. I do enjoy rimming a guy, fingering him, rubbing a dick over his ass, teasing him and all that but when it comes to going fully hard, the idea turns me off.