Damn that is hot.
Damn that is hot.
Been going to him for years and have never smelt weed on him. So didn't know if he was high from.nerves, or high not to get aroused. Sorry never smoked weed. Dilemma here. Help?[/QUOTE
If it happens again that you feel his cock against your hand or arm, just quietly say to him in a jokingly surprised manner - do you have an erection? He will either half heartedly deny it, laugh, say yeah or quick a stern no. You can answer to the first three types of replies - hey it’s ok, I have one too. Then see where it goes. The stern no, well, just say sorry but you got against my arm/hand.
Good,luck. You seem interested in him, is he hot?
Being married and closed bi comes with All sorts of complications.I'm 38, and married. No way my wife would accept that I am really wanting to experiment.
I would experiment behind her back as a one off and judge that if you will but the urge to know if I enjoy it is too strong to ignore.
Anyone have any advice on how to go about it? I'm in Berkshire, UK.
Being married and closed bi comes with All sorts of complications.
my thoughts..sorry for the length.
The biggest complication is you are not alone - you have a spouse and most likely a family with house etc... that can quickly become jeopardized. You love them and don’t want to give them up or hurt them and the life you have been living up but have this deep unending nagging lust for another man. Your super horny and want cock so bad that even jerking off only makes it stronger. Be very careful and think hard before you let your cock ruin your life. Your wife may be understanding or repulsed if you tell or she finds out but either way the trust will be broken. I think wives treat sex more as an emotional involvement then men do.
Bi men are mostly closeted. The quilt may come from a good moral upbringing where certain behaviors were conveyed as good and others socially not acceptable or manly. Religion plays a huge part in our quilt factory. Fear of others finding out and thinking one is perverted or not masculine is high on the list. You know they will wonder if you take it in the ass or give it which fuels your guilt.
Married Bi men In general have no intention of leaving their wife and moving in with a male lover. They scratch their “itch” on “dL” They want sex on the side, not an emotional involvement. Online hook up sites are easy, quick, a buffet of lust even this site has a forum for it, but sadly safety and health goes out the window all too many times for many men when their dick has needs. STD are gift you do not want to bring home to your wife. Be careful, be safe.
This post is my opinion and from my personal experience. My wife knows, doesn’t accept it, A trust was broken. I still love her more than anything but sexual not there anymore. I felt I needed to reply as some were seeking advise, others offer it both good and bad. Be honest with yourself first then be upfront with your partner. Be prepared to let the chips fall where they may. Too many live a lie.
Bi folks, really have it the hardest emotionally. Am I straight, am I gay. Where do I fit in? The guilt. Maybe I should call it fluid - sometimes straight other times gay. It can be so complicated.
Hey! Just be your real self. Be you! Took me 50 years but I am me now!
You explained it truthfully and honestly. A bi-man is truly 'a man without a country'. You can enjoy a woman, and live a life that society expects of you, but something doesn't feel quite right or complete. A man will satisfy your sexual urges, but it's an awkward set-up. Kissing, hugging, going out to dinner together are all new experiences when done with another man. It's not always comfortable. We all have to walk that line, and somehow end up comfortable in our skin. But it's not easy, that's for sure.Being married and closed bi comes with All sorts of complications.
my thoughts..sorry for the length.
The biggest complication is you are not alone - you have a spouse and most likely a family with house etc... that can quickly become jeopardized. You love them and don’t want to give them up or hurt them and the life you have been living up but have this deep unending nagging lust for another man. Your super horny and want cock so bad that even jerking off only makes it stronger. Be very careful and think hard before you let your cock ruin your life. Your wife may be understanding or repulsed if you tell or she finds out but either way the trust will be broken. I think wives treat sex more as an emotional involvement then men do.
Bi men are mostly closeted. The quilt may come from a good moral upbringing where certain behaviors were conveyed as good and others socially not acceptable or manly. Religion plays a huge part in our quilt factory. Fear of others finding out and thinking one is perverted or not masculine is high on the list. You know they will wonder if you take it in the ass or give it which fuels your guilt.
Married Bi men In general have no intention of leaving their wife and moving in with a male lover. They scratch their “itch” on “dL” They want sex on the side, not an emotional involvement. Online hook up sites are easy, quick, a buffet of lust even this site has a forum for it, but sadly safety and health goes out the window all too many times for many men when their dick has needs. STD are gift you do not want to bring home to your wife. Be careful, be safe.
This post is my opinion and from my personal experience. My wife knows, doesn’t accept it, A trust was broken. I still love her more than anything but sexual not there anymore. I felt I needed to reply as some were seeking advise, others offer it both good and bad. Be honest with yourself first then be upfront with your partner. Be prepared to let the chips fall where they may. Too many live a lie.
Bi folks, really have it the hardest emotionally. Am I straight, am I gay. Where do I fit in? The guilt. Maybe I should call it fluid - sometimes straight other times gay. It can be so complicated.
Hey! Just be your real self. Be you! Took me 50 years but I am me now!
I just want a discrete nsa hookup is that too much to ask lol
That whole ebb and flow is the toughest thing to live with. You want, need time with another guy, and then, at another point you look at yourself and say, WTF was I thinking.It's amazing the amount of judgement people have placed on the Bi married man on this site. I haven't stepped outside my marriage but the temptation is real and some days it almost like you can't be completely satisfied. Other days I can't imagine laying with a dude again at all....sometimes life can be bizarre....
Love this thread and particularly that people relate to the WTF feeling lol. Story of my life.That whole ebb and flow is the toughest thing to live with. You want, need time with another guy, and then, at another point you look at yourself and say, WTF was I thinking.
I want to hear a follow up on this barber story.... Hope it ends well... Tell us more.He did but was very uncomfortable. Chair was too low, he was high, and I didnt know how to bring up the conversation since there was no touch. So I'm going to buy one of those office handle chairs, and make that my make shift barber desk chair lol
This thread fits me well. I’m a married discrete hi guy who has a secret blowbud. Nothing sexual other than visiting his place to suck his cock. He’s also a discrete married guy. Both of us are in sexless marriages, and this definitely fills a hole on this end! Making his stiff cock throb and gush is sexually satisfying in a way that is hard to explain.
Exactly!It's amazing the amount of judgement people have placed on the Bi married man on this site. I haven't stepped outside my marriage but the temptation is real and some days it almost like you can't be completely satisfied. Other days I can't imagine laying with a dude again at all....sometimes life can be bizarre....