Okay, but isn't "hotness" relative? How can anyone look at someone else's pics (particularly those that are faceless) and come to a conclusion about whether other people would be more or less inclined to find them sexually attractive? But regardless, if this is what was meant by that comment, it seems a rather superficial and insensitive remark.
I agree. To be fair though, the men in question could have looked very different but were "hot" to each other, checkd the boxes. I would also suggest that if they smelled good, their voices (tone, accent, inflection) sounded appealing (and lets face it, there are some voices that just DO it for us and they are not always the same across a group of people as to what sounds sexy, though there does tend to be trends), and conversationaal skills (we ARE talking about a group of friends, so there had to be something there to begin with, no?)
If we take ALL of that into account ALONG WITH the visual stimulation (and keeping in mind that people have different things that appeal to them and differing orders to which sensory stimulus takes precedence over the others) then what CG was saying isn't really all that shallow. Just not as in depth as what I would have said (and did!, lol):biggrin1::tongue:
If there was that latent attraction (and remember,attraction is NOT always sexual, though elements of non sexual attraction can impact sexual attraction and help define it), then with a inhibition lowering element, like alcohol, along with plausible deniability ("I was soooo wasted, I don't remember a THING!" *nudge nudge, wink wink*), it is not really that surprising that something like this could occur. Again, I would not say that an incident (or a couple) in and of themselves make a person bi. The reaction to such (do they want to do it again? Are those feeling present in the un-inibrated state? DO they look forward t getting srunk in hopes it will happen again?) that would make the bi (or somewhere on the NON-100% range, which is a very large spread!)
Hope this makes as much sense as it did in my head! LOL
Of course Ideally we wouldn't stress on percentages, labels or such. Then agian, in an ideal world, we would be honest with ourselves and our loved ones without fear of repercussions to the possibility of being anything other than 100% straight (or gay or bi). We would acknowledge the validity of changes in our sexuality and accept others identities as valid and honest, without arguing ove the minutiae of details regarding what it all means, and "but you said you liked...and now you are doing..."
Well, one can dream:redface: