Are you looking for a "white" woman or are you looking for the "right" woman? The white men in the women's families you have been dating want to see their daughter, sisters, etc., marry white men so that they can procreate the white race. It seems that they are proud of their race and you are not, and because you have such low self esteem about your own race and identity, you have come to revere the white race. All will be right if I can just get me a white girl, you might think. If you date/marry a white woman, you STILL have to deal with the fact that racism exists and that you are a black man in the world. All your problems do not go away. Grow up and love thyself. Have you tried a nice Jamaican girl?
Bi racial relationships, is it even worth trying ?
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If it is really love, love whomever you want regardless of their race. Targeting people to date/marry based upon race is indicative of an underlying issue, perhaps, of racial inferiority (low self-esteem) among some people who NEED something to show that they have or are trying to MOVE-UP in the world instead of getting an education, starting a business or creating real wealth.
Well i'm white and i'm married to a Filippina and I could care less what my family thought about when I choose to marry her. they either accept her or not and if they don't well I guess I won't ever be talking to them agian.
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Awwww, breakin' my wittle bitty heart now. :tongue:Smart! :biggrin1:
I don't see those kinds of relationships that much around my area. Kind of surprising when you think about it.
Principessa
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It's not that common to see a black woman with a white man in the states either. It's much more common to see a black man with a white female.
If biracial relationships aren't worth trying, then half-and-halves like me would cease to exist. Total brown dude here. Greek mom and Black dad.
My mom told me stories about even at a relatively socially accepting military base, that she could encounter people in the neighboring outskirts that had grief with a white mom trotting her brown child around. Even my mom's best friend (and how quickly that ended!) gave her grief. If anything, it cemented a really simple idea: if you love somebody and accept them as they are, then skin color, culture, background, these things are no the litmus testing.
I think if you care for someone, then the public opinion of others shouldn't matter. You just go with what feels good.
I am thankful. I have only had one girlfriend for whom my race was a problem, and looking back, the hills of Kentucky wouldn't surprise me one jot. The idea that parents would "disown" a kid over skin color. I remember stating rather plainly, "Hey, funny how you didn't have a problem with me even after hearing me speak" since I don't sound hood, "until she compared me to Martin Lawrence." I hung up the phone.
I'm not gonna lie. The only race-dating issue that bothers me is hearing justifications for people saying things like "I'm not into black guys," "I'm not into Asians," etc., then insist that they are not discriminating. Even after reading Hope in a Jar and getting familiarized with the ubiquity of white skin in modeling and the beauty standard, that's just one set of mental acrobatics I can't get around.
My mom told me stories about even at a relatively socially accepting military base, that she could encounter people in the neighboring outskirts that had grief with a white mom trotting her brown child around. Even my mom's best friend (and how quickly that ended!) gave her grief. If anything, it cemented a really simple idea: if you love somebody and accept them as they are, then skin color, culture, background, these things are no the litmus testing.
I think if you care for someone, then the public opinion of others shouldn't matter. You just go with what feels good.
I am thankful. I have only had one girlfriend for whom my race was a problem, and looking back, the hills of Kentucky wouldn't surprise me one jot. The idea that parents would "disown" a kid over skin color. I remember stating rather plainly, "Hey, funny how you didn't have a problem with me even after hearing me speak" since I don't sound hood, "until she compared me to Martin Lawrence." I hung up the phone.
I'm not gonna lie. The only race-dating issue that bothers me is hearing justifications for people saying things like "I'm not into black guys," "I'm not into Asians," etc., then insist that they are not discriminating. Even after reading Hope in a Jar and getting familiarized with the ubiquity of white skin in modeling and the beauty standard, that's just one set of mental acrobatics I can't get around.
Jamaican is not a race its a nationality, maybe she likes black guys but not jamaican guys? Maybe there are negetive stereotypes about jamaica in the U.S. I don't know, maybe she just wanted your dick but not you as a person.
Of course worth trying just be careful you don't get the bug. I tried asian once and then for a while got addicted to them with maybe three of next four gf's being asian. Then "went black" and got really, really hooked on black women. Actually, ten years since the first black women are just about only thing that really catches my eye.
Only one caveat from my experiences: In the beginning the "us against the world" stuff brings the two together... "our love is not accepted" nonsense but good for bonding... just be careful that this is not the only bond being developed. I am blond and first black lady lucky enough to have as a gf was pure African, oh my sweet goodness so wonderfully dark, and of course we got noticed but after a while I stopped noticing any odd or intriqued looks. Anyway, I feel for her due to fact that we just clicked so enjoyed it for a few years and was fortunate that there was more to relationship than our external differences that apparently initially brought us together.
Only one caveat from my experiences: In the beginning the "us against the world" stuff brings the two together... "our love is not accepted" nonsense but good for bonding... just be careful that this is not the only bond being developed. I am blond and first black lady lucky enough to have as a gf was pure African, oh my sweet goodness so wonderfully dark, and of course we got noticed but after a while I stopped noticing any odd or intriqued looks. Anyway, I feel for her due to fact that we just clicked so enjoyed it for a few years and was fortunate that there was more to relationship than our external differences that apparently initially brought us together.
