Originally posted by Sorcerer@Sep 25 2005, 11:07 PM
That's why I put 1% straight in my profile. In reality it depends on the day of the week. It's not fair for a man to get together with a woman without being honest. I've met plenty of women who knew and wanted me anyway. The ones I didn't tell got huge resentments (I was very young). You brought up a good point with not wanting to be a stepping stone. I think many guys don't do it consciously. Many are blindly stumbling down the path of life. My ex-girlfriend is attracted to sensitive pretty boys and surprise...many of her boyfriends after me turned out to be gay. As I said before, I hate labels. I've been called on the carpet many times for my sexual proclivities. Many people are uncomfortable if a person can't be compartmentalized.
Yeah, that is the rub. I also like sensitive pretty boys sometimes, and not all of them are gay or questioning. It's just that the ones who are often are not aware of it themselves. Sexual proclivities are not the problem, self-awareness is. I believe a person should be free to experiment in whatever way they feel is of interest, but not being open to talking about these things with your partners is what gives people the wrong impression of what the relationship is about. I'd have NO problem having sex with a guy who wasn't sure where he stood, but please don't try to make me fall in love, and then make me feel bad for wanting sex! It's absurd.
As far as a gay man being attracted to a woman with big tits and a strong personality, it's probably more hero worship than a desire for a sexual encounter. Many gay men want secretly want to be a strong woman with big tits.
Lordy, don't I know it! (Why don't they?)
Remember the Kinsey Scale. I wholeheartedly believe it applies. Those who are a Pure Kinsey 1 or a 6 exist, the rest of us are somewhere in the middle. Many times I've been told that I'm 100% gay and in denial. My experience and preferences are mine and mine alone. I believe the phrase "don't judge me unless you've walked a mile in my shoes" applies. Also Jana, as my sponsor always said "you can do whatever you want in sobriety as long as you don't hurt another person".
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Your sponsor is very wise, I try to remember that myself these days. This is not a gay/straight issue, I find way too many people not being honest about who they are and what they want in a lot of areas pertaining to relationships. What a total drag.
How can you be in denial if you're doing what you WANT to do? As long as you're not forcing yourself into society's molds to conform to ideals that don't fit, you are being yourself. So you're a little hetero on certain days, who really gives a fuck? As long as it's YOUR desire and not a desire to make yourself be normal, it's just you, beautiful and perfect as you are.