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Javierdude22: I feel like sharing. I didn't realise how fast listening to Sarah Mclachlan for half an hour could draw me back to the internetcafe.
As most of you know, I am Bi. I have issues with it, eversince I realised...well...that it wasn't gonna go away. My problem though, maybe naive, is that I don't have the fisr clue as to why I am bi.
I'll explain.
Evercince I was 13 or so, I was slowly getting interested in...ya know, guys. Very unconsciously though. I still asked girls out, etc. I remember very vividly falling in love with not too many girls, but if I fell in love with them it was intense, and real.
When I was 18, I hadn't had sex with girls yet, and started to realise I might get some serious problems with this dude-thing. After a long period of not falling in love though, I fell high over heels for a girl in my class. She liked me very much, but I was so nervous that I couldn't act on it. In the meantime I can honestly say it was the happiest time of my life that I know of. I enjoyed every second I spent with her, but because I never acted upon it, when it was time to go to college, we lost track of eachother.
I still remember saying to myself back then, that if I could get with this girl, she might actually be able to draw me away from all that bi stuff. I still give myself a hard time over having let her slip away.
I had a hard time get over the fact I let her slip away, and didnt involve myself with anyone for over two years. In the meantime however, this dude thing got stronger.
I had sex with girls in the meantime though, but was always very nervous, and in all honesty, I enjoy it more with my own gender. However, I am emotionally totally inapt to sustain something with a guy. It is somehow purely physical. Maybe my mind doesn't allow me to be happy about it, could be. I still feel a lot for girls, mostly in the emotional areas, sexually she would have to be véry attractive for me to act upon it.
I'm trying to mold this into a question, but it's hard.
Basically, I don't get it how I can fall in love with girls, high over heels, but feel less sexual attraction than with guys, a lot less. At the same time, any emotional bonds with a dude for me is out of the question, consciously, but unconsciously even stronger.
How can this be? Does anyone have an explanation for this? Has anyone on the board experienced the same?
Thanx y'all..
Javier
As most of you know, I am Bi. I have issues with it, eversince I realised...well...that it wasn't gonna go away. My problem though, maybe naive, is that I don't have the fisr clue as to why I am bi.
I'll explain.
Evercince I was 13 or so, I was slowly getting interested in...ya know, guys. Very unconsciously though. I still asked girls out, etc. I remember very vividly falling in love with not too many girls, but if I fell in love with them it was intense, and real.
When I was 18, I hadn't had sex with girls yet, and started to realise I might get some serious problems with this dude-thing. After a long period of not falling in love though, I fell high over heels for a girl in my class. She liked me very much, but I was so nervous that I couldn't act on it. In the meantime I can honestly say it was the happiest time of my life that I know of. I enjoyed every second I spent with her, but because I never acted upon it, when it was time to go to college, we lost track of eachother.
I still remember saying to myself back then, that if I could get with this girl, she might actually be able to draw me away from all that bi stuff. I still give myself a hard time over having let her slip away.
I had a hard time get over the fact I let her slip away, and didnt involve myself with anyone for over two years. In the meantime however, this dude thing got stronger.
I had sex with girls in the meantime though, but was always very nervous, and in all honesty, I enjoy it more with my own gender. However, I am emotionally totally inapt to sustain something with a guy. It is somehow purely physical. Maybe my mind doesn't allow me to be happy about it, could be. I still feel a lot for girls, mostly in the emotional areas, sexually she would have to be véry attractive for me to act upon it.
I'm trying to mold this into a question, but it's hard.
Basically, I don't get it how I can fall in love with girls, high over heels, but feel less sexual attraction than with guys, a lot less. At the same time, any emotional bonds with a dude for me is out of the question, consciously, but unconsciously even stronger.
How can this be? Does anyone have an explanation for this? Has anyone on the board experienced the same?
Thanx y'all..
Javier