Big age gap relationships

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Why is it that it is so much more common for gay relationships to have big age gaps compared to straight couples? Personally, i´ve always fancied older men and i´ve only been with guys way older than me. I find them not only more physically attractive but I guess i also assume they must be more skilled in bed. Youngest one i´ve been with was 24. He was hot af, nice, attentive and a ver good top too, but compared to other, older men... they have pleased me more and have helped me expand my sexual horizons in terms of kinks and such.
So, do guys here share similar opinions? Are you into way older guys? Do you have an age limit? What´s the oldest you´ve been with? Do you think that it is normal or okay for young, barely-legal guys to date or have sex with older men? What´s you guys´ opinions?
 

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When I was 20, I dated a guy 20 years older than me. What I learned from this is the more mature partner could end up carrying a heavier emotional load in the relationship, leading to exhaustion and potentially a breakup. I was young; I did not see this, so it all ended after a couple of years. In my experience, the more significant the gap between partners, the more likely the relationship will struggle. But this is not always the case. I am sure there are a lot of successful stories out there :)
 

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While I admit that young(er) men are cute/hot, I can't imagine anything more than a casual hookup (not that that's going to happen). What? We go out to dinner and the waitress says, "And what can I get for your grandson?"? No thanks.
 
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I wish I was more amenable to being in an age gap relationship. I love older men a lot and find them more patient, sexy, and mature, and I relate to them a lot more than most men my age. But I worry that should I meet an older man that I like and want to introduce to my family, I'm going to be met with a lot of pearl-clutching and skepticism about my partner as opposed to being welcoming. It doesn't help that I'm the kind of person who's very vulnerable to shame in the first place. I know that they just worry, and I know that if I really think an older man is someone who would make me happy I need to just be unashamed and unconcerned with what my family thinks, but to a certain degree I just can't help it. I guess the next best thing would be to date a man close to my age, and with time see him become the daddy of my dreams, but I don't want to feel like I'm compromising by doing that.
 

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I wish I was more amenable to being in an age gap relationship. I love older men a lot and find them more patient, sexy, and mature, and I relate to them a lot more than most men my age. But I worry that should I meet an older man that I like and want to introduce to my family, I'm going to be met with a lot of pearl-clutching and skepticism about my partner as opposed to being welcoming. It doesn't help that I'm the kind of person who's very vulnerable to shame in the first place. I know that they just worry, and I know that if I really think an older man is someone who would make me happy I need to just be unashamed and unconcerned with what my family thinks, but to a certain degree I just can't help it. I guess the next best thing would be to date a man close to my age, and with time see him become the daddy of my dreams, but I don't want to feel like I'm compromising by doing that.
I get what you say. Personally, i´ve never been one to care what my family says about my sexuality. I have never dated a guy, so I have never had to introduce them to anyone, but even if i dated a guy, regardles of their age, I wouldn´t bother to introduce him to my family