"Big Dick Attitude"

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  1. B_Hickboy

    B_Hickboy New Member

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    My ex-gf said I had it. I asked her what it consisted of and she said it was mostly about acting like I had nothing to prove to anybody.

    I thanked her, but I still scratch my head about what it means to have "big dick attitude."

    What does it mean?
     
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    I think it's just a subtle confidence thing. A few years ago I was fretting about some work deadlines, and my wife said, "Don't worry, you'll be fine. You have a big penis."

    It was kind of a throwaway line but I got the message.
     
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    I have the "nothing to prove" tude, but that doesn't mean i have a big cock. I think yer just tryin to show off :p
     
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    I don't really understand how having a "I have nothing to prove attitude" (read: confidence) has anything to do with cock size. I can see how, for some people, being well endowed would lend itself to that kind of confidence, but I don't see the two as being necessarily interconnected. The hard thing about having confidence is that so much of the population is so nsecure that they tend to place "negative" labels on you (A confident person) such as arrogant, conceited, aloof, etc. as a result of not being able to understand from where you drawn your own inner strength (and being secretly envious of it). Don't worry about it, dude.
     
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    as I point out whenever anyone accuses me of it: it ain't arrogance when it's justified.
     
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    Hi there-

    Never thought I'd ever say that, but I agree with you here. Some bragging is allowed as long as you're able to back it up, though people might not like it.

    I have never heard of the term "Big Dick Attitude" myself, but from myself I can relate that being somewhat bigger down there changes your attitude towards things and can give you a confidence boost (not with everyone, as I've learned on here) that mostly breaks its way with me when I'm one among several flirters for the same lady.

    Bruce
     
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    being somewhat bigger down there changes your attitude towards things and can give you a confidence boost when I'm one among several flirters for the same lady.

    Bruce
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    That sounds kind of like a pack of dogs Bruce. LOL...

    That aside, How do you know that it's your big cock that's giving you confidence.
    You've never had a small cock, have you?

    I think it's more of a total package thing. You're a stud, no doubt. Great bod.
    Great looks. You seem well adjusted. Add the big schlong and you're golden.

    I think confidence is built up over the years by successes in life.
    You were probably praised by your parents. You were probably praised for being good at sports. And yes, you are probably praised for your big dick too.

    As you should be!! ( justified arrogance is what the Dr. calls it I think)
     
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    This is a major part of it, but Erica Jong once wrote that a man can't really trust anything unless he trusts his cock. She was referring to a man's ability to get it up consistently, but I think it applies to size as well. Knowing that one can "trust" that all that size brings will happen gives one a better sense of being able to trust the world in general. It is subtle, and below the radar, but it is still there.
     
  9. BruceSter

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    Hi Eb-


    Men can be more animals than one thinks - the patterns of alpha dogs and followers occurr in nature as well as among humans. And I definetly feel better being the top dog.

    My confidence has never been the weakest, but the growth spurts my dick made gave me some extra, as I mentioned above, especially regarding lady affairs. So, it might not completely come from my cock, but that might play an important role nonetheless.

    Thanks.

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    I think confidence is built up over the years by successes in life.
    You were probably praised by your parents. You were probably praised for being good at sports. And yes, you are probably praised for your big dick too.

    As you should be&#33;&#33; ( justified arrogance is what the Dr. calls it I think)
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    That explanation fails. I wasn&#39;t praised a lot - I was doing pretty badly in school, graduated more by pity and annoyance than by good performance. My private life was a shambles, and my school life was marked by a few successes that I usually cold eclipse by my attitude. I switched from football to boxing because my agressive attitude towards other guys didn&#39;t make me very popular - so, there were little successful events that could have improved my confidence. But yes, a lot of girls and women praised me for that thing between my legs. Maybe that&#39;s where my cock confidence comes from.

    Bruce
     
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    i am 52 years old. i was given average sized equipment at birth. as an adult, i guess i was hung hard 6x5 (average).
    i saw some pics of a gay porn star named Scott Taylot pumping his dick and man it was HUGE. i thought &#39;if he can do it, so can i". so i bought some pumping gear and began to pump my cock, and after 15 years of doing that, started pumping my balls.
    now i hang soft 6x6 and can pump my meat to 8x8 (or larger). my balls get to be the size of oranges.
    my confidence has gotten much greater because of the positive reinforcement i have gotten from sex partners and from the casual comment/encounter in non-sexual situations like a locker room.
    i have found (and this is my personal opinion and not meant to imply all men might feel this way) that this &#39;big dick attitude&#39; i now have has crossed over into other areas and i have a greater overall confidence and approach to people and things.
    it is sutble, but it is there, if only in my own head. i dont think people i encounter regard me as having an &#39;attitude&#39; of any kind. but i approach my life a little more confidently because of my big dick. just as , i would imagine, a bodybuilder feels more confident because of his big muscles, or a highly educated person feels confident because of his knowledge.
     
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    Whether big cocked or not, I think it really boils down to being about your/our presence and carriage and interpersonal communications as a result of being secure and well adjusted masculine males. It’s confidence and security about ourselves, more than cock size.
     
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    Couldn&#39;t have said it better - it&#39;s something that makes you secure and tells you that you are (at a very high probability) better hung where men think it counts, and therefor influences your way of acting. It assures you when you talk to and/or flirt with women - especially women who are a above average in their looks too. Or, to cut it short, it makes you more self-assured in your appearance.

    Bruce
     
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    I don&#39;t know guys. Women make up all kind of theories about guys that really are not validated. This big dick attitude is certainly one of them.

    There certainly are guys that have big dicks with attitudes to match, but there are also guys with big dicks and low self confidence. So that alone refutes the stereotype.

    But since we are talking about stereotypes, which is always a hazy no logic kind of place, yes generally if you have big dick you generally have more confidence. But does it stem from you having a big dick. I&#39;m not so sure.

    I am average, however I have plenty of confidence, that was not so when I was younger, and depending on how my life moves along, it might not be true in the future. But I can tell you one thing for sure, it is nowhere near dependant on the size of my dick.

    However if I had a 4 inch penis, I&#39;m sure I would think differently. So I guess the size of one cock does make a difference, but I think once we find things of real value in our lives that create confidence, we never rely on our penis to give it to us. In this respect, I feel pretty bad for those men who do rely on their large penis for the only self confidence they have.
     
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    I&#39;ve met some of each- men who were more confidant because of the size of their dicks, men who were embarassed and perhaps more shy because of it, and even a few who didn&#39;t know they were unusual. I think it&#39;s fair to say that it improves confidence for some, but any time a sweeping generalisation is made, it is sure to be wrong for someone.
     
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    I think your ex-gf said it very well indeed. Ponder her words for she presumably knows you.
     
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    My confidence came from my academic abilities when I was in school. Somewhere along the way I found out that I really could chart my own course and make a happy life for myself. I never really aspired to be the best at anything except to be the most loving person I could become.

    I have religious faith, too. I guess some of my confidence comes from there as well.

    I dunno. I don&#39;t think it comes from any physical trait. I just believe that good things tend to happen to me in the long run and I try to share my happiness and contentment with those around me. I know a lot of people who have similar attitudes, and some of them are female.
     
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    Am I like, the only one who thinks it&#39;s sad that some people get their confidence from cock size? Like, last I checked, there&#39;s so much more to a person than size, and I thought some of you here would understand that better?
     
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    WOW Nixy, sounds like you&#39;re getting a little judgemental there bud.
    If someone gains confidence from something it&#39;s not sad at all.
    Confidence is a good thing last time I checked.

    What&#39;s the problem with having confidence in yourself because of the way you look or the way you feel about certain aspects of your body? No matter what they are?
     
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    note that I didn&#39;t say what I considered justification :)
     
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    I have heard that before. I have met some hung guys who tend to be a bit arrogant. I tend to think it has less to do with their dick than just being arrogant or confident guys in general.
     
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