Big penis and a guy's confidence

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  1. lovembig68

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    Ladies.............from your experience with different types of men, including short, medium, and tall guys, etc., do you believe there is a strong correlation between a guy's initial confidence and his penis size. I say initial because eventually you will discover a reason he lacks confidence somewhere in his life. But a guy who is 8+ and/or very thick isn't as sexually shy as a guy 6 inches or less or very slim cock. so bottom line: Big cock = big confidence?????
     
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    Not true at all. I've met some guys with larger than average cocks that are as shy as can be and won't even approach a girl. Conversely I've also met some men with smaller than average cocks that think they are God's gift to all women and that everyone should want them.
     
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    definitely a correlation when it comes to guys hitting on u, they know what u want and they know they can give it to u. i think thats why confidence is a turn on. sure there are guys who talk a big game and are totally full of shit but u can usually spot them from a mile away, and im sure there are some guys who are totally insecure and have huge dicks but once enough woman tell them how amazing they are there confidence level will go up
     
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    Well, I'm often told I'm one of the shyest people in my group I'm normally around. And I'm a member here. So yeah. Not always true that large cocks = large confidence.
     
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    What? :confused:

    Sexual confidence does not equal social confidence btw, thought that was obvious? That fact that someone will or won't talk to you has nothing to do with their penis size. :rolleyes:
     
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    Can a small penis lead to low self confidence?
    Feelings of insecurity and andinadequacy?
    Answer that and you've answered your question.
     
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    I think that a big dick is more closely related to cockiness not confidence. Those two terms are often confused...There are a whole lot of big guys that are a "wham bam type" than those that can go for a hour and turn a woman "inside out"
     
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    I don't think someone being reserved and quiet has to do with confidence though.. some people are just more reserved.. I myself am that way and I am packin some serious heat. :D I can be shy or out-going depending on my mood.

    But also.. Keep in mind that being hugely endowed isn't always as great as you might think it is.. when I was younger I was traumatized because of girls reactions to my size and got a lot of jealousy from guys too.

    Also, I have noticed that I am more reserved around different kinds of women.. I think this is because of the reputation I had growing up I attracted certain types of girls.. and I think a lot of girls wouldn't date me because of my reputation and because they didn't want to be viewed as some just into me because of my size.
     
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    I think this question needs focus. At what specific point is confidence needed? To elaborate, is confidence needed when an initial conversation is struck, or when a conversation about sex comes up or about the point where sex will take place? As a male with an average penis, I believe my confidence changes in each specific scenerio. I believe that I can have a good conversation and could be found charming, witty, interesting, etc to the right person, but when it comes down to trying to sleep with a woman, I most of the time have little to no self confidence. I am too hung up in size to feel good about my odds of pleasing another woman so I tend to be really shy.
     
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    Yes, of course it can. The stereotypical big house, big dogs, 2+ tonne SUV etc ect all scream 'small penis'. Like many stereotypes, there is an underlying truth.

    We men are the product of almost 2 million years of evolution, where a big part of that time was to have sex with as many women as possible. To think that a few thousand years of civilisation has somehow 'tamed' our near-obsessive sex drive is delusional. Of course men are sexual, we typically run on a two or three day cycle. Of couse men are obsessed about more and better and bigger when it comes to sex. And of course men are insecure when they see big cocks and bigger cocks in porn, and think about her previous partners and how big they might have been, and now that they're married they don't get sex at all and they wonder that if they were bigger they would still be getting lots of sex. In the latter case, this seems to be the case, and bigger men typically have more sex partners in their lifetimes, and they typically get more relationship sex when settled down. And maybe those partners and the current partner pick up on his sexual self-confidence, and are attracted to it and aroused by it.
     
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    For what it's worth, I'm above average and yet I'm very very shy and never approach women. But I guess that has to do with social confidence, as AlphaMale noted. BTW not that I'm an idiot or a freak or someone who can't have a conversation. I'm just shy and lack self confidence.
    However, when it comes to sex, I mean if I'm already at the point with a woman in which she obviously likes me and want me, I have a pretty high self confidence about knowing how to do the right things to please her. Not just because of my size, but also because I actually care about it and have the right attitude towards sex.
    But I do believe that if I had below average sized cock it would definitely have a negative effect on my sexual confidence as well.
     
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    Yep exactly, I'm not sure if women realize it but most the time they are caught up in endless, nonsensical conversation with the small-dicked dbag guy... and they never give anyone else a chance to approach them for conversation cause they are all over the loser guy's nuts.

    I'm a very talkative person, and I talk to everyone: guys, girls, fat, short, ugly, tall, etc... and a lot of times I see a hot girl talking to some dbag guy and I'm wondering to myself, "I bet all this would change if she knew I had a handsome face, muscles, money, and big dick... but alas she'll never give me the chance to let her know that because even though we have on clothes now she's practically got the dick of the guy she talking to in her mouth right now." Any respectable guy is not going to wisp away good girls from small-dicked bad guys, we are going to see that you are showing the loser all your time and and attention and we aren't going to bother taking the time to try to get to know YOU! :rolleyes:
     
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    AlphaMale, I sense a lot of hostility! Women don't always want looks, muscles, money, and big dicks you know. Everyone is different. Don't take it personally. How come all the bad guys you mention have small dicks? I found that pretty interesting. Like intrinsically having the smaller dick makes you less. Correct me if I am wrong.
     
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    yeah it's true. there's an extra "I will pull out my dick and make you run back to your hole" attuide
     
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    I believe if your ONLY asset is your penis, or your finances, or your physique, then you are just a loser in denial.

    Confidence is not about being the best, it's about how you respond when you fail.

    I'm not my job, my finances, or my penis. I'm the first last and only me that'll ever exist. Ever.

    If people can't handle it, well they wouldn't be the first to kill themselves over it.
     
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    You are correct in saying that all women don't want looks, muscles, money and a big dick... but I don't really consider those 'bad traits' per se and a person wouldn't inherently dislike a guy simply because on the outside it looked like he had looks, muscles, money and a big dick - well some people for whatever reason do, and that's all I was hinting at as far as that goes. I don't think penis size has anything to do with someone being 'greater or lesser' per se.

    I'm also saying that the guys that run around saying, "Hey baby, I'm so great in bed... I get tons of girls" or "Hey baby let me get your number" in the first 10 seconds they meet, or "Hey Hottie, check out my spikey hair, cheesy appearance, bad tattoos so come bang me" etc. ARE ALL TERRIBLE IN BED!

    Those are some of the #1 indicators for being bad in bed and/or having a small dick - take it from me, I'm a guy: I know these people and their bad 'player' tactics... they are my friends unfortunately. I'm more frustrated with the seemingly 'good girls' who can't see through all these fake bad guys is all. :rolleyes:

    Yeah I totally agree with you as well and I hope no one thought I was saying anything different than what you've said. A lame duck personality can never be made up for.
     
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    Well naming yourself "Apha" probably biases people opinion of you I'm afraid. Frankly I find everything amusing, if only in hindsight, so if I was in your shoes, I'd laugh at people goofing up, rather than taking offense.

    Then again, I'm an Omega Male. I reserve the right to screw people up literally and figuratively. :tongue:
     
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    Not at all. I've known some men that didn't even realize their size till I convinced them of it and continued to have shitty self esteem after the fact. Or guys that had loads of confidence despite being average at best below the waistline.
     
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    My confidence did not go up after a couple girls told me how great my dick was and I started to read up on penis size and how I blessed I was in the middle. I just became more and more confident as I got older and began to mature after high school.
     
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    I'm shy
     
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