Big penis but small self confidence

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Fortune favors the bold.

these four words interested me when I heard them and completely fucking changed it for the better when actually implemented, especially with women.
hmm i guess it'll take some time for me to learn/apply that :D
Does anyone have tips for me how to tell if a girl is interested in me?
 

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hmm i guess it'll take some time for me to learn/apply that :D
Does anyone have tips for me how to tell if a girl is interested in me?


TALK TO HER.

Seriously, you can't tell any other way. "Fumbling with her hair or giving you long looks..", is not a way to tell if she's interested. You need to talk to them to see if they seem interested in talking to you.

There's nothing for you to lose. Rejection isn't that bad. Just like you don't like everyone, everyone doesn't like you. To rely on "I want them to approch me.." will have you in for a long wait.
 

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You want to be a great lover or just the guy with a big dick? Take your penis size out of the equation. For most women it's simply a bonus. Learn how to treat women outside the bedroom and that will spill into how you treat them in the bedroom. So what, you have a big dick. There are a shit load of guys out there with big dicks who are saddled up with unsatisfied women. Sex is 80% mental (emotions), 15% physical chemistry, and 5% size. Sex is easy. One end goes into the other. Making love...well that's another story. Women know you can fuck them, but I suggest you learn how to make love to their mind. Leave an imprint so deep they smell your pheromones when you're not there. And it does not take a big dick to do that. It takes patience, attention to detail and stamina. You tell a woman how big your dick is and you come off cocky. Which says to her it's all about you. Making you a selfish lover. Make it all about her. As far as the confidence goes (or the lack there of), no one on this site is going to be able to build that for you. You know what you want. Go for it. It may take you ten NO's before you get a YES, but it's worth it. Just be ready for what happens next. Oh yeah, and wrap up. You don't want your first time to produce an unwanted bouncing baby boy/girl.
 

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woah that sucks :D But i'll try to do it.

Anyway i have signed up for online dating now. Will women there acutally contact me if they like my profile or do i have to contact them?

You need to contact them. In my experience with online dating, women are so bombarded with messages that they don't have TIME to go looking at profiles themselves.

Good luck.
 

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You need to contact them. In my experience with online dating, women are so bombarded with messages that they don't have TIME to go looking at profiles themselves.

Good luck.
Actually i saw that some women viewed my profile but didn't leave a message.
So i was wondering if they expect me to contact them when they see they viewed my profile or if they just aren't interested.
 

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Actually i saw that some women viewed my profile but didn't leave a message.
So i was wondering if they expect me to contact them when they see they viewed my profile or if they just aren't interested.

On my site the home page will show random profiles. If the one that comes up interests me, I might go and look at it, but I won't leave a message because I just don't have time to add more contacts. I have more than enough as it is.

So contact the ones you're interested in, whether they've viewed your profile or not. Make sure you say something more interesting than just 'Hi, how are you?'. It's even better if you can say something personal - why did you find their profile interesting out of all the ones you've looked at?
 

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I'm pretty similar. I'm tall, shy, and don't have the most self confidence in the world. I'm 24 and a virgin. The worst part is women have always found me attractive yet I'm still a virgin an insanely inexperienced compared to peers. I have social anxiety so it's really hard to feel confident when you're anxious in most social situations.

Unlike some have said on this thread, it won't "just happen". Not for us shy people. We have to work at it and make it happen. We tend to avoid social situations were not comfortable with, like talking to random women.

Definitely try online dating. I had never gone on a real date until I was close to 23 and tried online dating. Been out with a bunch of women now. And just force yourself to talk to women out in public, even if you're not interested in them.

I'm working on all these things as we speak. It definitely helps, but it can still be frustrating.
 

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Take one day at a time, you're doing fine. There's no need to rush because you're still young. Now, if you were 50 or 60, I'd say, "hey, you'd better get down to business!" Remember, be a good listener, eye contact is important, and show some facial expressions -- like you're interested. Don't sit like a statue and have nothing to contribute to the conversation.

Always focus on the other person; people love that, and not yourself. Women will remember you because you stand out; unlike some of the men that met and have forgotten. Good luck!
 

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Other people have said it but here it is straightforward: keep your size to yourself. Seriously, nobody needs to know, and those that do will find out in due time.

You sound almost exactly like my husband in that he thought that women would be afraid of him. That's quite silly, actually. I mean some will if you scare them, but the ones that count will not.

I actually was not aware of my husband's size until later. I was going to say "until it was too late," but you know what I mean! LOL!

No, seriously, your size is that last thing that anybody needs to know. That's not the worm on the hook that women are looking for. Your personality, ease of conversation and just being a genuine person will attract the right one.

Nineteen is kind of a fragile age. You're thinking "Oh my, I'm going to be 20 and I've never been with a woman!" Sounds like a travesty in this day and age, but I find it quite endearing.

Just be yourself and keep being nice.
 

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Hi,
I have a rather big dick (around 8.5 x 7) but i'm having really trouble actually finding a girl to fuck. I'm 19 now and still a virgin (no girl ever saw my dick) but i've been in some relationships. My problem is that i'm really shy and don't have too much self confidence talking to girls. I wouldn't consider myself ugly, i'm 6.5" tall and around 185lbs. I really wanna have sex with a girl but i can't just walk to them and tell them about my size and i'm rather too shy to talk to them directly/normally at a party or so. I am also kind of a nerd (studying computer science related stuff at college) which lowers my self confidence even more.
Can anyone give me tips on how to overcome my problems and actually pick up women? :biggrin1:

P.S.: If anyone wanna see a pic of my dick feel free to ask

You never know what women want. I have a female family member all of my friends think is a 10/10. She exclusively dates "nerds" without inflated egos. Dont let what you are studying and what you enjoy doing be a source of insecurity.

Everyone is telling you to be confident. I agree, but dont confuse cockiness with confidence. If you are just looking for a fuck, being an arrogant dickhead might work. You already seem somewhat modest, so if you want to find someone to date keep some of your modesty and niceness and just be a little more confident (sorry if I'm making this sound too confusing).
 

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Just a small update on the situation:
Getting laid online is easier than ordering a pizza!
First i signed up at a normal online dating site and even had a date with a girl but it didn't went too well because we didn't have much in common to talk about.
So i signed up for "sex online dating", posted some pics of my dick and got literally flooded with offers from couples who wanted to fuck. I even got invited to a swinger party o0.
Well i already fucked 2 different woman from that site, the only things i have noticed that there will almost always be their husband/boyfriend watching and that they will mostly be 25-40 years old (both things don't bother me tho)
 

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Don't think so much about the getting laid part. That'll always put you on edge.
With a little prepping and easy foreplay, she'd open up.
If you have an older female friend, actually approach her about a larger than average penis. While its a coy way of doing it, it may actually help you understand what it is you have from someone who knows what they're talking about. Actually TALK to someone about being worried about your size.
 

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Do not do online dating. You're way too young for that. You need to go out and talk to women. Build up your social skills and a personality.

Unless your goal was to just desperately lose your virginity via random online hook ups then mission accomplished. but I don't see how that will help you gain confidence in talking to women. What if you saw a pretty girl walking down the street or ran into a female that interest you? Your gonna go home and post on craiglist missed connections hoping she sees your post? your social ineptitude isn't gonna benefit you in the long run. At 19 you need to go out and explore.
 

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It seems everybody really misread the OP, all the advice was about meeting and getting to know girls, then his size would've been that last thing that mattered. This wasn't about being confident enough with himself and approaching women as a gentlemen, this was about "How do I go up to a woman and say 'Here's my big dick, now use it in front of your husband'".

It seems rather obvious when you re-read his posts.
 

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Hi,
I have a rather big dick (around 8.5 x 7) but i'm having really trouble actually finding a girl to fuck. I'm 19 now and still a virgin (no girl ever saw my dick) but i've been in some relationships. My problem is that i'm really shy and don't have too much self confidence talking to girls. I wouldn't consider myself ugly, i'm 6.5" tall and around 185lbs. I really wanna have sex with a girl but i can't just walk to them and tell them about my size and i'm rather too shy to talk to them directly/normally at a party or so. I am also kind of a nerd (studying computer science related stuff at college) which lowers my self confidence even more.
Can anyone give me tips on how to overcome my problems and actually pick up women? :biggrin1:

P.S.: If anyone wanna see a pic of my dick feel free to ask


Uhhh, nerdy with a big cock?
That is just my type!

Echoing most other posters, you don't want to just walk up to women and tell them about your dick.

Start to overcome your shyness in ways that don't revolve around getting laid. Meet people in classes (of both sexes). This is a great way to learn how to start up a conversation because you already know you have commonalities.

I had really awful social anxiety and I still get nervous sometimes, but it's really important to work at it. You aren't ever going to just up and change one day. Like another poster said, for shy people it won't "just happen", but you can help it happen by working on your social skills first.
 

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Social structure states that we should be having steady sex by 18, otherwise we should feel like a failure and find something to fuck as soon as possible. At least, this is how it seems to me where I am from.

What a crock of shite!

Do not rush it man. Eventually you will meet a girl you click with, and it will happen. Try to get laid and you never will... just be a friend and you will know quickly if there is more to it than that.

Find a girl you like. If you are tall and not ugly as you say, it will happen eventually. Remember a lot of the people you interact with may also be just as nervous; in-fact perhaps they are wanting you to ask them something.

These things happen. Don't rush it.
 

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Don't worry about it, just let it happen. Constantly searching for a girlfriend or a girl to have sex with isn't the way to go. It won't get you very far.
PS - when you do meet a girl who is interested, do not mention anything about your penis.
 
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