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My boy friend and i have been together almost 2 year but ive only bottomed for him 3 times. he is really big and i wanted to know any tips or tricks to deal with the pain.
he is 8in long and 6.5 around
 

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Douche well. Use lots of lube. Take it slow; it takes time to get your muscles to relax and stretch. Work to just push through the pain...but sliding in slow...holding it for a bit...sliding in deeper...holding it... usually helps.
If he doesn't do it correctly, hit me up. I'm happy to show him how it's done. :)
 
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I would follow the advice of the above poster. Also, if you do this, I promise it will be easier: Bottom for him every night for the next seven nights. The problem is you're bottoming so infrequently that on the rare occasion you do, it's a shock. You need to get some familiarity. Probably a few days in, it'll start to get easier and you'll enjoy it more. By seven days it'll be like riding a bicycle. 8 x 6.5 is big but it's not to big to learn to take comfortably.

It's worth putting the effort in. I was with my bf a year and a half and though he bottomed for me frequently, it was never comfortable for him and we either stopped after a few minutes or I had to go so slow that it wasn't fun for me. It's worth putting the effort in and your bf will appreciate it.
 

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lots of lube, but have him give you lots and LOTS of foreplay and ass play, show you how much he wants it, the longer he rims and fingers you the easier it will be when the big finaly comes ;)

Also, as he is taking you and if/when it hurts, just keep focusing on how good it must feel for him to get in there. Seriously, the pain turns into pleasure if you remember what it is for ;)
 

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All good points above, but I would add 2 more.
1) Try it with you on top riding him. It will give you control, so you set the pace.
2) Dildos can help. Start with a small one you can easily accommodate, then a little bigger one, then try him on for size. Dildos can be fun foreplay before he fucks you. It can also be a pleasurable practice exercise on your own in the days before you try it with him.
 

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Have him trim his nails on his hand well and have him finger you, at first with one finger, while kissing you and getting you hot with his other hand, then when it's comfortable, add a second finger (well lubed). When he can move his two fingers while in you comfortably, have him add a third one. By the time that is going OK, you will be ready to have him enter you with just a minimum of discomfort for a just a short time. I find it works best if he starts with the middle finger, add the index, and finally the ring finger. Good luck!
 

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i almost always use a squirt or two of lube up in my ass, using an eye dropper or syringe (without a needle of course). lube around my hole is great, but when its deep, it works great for me, and my BF loves it.
 

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Fucking some one’s butt is different from vaginal penetration; the muscles are larger and much stronger. If your butt isn’t ready it’s going to tighten up and it’s going to hurt. You got to be mentally and physically ready.
Like everyone has said, be clean, use lots and lots of lube and be sexually aroused. Don’t rush into it unless you really want it. Your top guy (the cock) has got to be skilled. It’s not like porn, those guys are pros; you could drive a truck into them and they wouldn’t notice. I’m nicely equipped and I can get my cock into just about anyone. It takes a lot of patience and talking (yes, talking) but it slides right in. My goal is to get it in, not to hurt someone or cause them pain. If it’s not working, take a break; move on to something else for a while.
Here’s the deal! The bottom is the one in control. Yup, there I said it. We all like to think the top guy is running the show but that’s crap; it’s the bottom who’s stacking the deck. The top guy has got to work your hole till you’re begging for it.
Good luck, kick back and enjoy the ride!
 

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All good points above, but I would add 2 more.
1) Try it with you on top riding him. It will give you control, so you set the pace.
2) Dildos can help. Start with a small one you can easily accommodate, then a little bigger one, then try him on for size. Dildos can be fun foreplay before he fucks you. It can also be a pleasurable practice exercise on your own in the days before you try it with him.

good advice but do experiment with positions. it might feel less painful on your back or doggy style. try them all out!
 

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I'll just also add that everyone's ass is wired differently.

My bf and I fuck about every night, sometimes every other night, and just last night he was so tight I had to give him what I call the "mini fuck" for about 20 minutes before he could take the whole thing. The mini is when I only put in about 1/3 and just slowly ease in/out loosening and getting him horned up. Unfortunately this gets him so horney that sometimes when I do push the whole thing in he just starts involuntarily shooting cum, like last night.

For me it is all about my cock. I like getting fucked, but it is mostly because jacking off while I'm getting fucked feels SOOOOO good. So for me it is easier if I take a couple of hits of poppers and really get into stroking, then my ass relaxes and starts twitching and I can take it up the butt more easily.

Just a couple of thoughts. :)
 

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Preparation and repetition.

It's taken me six months just be able to take most of my boyfriends end! That's with lots of lube but we only try once a week or so.

I would love to find some sort of toy to help me to accommodate him. Problem is, he's just too big. At least 8.5 x 6.5 or there abouts. Plus it takes a lot of effort for him with little reward as I just can't yet take him.

For me, things go so far and then it's just a sharp pain and I have to back off and stop. I have no idea how to over come this as when I go exploring there I just can't find what he can't pass through.

He's sadly loosing a lot of interest in even trying with me because of it. :-( and at time I even get injured which sometimes means I need a few weeks to heal.

Real life sex is nothing like the balls deep monster cocks you see in porn.
 

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Rugbypup, don't give up! And when your guy starts to lose interest, give him some amazing head, or rim and finger him. There are tons of great sex options beyond anal. I find mixing massage with oral and masturbation can be very satisfying for both of you. With all the great tips above, I think Goose Eggs was very on point in saying that everyone's ass (and dick) is different. Maybe at this point you can only try having him penetrate you once a week, but why not use dildos on other days? They will help you gradually be more comfortable accommodating larger and larger things in your arse, until he can get in there comfortably for both of you.

I imagine it is super awkward for him because no one wants to hurt the person they are trying to please. You should make sure that you are talking with him about it, and stroke his ego reassuringly. "I'm so turned on by your amazing, huge dick. I am working hard to be able to take it. It might help me get there faster if you could try this on me" as you hand him a dildo, and let him go to town with it.

If you like this guy, don't give up. And make a pledge (as he should, too) that you are both responsible for the other's pleasure. Do what you must to put a satisfied smile on the other person's face.