Bigger not always better?

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Chainfire, May 11, 2006.

  1. Chainfire

    Chainfire New Member

    Joined:
    May 11, 2006
    Messages:
    48
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Ontario< Canada
    We, living in a sexually dominated society in North America attribute great sex usually to a big penis. That to be 8,9,10 inches is the ideal for women. But how can this be?It's been said that the average vagina can only take 5-7 inches before it 'bottoms out'. So if most girls can't handle and take all of big dick (8+) then why do so many of them clamour for it(seems like wasted dick)? Is it because men, who despite not knowing how sex feels for a woman, claim that bigger is better? Are us men ourselves to blame for the fixation on large dick? I am 8 x 5.75 and always considered myself big (but not huge!). And many girls seem very interested and arroused when it comes to my big dick but not alot of women i have been with could take it all, most could not (not that promiscuous either but been with a few). I read the other day about an asian guy klling himself because he felt inferior in the man junk department and even though i am bigger then average i can empathize with him, because really none of us did jack shit to have big members.

    Do women like big dicks, even though most cannot take it all, because the bearers of copious amount of cockmeat are usually very confident and thus are more sexy and attractive to women?

    please lend me your thoughts and opinions :biggrin1:
     
  2. averagepeck

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 9, 2005
    Messages:
    266
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    51
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Earth
    Verified:
    Photo
    Society places the presssure on men to be a certain size.Many women say they prefer 9,10,11 inches like those dick sizes are common.Those sizes are anomolies. And the average woman in the heat of the moment cannot really properly estimate how big a guy is.

    So if he's sizable she'll say 'oh, he's about 8-9,when he may be 'only' 7.Look at a ruler. 8,9,10 inches is huge.7 is big.Hell 6 is a good size. You have to wonder how many women who say they prefer 10 inches have actually experienced 10 inches.They say it because society says that's the ideal cock size,or they think it looks big enough to be 10 inches.

    I've been with my share of women, for the most part I've never had anyone say I was too small or couldn't feel me,and most have said I feel 'so big' or 'so good' when we have sex,and I'm 'only' 7.5 by 5.5.Hardly the baseball bats some men claim on here(though I'm sure there are some legit ones).

    Now there are some women who physically do require,not want,but require larger sizes because they themselves may have deeper/wider vaginas.I dated a girl years ago who was like this.She was both deep and wide and although I was large enough to make enough friction.It was obvious that she was able to handle considerably more than I offered.Hey,that's the way it goes sometimes.I didn't feel inadaquate,we merely weren't the greatest match,and I likely wasn't the ideal size FOR HER.

    My current Gf has had sex with a guy about a foot long.She said that visually,it's a huge turnon,and the idea of haivng sex with one that big is mentally stimulating as well.However,practically it didn't work out that well because he was 'just too damn long' in her words.It was impossible to grind,certain positions were too painful, and things like a quickie were all but impossible since you jsut can't stick a 12 inch dick in a female witohut some preparation or unless she's been with the guy for years and gotten used to it.In that situation,he was not the ideal size for her,but obviously not because he was too small....
     
  3. Gisella

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2006
    Messages:
    4,872
    Likes Received:
    23
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    USA
    My opinion...

    My preference in big without no doubt will be a 8x5,5 or 8x6 ...my biggest was a 9x6...but trully for life if have to choose would stick & be satisfied with 8" or 7" or 6,5" - plus a girth between 5,5 and 6.
     
  4. stud_hunter

    stud_hunter New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 12, 2006
    Messages:
    817
    Likes Received:
    2
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    CA, USA
    I like a larger-than-average penis. But more than 8-8.5 inches is too much, agreed.
     
  5. D_Salmaine Sharpshlong

    Joined:
    Nov 27, 2005
    Messages:
    56
    Likes Received:
    0
    I think that porn on the internet has had an impact. I think some women find a huge penis a visual turn on. I think in practical terms that eight inches is very big in most womens experience and that much larger is impracticable.
     
  6. Gisella

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2006
    Messages:
    4,872
    Likes Received:
    23
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    USA
    Yep...i do not go for visual turn ons i go for pratical "use" for sure.

    How can i be penetrated by the tilt bone to bone and be pleasured by a good girth for sure!

    :wink:
     
  7. Gisella

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2006
    Messages:
    4,872
    Likes Received:
    23
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    USA
    By the way Johnnybegood...how is your size? U do look good and have a thick girth too.
     
  8. averagepeck

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 9, 2005
    Messages:
    266
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    51
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Earth
    Verified:
    Photo
    It really depends on the women and what's practical TO HER.There are vaginas of all shapes and sizes just as there are cocks.The woman who I described in my earlier post as having a deep/wide vagina practically could take more than 8.I'm not that far from 8,and it was very obvious that I was nowhere near to filling her completely,and she definitely could handle more.While that's about the only time I recall dealing with that scenario,we made it work because we were in a committed relationship.

    There are women out there who physically can handle a double digit penis.Logic would dictate that if there are men with 12 inch dicks,there has to be a compatibly-sized woman to handle them.A woman with that large a vaginal capacity are probably as rare as a 12 incher,but they do exist.There's someone for everyone.....
     
  9. Chainfire

    Chainfire New Member

    Joined:
    May 11, 2006
    Messages:
    48
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Ontario< Canada
    lol honestly i don't know why guys ask if their dick is the biggest their gf/wife has had. For me, i don't want to know! It will only make me insecure or angry if she says she has been with bigger..i would feel inadequate or less of a man and i am not use to such worrysome feelings because i am usually a confident guy.So i never ask the question, some things are better left unasked. Plus i've never had a girl ask if i had fucked tighter pussy or had bigger tits in my mouth so if women don't want to know, why should i?

    and yes i agree, now a days women can go on any chatroom and look for the countless guys on the net who get off of doing webcam shows.Plus porn sites are too common, and file sharing programs make finding and downloading porn a zinch. Oh and guys remember, if women really want 12 inchers then why are the most popular dildos(bets sales) range from sizes 6-8 inches?Me being 8 inches means 95% of guys are smaller so i find solace in such.

    and as horrible as it seems, if i met a woman who could handle more then my 8 x5.75 (6inch girth with cockring) i would probably not get into a relationship with her. No point, i don't want to be with a woman who would be more satisfied if i was 2 inches bigger etc. sexual compatibility is important for both partners so why settle for second best? Thankfully such women are rare as the footers :biggrin1:
     
  10. averagepeck

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 9, 2005
    Messages:
    266
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    51
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Earth
    Verified:
    Photo
    It's not a question I would ask either.Granted,that info was sent my way without having to ask.While I know I'm not the biggest,I also am confident I'm not the smallest.
     
  11. D_Xavier Veinglory

    D_Xavier Veinglory New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2006
    Messages:
    16
    Likes Received:
    0
     
  12. D_Salmaine Sharpshlong

    Joined:
    Nov 27, 2005
    Messages:
    56
    Likes Received:
    0
    I have had a number of women say that i'm the biggest they have ever seen and i'm in the range of the other guys posted here. (Gisella, fyi, 8X6-6.5, it varies....) Sex is usually not a problem but is occasionally. I'm sure a 10 inch cock is wondrous to look at and play with but problematic for penetration. I'm sure most women have fantasies just like guys so probably a monster cock is a fantasy for some.

    Sometimes I think it would be fun to have a 10 inch cock just for the reactions it would generate, but I don't think the sex would be as good.
     
  13. Wonderboy

    Wonderboy New Member

    Joined:
    May 1, 2006
    Messages:
    887
    Likes Received:
    3
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    High Above The Mucky Muck
    Ahem... ;)

    Anyway, people say girls vaginas are only so deep but I've been able to push ALL the way in (and I mean all the way, I've held girls down on my cock so they could get the full effect, and they've loved it).

    I've done that to two girls, and maybe three but I was reallly drunk that time and dont think I was fully hard...and I have very little recollection of that night.
     
  14. Cloud9

    Cloud9 New Member

    Joined:
    May 12, 2006
    Messages:
    28
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    This is something that always amazed me. Woman say they love big cocks, that they want these over 6" girths and so on... BUT FROM LIFE EXPERIENCE, not one has been able to have painless sex with me. At least in the beggining, they do become accustomed. But its always months, of of slow, boring, careful sex. WHERE ARE THESE LADIES? Jeez what id give to just have a one night stand and fuck the living daylights out some chick. Just like that. No probs. Alls cool.

    Please this big cock obsession in the media is a joke. Causes more complications in my opinion.
     
  15. lisa_2662

    lisa_2662 Member

    Joined:
    Apr 15, 2006
    Messages:
    149
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Female
    Ok I'll admit, after several months with my bf, his dick might just be too big to be enjoyable for me. Its great for short sessions, but after a while it just makes me sore when I fuck him. I think for most girls 10 inches is overkill, but something closer to 7-8 is a great time. Anything over 6 will get the job done, and even if its less than that, a great lover can pleasure a woman with 4-5 inches if he knows what he's doing. Bigger most certainly isn't always better.

    I think the visual aspect of a huge cock on the feeling that you have a man that is larger than most is a big turnon for many girls, including myself, but I'm starting to think that when it comes to intercourse, I'd rather have a guy that can really pound me hard without having to worry all the time about getting a cervix punch. I can handle my bf, but certain positions that I could do with other guys just don't work with us because it hurts, and I'm starting to miss that.
     
  16. emu

    emu New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 22, 2006
    Messages:
    188
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    The Big O
    one reason why i am good in bed.

    I get hard quick and stay hard, i can pound away and keep going, even after i shoot, i can keep it up and shoot multiple times. there are advantages of being just average or "small"....

    E
     
  17. Gisella

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2006
    Messages:
    4,872
    Likes Received:
    23
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    USA
    :biggrin1: :tongue: :cool:

    Yep i know that by experience man like u that comes in many sizes....u are good!
     
  18. Doc

    Doc New Member

    Joined:
    Apr 17, 2005
    Messages:
    328
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    all over now
    I think this an interesting thread, since it is one of the few that we actually talk about the real disadvantages to being big. I myself am comfortable at my size, 6x5.8 but being ambitious I always wanted more. And it wasn't untill I realized that I was already pretty big for some girls that I started to consider what would it really be like if I were 8 or 9 inches. I don't mean to crap on the guys here, but there can be some significant disadvantages when you are considerably larger than most the women out there.

    Yet again I miss out on that wonderful feeling of being the pride of all the chicks in the hen house. But of course I can make up for that with technique.

    And addressing whether an average cock is enough. There was only one time where I was with a girl that was considerably larger that I could tell if I were bigger she could have had more fun. Of course I found lots of ways to get her happy, but still you can't fit them all.
     
  19. Gisella

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2006
    Messages:
    4,872
    Likes Received:
    23
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    USA
    Thanks JBG

    :tongue:
     
  20. Ninja56

    Ninja56 New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 24, 2005
    Messages:
    23
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Most of the women I've slept with have said that my girth was what they really enjoyed (I'm a little over 6 inches around). Most of them have also said that mine was the best dick they'd had, and I'm not exactly huge (although I suspect that some of them were probably just attempting to massage my ego).
     
Draft saved Draft deleted