Bigger problem- lenght or girth?

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  1. petite_judy

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    In your experience, what has been a bigger problem for you or your partner, the length or girth of a big cock. I've never been with a hung guy and my ex was only 6.5 inches but I have a dildo that's 8"x6". There's a picture of it in the member's gallery if anyones interested. I can handle all of it now but when I first got it it was difficult. In my pussy it was the length that took some getting used to, but in my ass it was the girth that was a problem. I still have a hard time rapidly deepthroating it b/c of the girth but I'm getting better. Anyway, just wanted to know if other people had similar experiences.
     
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    No, but I would think girth may be a problem after a certain point, becaause they can get thicker than you can put your hand around...

    Sorry! I don't have any real good info... :cry:
     
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    my experience has been that my thickness is much more difficult than the length. I can at least control how much goes in. not much that can be done about the thickness.. other than lubrication, practice and patience
     
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    Since I've enjoyed both sides of the fence, so to speak and I'm blessed with a nice thickness, I think I can address this, as far as the girth issue goes. Women have an easier time accepting girth and men have have more difficulty with it. Being only a 7.5"er length wise, I am not equipped to specifically address the "length" issue.
     
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    It has been my experience that length is more the problem for vaginal sex. Girth is more the problem with anal sex, but it is followed by length. While Length is the first problem for oral, which changes to girth being a problem.
     
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    Both dimensions have been problems. And, for that matter, still are. I've never been able to use the last inch or two of the length department. Nobody has ever managed more than the head and the first inch or so orally - chalk that one up to width. And everybody chickens out before anal gets anywhere worthwhile - a psychological more than a physical problem, I believe, but that doesn't help much. And both length and width made my sole attempt to use a condom a disaster zone, albeit a comical one.

    It all seems so easy in the movies. But of course they're using professional stunt men ... er, persons.
     
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    Girth is definitely more of a problem with oral sex.
     
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    Extremes in either are problematic. My BF is 9x6. When I bottom I have to get on top and really take some time loosening up to take the whole thing. When I fuck him my almost 7" girth takes a while but he can take my 8+ length no problem. Most gay guys know that if you approach a long cock in a 69 position it's much easier to suck.
     
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    My experience with vaginal sex has been that having too much girth is more of a problem than too much length. If your penis is too long you can simply refrain from inserting all of it - however, if it is too thick, you're just SOL.

    I have had no experience with anal sex after hitting my growth spurt.

    With oral sex, I believe that extremes in either department can be problematic, though girth is probably more of one than length, since all one need do to overcome extreme lengths is suppress the gag reflex. If a penis is too thick to fit down your throat, you're just kind of fucked.
     
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    In our experience my wife can handle my girth at 6.25" orally but can't handle my 6.5" length deep throating. We only recently figured out that girth was the issue vaginally, after 31 years of her experiencing pain, intercourse was maybe once or twice a year. It is interesting to note that we have recently tried anal sex and that I pretty much slide right in.
    She has to dilate with dildos on a regular basis to maintain any degree of ability to take me vaginally.
     
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    I agree that both can be problematic at their extremes, but girth can always be handled with patience, time, sensitivity and lube. I've amazed myself with some of the things I thought were impossible before taking the time out to really try - and voila. So for me, the only time girth has been an issue is in the context of a quickie.
     
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    Never been with a woman but for anal and oral sex I'd definitely agree that girth is more likely to cause a problem. Most guys I've been with or spoken to about anal sex have said that they can take excess length in their ass without too much discomfort but excessive girth can cause a lot of getting used to. At least 2 of my ex's had huge problems with my girth and 1 of them couldn't take it at all...
     
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    I think this is a pretty easy question--excess girth is more of a problem than excess length by the simple fact that you can stop short of inserting the unuseable length but if it's too thick to go in at all it's not going in.

    I speak from experience. My length of 11" is more than many vaginas can handle. My girth is more reasonable. I expand to a maximum of 7" girth at the base, but along most of the shaft--the useable length--I'm only a little over 6" around. That's plenty thick for pleasure, but not as outrageous as some of the girths reported around here. My girth has given some girls a little trouble, but it is rarely a big problem. (And, when it was a problem, I think it was more just psychological--the girl was just tensing up from anxiety about my overall size.) But--back in my days of sleeping with different women--it was more common that I couldn't use my entire length. (FWIW, my longterm gf--my only partner for several years now--can now sometimes take the whole thing.)
     
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    But I digress from the original topic... My length has always been the bigger 'problem' with my partners than my girth. If I'm not careful and mindful of how deep (or hard) I'm thrusting, it can cause some serious pain. I've experienced this regardless of what position were in. I love the feeling of being completely inside a girl, especially when I feel her cumming. Plus, I haven't had any complaints yet from any of them when I 'bottom out' during their orgasm. :smile:
     
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    Is that the only way to make someone take girth comfortably? My girlfriend and I only started having sex fairly recently, 4th Jan and have done it regularly since then. She still has a problem with the girth and can surprisingly take all the lenght. But if I push all the way in she'll either scream in pain, tell me to pull out etc, basically not enjoy it. She says she's getting better at taking it but its still not perfect, like hassle-free.

    At first I had to hold the bottom of my dick with my hand, using it as a barrier so only about 5" was inside her...and now she can take all the length, but we still have problems with girth.
     
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    This is an OPINION, but I think most women can adjust to girth easier than length. For most women, the depth of their vagina is more static than the width. Also, most tend to have more nerve endings in the walls of the vagina than at the very back, so they have more reason to enjoy the stretching out that occurs from girth.

    NOW, that being said, every person is very different. I personally am the exact opposite, so go figure. In the end, there are no solid answers for any of these questions, only what works between the people involved.
     
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    with me girls always say its the girth that is the most problem. sure most of the time i can not fit the whole thing in her but its when she is being stretched to her limit is what causes the most pain.
     
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    I am 11" long but believe it or not it's the girth that people don't like: you can control the length by just not thrusting past the ending point. I have most often turned down for penetration due to my head size or girth
     
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    I would say thickness is alittle harder to adjust to because when it comes to length the guy can pretty much control how much of himself enters you, whereas he can't with his thickness. Having a guy whose really into oral sex can go along ways towards helping the girl relax because if a guy tends to be "bigger" some girls will tense-up in anticipation of the actaul penetration.
     
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