Biguy, gf doesn't know, please read

[D_Suckleberry Hound]

Cheating is cheating, no matter what gender you do it with.

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[vlls]

I'm in a serious relationship with a girl, and she doesn't know I'm bisexual. I've repressed the urges for years, and when I finally addmitted them to myself, didn't get a chance to do anything before I ended up in a relationship thats turned serious.
I love her, and I don't want a relationship with a guy, and I can't tell her and I'd feel terrible cheating on her.
Having said that, I want a pretty boy thrusting his dick in my mouth and making me choke on it
Wtf should I do?

im a strong advocate for being truthful with partners when it comes to issues like this... otherwise ull end up repressing ur emotions and desires for a lifetime... not a healthy state to be in... u should be able to share... its not something that happens overnight but something u can develop... try opening up the relationship cautiously

 

[stevenotsean]

Thanks for all the replies guys. Cheating is cheating regardless of gender, I do agree, I think for me sex with a guy is something I always thought I'd experience before I got into a relationship I'd consider serious. I don't plan to cheat on her, or tell her, as both would destroy the relationship I think. As to her going for several bi/gay guys, one she doesn't know about, one was her first boyfriend back when she started high school and he came out by dumping her so it was more of a close friend thing than a boyfriend. Added to that, she's probably the unluckiest person I've ever met, and it's a small town, so most of the guys she's dated are from the same group of friends - the two I spoke about are actually screwing at the moment, I really don't want to know how she'll take it if someone spills it to her lol

I probably should see a shrink or something, but there's no way I can afford it, so that's out of the question. So I don't really know what I'm going to do... but I've got a lot to think about and some of the replies really helped. Thanks

 

[killerb]

you need to be honest with yourself and with her...
by not telling her you're doing 2 things...being dishonest with her about who you are and keeping yourself from being who you really are...it's not healthy and you will never truly be happy...

and i know this may not happen in your case, but i have a female friend who is married and one day this same topic came up and she stated that if a man she was with was attracted to other men, he should just be open & honest and tell her...she MIGHT be OK with it...and at the least she could respect him more for his honesty.

 

[D_Petherick_Poundlouder]

If you are bi, find a way to tell her. Reassure her you won't be cheating on her, and satisfy those urges with porn - the healthy way. Everybody has urges to fuck someone else, whether straight, gay, bisexual or transgender. If you care for her, that is priority #1. But if you are questioning the relationship, maybe its just you questioning if she'd accept you.

 

[longverythick]

Is it cheating to have oral sex with a guy?

 

[D_Petherick_Poundlouder]

And the truth of the matter is, that if you have the urge, realize its just that...an urge. Don't deny it, accept it, realize what's more important. That's what relationships are about. Also, whoever thinks its ok to have a guy and girl simply because you are a bisexual give bisexuals a bad name, and are selfish. Especially in this case, when its an monogamous one. Its just bullshit. And selfish.

Also, id like to make this point. You seem confused. Maybe you aren't. But explore your emotions, your urges, and find a cautious way to handle this.

 

[killerb]

Is it cheating to have oral sex with a guy?

YES, unless you're in a relationship with that guy.

 

[tiagra]

Tell her. Be honest.