So was my brother. He was doing something called "autoerotic aesphyxiation".
Grief, I can assure you, is something around which you don't want to act out your personal "dark sense of humor". If additional pain is inflicted I say foul. Do I have the desire or ability to instruct what others find clever and witty? No. Do I think certain human boundaries of decency ought to be in place in the name of respect? Yes.
Guess it falls under the "do unto others" proviso in my estimation.
Here's what happened when my brother took his life "accidentally on purpose" by courting death NIC. Rather than say "died unexpectedly at his home on the 29th of December" the Boston Globe wrote "died under questionable circumstances" in my brother's obituary.
Here's the thing: I found my brother after there was no one to bring him back from his sexual experimentation (do NOT try this at home). So when I read that vile obit in the Boston Globe I realized that once I was back at Deerfield I was going to have to "explain away" that phrase 'died under questionable circumstances' since the Coroner was trying to save the family from substantially more grief by disclosing pubically the means by which my brother exited this planet.
So in my own way I know what this sort of insensitity does.
In the larger picture I began this thread to see where people stood on propriety and good taste when it comes to respect. I see now too.
Do I like it? No.
It's akin to me to getting one's "kicks" knocking over gravestones.
Not funny.