This will probably be a long winded question so I apologize in advance. I am hoping some of the ladies here in the lpsg community can share their experiences with birth control side effects and give me some insight into this issue. My wife and I have been dealing with sex drive issues for years and things have improved, but I know we still have a long way to go. Heres the background. Weve been married for 5 years now and we dated 4 years before that (high school sweethearts adorable I know.) For the first 18 months or so, we couldnt keep our hands off each other. No sex - we were young and into taking that slow - but everything else was going on all the time and everywhere. This is when we both learned that she can squirt when she cums :biggrin1: - she has a very intense sexual response. Anyway, it was a year and a half of near constant fooling around together - Amazing! Clearly, we couldnt put off sex forever, so she went on the pill and that seems to be when the issue began. We didnt have sex immediately when she went on it, but I noticed that the other good stuff started to slow down. When we started having sex, we fell into a routine of between 0 and 3 times per month. Oddly enough, when I can get her really interested, the sex is mind blowing. Well collapse afterward all shaky and glassy eyed and agree that it was fucking amazing - then we wont do it again for weeks. Sometimes if Im lucky she might agree to a BJ or just go through the motions of sex, but if shes not enjoying herself its not really that fun for me. What really gets me off is getting her off. We communicate very well about our problems and this has been no different. We talk it over and things will improve to a max of 3 times per month for a few months. But things always seem to slide back to the old pattern where we do it once a month or so and its common for us to go 6 - 8 weeks without sex. She will usually point to the birth control pill as the source of her low sex drive. I have heard they can have this side effect and her sex drive did seem to drop off soon after she went on it. We just dont know of any way to counter the effect. I have really tried to do my part for what its worth. I work full time, I do most of the cooking, I pitch in around the house and all the yard work and handyman stuff is my responsibility. We spend lots of time together, talk often and I try to do special things regularly just so she knows shes loved. I try to keep myself in shape and my hygiene above par. I also try to be careful when we have sex not to go too deep too soon since it can be painful for her if shes not warmed up - I wont go balls deep until she asks for it. If any women are still reading after all that, Thank You! If you have experienced some similar side effects with birth control pills please give me some advice on how to get past the problem. Im also open to suggestions for anything else I can do myself to improve the situation as well as anything I can bring up for my wife to try next time we have the inevitable sex talk. I am just about out of ideas so any suggestions are very welcome.