My gay male friends couldn't care less what anyone's sexual orientation is.
I've been given the cold shoulder by a handful of gay men but that was just because I was a woman and had nothing to do with my orientation.
I don't know any lesbian women well enough for them to have told me to "pick a side"
I get more discrimination from other bi women than anything.
Apparently because I'm in a committed relationship with a man, never been in a discrete relationship with another woman, and only "play" with women I'm not "true bi"
I have a friend that sometimes joins us for threesomes, and she'll come stay with me for a week or two at a time when my bf is away on business.. for epic snuggling and sex and muffin-baking madness.. but apparently
that doesn't count either
To meet their definition I would have to break up with my boyfriend
, be in a relationship with a woman, and only then could I call myself "true bi". I'm like a bi "tourist" to them
I have no idea what relationship/commitment status has to do with sexual orientation, to me they are two complete and very distinct things. It's 2020, I thought we were past stupid definitions like this.
I'm personally guilty of this mindset.. years of reading shady bi-curious posts on LPSG has a huge hand in why I feel that way
Most of the bi and bi-curious male posts in the forums talk about experimentation or encounters
behind their partner's back. You can only see so many
"getting sucked in public restrooms while the wife is away" type threads before you either consciously or subconsciously start to associate bi-curiosity in men with cheating. Don't even get me started on the reckless, irresponsible behaviour described in most of these threads that's potentially exposing your partner to STIs. Honestly whenever I read these threads I can only think of their unsuspecting partner at home and it makes me angry
If a man was totally open with me about their sexuality from the beginning, and everything else about him indicated that he was looking for and capable of being in a committed relationship, him being bi wouldn't be a problem at all.