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I'm glad I'm not to only one who noticed this. LoL.
I'd think if a guy was bi, he probably wouldn't tell you. Not that easily. A bisexual would have a lot more to lose than a gay person would, from a standpoint. While gay is not fully accepted in our society, bisexual is that far behind. Mainly because they catch heat from gay people and straight people. For example in this thread, I see gay people complaining that a bisexual person wouldn't have a relationship with a man like they have one with a woman and then straight women will complain that a bisexual man is a house of disease and promiscuity, etc. What bisexual guy would come out and say to a guy who asks, "Yes, I'm bisexual." A straight guy will say, "Yeah...you're confused/gay." and a gay guy will say, "Yeah, you're gay...but you just don't know it yet."
I can imagine the scrutiny in such a situation.
A gay guy wouldn't want to mess with a guy who is bisexual because a gay guy would want a relationship with the bi guy and have to know that the bi guy could leave him for a girl at any moment. A straight girl would have the same fears about the bi guy leaving for another man.
It seems to be a sad life for an "out" bisexual. Which is why I assume that most would rather just not say anything at all.
However, I do think we all tend to universalize our own experience, and so of course some bisexuals might believe everyone is actually bi, while some monosexuals incorrectly believe that all bisexuals are confused or in transition.
here I am...bi-sexual as ever
A lot of people had said that your sexuality isn't based on the here and now, but more the gender that you will think you will end up having as a partner for the rest of your life.
A lot of people had said that your sexuality isn't based on the here and now, but more the gender that you will think you will end up having as a partner for the rest of your life.
No I think he's right. Orientation may be all over the map, but most people will prefer a partner of the opposite sex so as to fit mainstream society.By that logic, no one would be bisexual.
But that is what happens.No, if people categorize themselves by the gender of the life partner they plan to have, then everyone would either be straight or gay.
I think IanTheTall is in something like that. It's not outside the bounds of possibility that's for sure. Isn't this something like the partner who has a man or woman on the side? Then it's illicit. Better to be honest and let the chips fall where they may? (But then you lose that [perhaps false] social respectability.)Under his scenario, in order to be bisexual, you would need to end up in a life partnership with two people of different genders. And obviously, very few people do that.
Bisexual guys: Where are they (in real life)?
According to the article, "The Science of Gaydar," New York magazine suggests that men are not physically bisexual---
An article that was probably written by a gay or a straight guy. LOL
If guy says "I'm bisexual" they say "No, you're confused." (Male or Female) If a girl says, "I'm bisexual" they say "Hey, let's go out so we can have threesomes!" (Male or Female)
Which can present a huge double standard...
To answer the specific question of the OP. Bisexual men are probably in fact all around you, and you will never find them. lol:biggrin1:
But that is what happens.
I think IanTheTall is in something like that. It's not outside the bounds of possibility that's for sure.
Since this is troubling you, why not stick to openly gay/bi guys? Then you wouldn't have to worry about any of this.
In the past that meant you were either straight, a spinster or a confirmed bachelor. There were no gay people.
Maybe I live in a different world?????? Ive come across SOOOOOO many bi guys & girls in my life. Its like almost trendy to be bi, people actually want to be bi? Back in high school, with all the Emos, Goths etc, and the arty people.
I don't know I guess it really depends where you live and where you socialise...Gay & Bi & the more 'out there' population are generally attracted to live in bigger cities, so if you live in a small village, I guess the chance for you to meet another gay or bi is rather slim...
Bisexual guys: Where are they (in real life)?
I have often wondered the same thing...all the nice men I meet are married, engaged, or in a serious relationship...translation TAKEN.
So lately I have been thinking I should expand my net to include bi-guys; but have no idea where the single bi-guys hide. Do they have a secret code amongst themselves?
Most people think bi-sexual women are cool; but they think bi-sexual men are just gays who aren't ballsy enough to come out of the closet yet.
it is a myth...we are just a figment of the underworld...where are they? you make it sound like we are deep sea anglars.lol
If guy says "I'm bisexual" they say "No, you're confused." (Male or Female) If a girl says, "I'm bisexual" they say "Hey, let's go out so we can have threesomes!" (Male or Female)
I'd assume a bisexual man would only pursue another bisexual man. Which piques the question, how do bisexual men find each other?
...I feel sexually attracted to both sexes and have been in the sack with both at the same time several times!
i'm more sexually attracted to guys than girls, but there is still this girl that i'm crazy about. it's frustrating being bi, but also fun. basically you get the best of both worlds.![]()
...most guys, if they get horny have an easier time finding quick release from another guy, than from a woman...Let's face it, guys are easy, don't need a committment and understand the need to cum. I hope that explains it a little
I feel that I am a straight guy with some homosexual tendencies. I love having sex with women, but I also appreciate the sight of a big cock. I like to and have masturbated with other guys...
A lot of people had said that your sexuality isn't based on the here and now, but more the gender that you will think you will end up having as a partner for the rest of your life. Knowing that I want to and plan on getting married to the right woman, I consider myself straight.
I have long wondered why I've never had fully functioning gaydar, because the guys I've wished were gay don't seem to be. Typically the men who CLEARLY are gay, I'm not so attracted to. Instead I'm always wondering about the guys who MIGHT be and might NOT be... maybe I've had bidar and just didn't know it!So lately I have been thinking I should expand my net to include bi-guys; but have no idea where the single bi-guys hide. Do they have a secret code amongst themselves?
AMEN! I agree totally. I consider myself bi. I have not had to many friends over the years that I have not been somewhat attracted to. So I must have bi-dar as well. Some of my friends have ended up being bi and a small few gay, but most are completely str.I have long wondered why I've never had fully functioning gaydar, because the guys I've wished were gay don't seem to be. Typically the men who CLEARLY are gay, I'm not so attracted to. Instead I'm always wondering about the guys who MIGHT be and might NOT be... maybe I've had bidar and just didn't know it!