Bisexual guys: Where are they (in real life)?

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If a guy "sleeps around" whether he calls himself gay, straight, or bi really doesn't matter; I would say he is promiscuous whether he sleeps with men, women, or both.

Some of us recognize that we can relate sexually with men or women, but prefer to be in a committed long term relationship. And, it follows that when we are in a relationship with a man you would be correct in saying we are in a homosexual relationship. When we are in a relaionship with a woman the world sees us as
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For me sex is personal and private; I have never felt it necessary to explain myself. What the world sees is what the world gets, I do not advertise my bisexual orientation. I have never cheated on my partners. Only on this site do I speak out on the subject. I would suspect that there are many other men who have similar approaches. We are around and I would hope that most of us are happy persons whether we have partners who are men or who are women.
 

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I think it's easier in our society to hang out with girls in clubs, flirt and have fun. And it feels more relaxed to talk intimately with a girl in public than it does with a guy. BUT if I'm super attracted to a guy, then it doesn't make any difference to me. I'll pursue him but not so obviously. I'm one of those "bi" guys who live with my g/f but make love with guys too. I'm not just interested in a bit of dick on the side but the whole person,male or female.


I would never think a person who lists themselves on here as 90% str8 and 10 gay even likes men or dick. (or consider themselves bi) I would think they are just curious.
 

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One thing seems to have been overlooked. I identify as a bisexual and I would be just fine in a relationship with another bi man. Yes, women are more readily available and there is a certain stigma attached to relationships with other men. Personally, I don't care if others don't like it. I am who I am and I have no need to apologize for it. Also, I happen to know a bi guy who has been with a gay guy for over 20 years. They have an open relationship which allows the bi guy to have women if he so chooses. And when you talk to bi guys who are open about it, will tell you whether or not they are willing to be in an m2m long-term relationship. Also, most bisexuals are not 50/50. There is usually a slight preference to one over the other. And as for that article, the media wants to sweep bisexuality under the table. Anytime, 20/20, Dateline, or 60 Minutes talks about sexuality, it's always gay or straight. The sexual science community also seems to avoid the issue. And there are many bi men who are on the down low and they will lie when asked about their sexual preferences. Our society is primarily geared towards monosexuality so bisexuality is still taboo even to gays. Lesbians especially take offense to bi women. But it seems most gay men want to take a bi man to bed. lolol
 

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Also, I am not promiscuous. I haven't even had a threesome as of yet (though I really want to be in one). This particular assumption makes me mad. Promiscuous people have a problem with intimacy and they seek only sex and not a relationship with a strong spiritual connection. Most people don't think that way, not even bisexuals. Some of us would prefer to have our cake and eat it too but as long as the s/o is ok with it and allowed the same benefit, who cares?
 

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I feel that being bi is very difficult. It sounds great but it isn't "all that".
I find myself being sexually attracted more to men and emotionally attracted more to women.

As was stated by others in this post it's difficult to come out as "bi". People believe that you're either afraid to say you're gay or you're just confused.

There has been one bi guy that I met that I REALLY like..but of course he's taken and we've talked about the fact that "if we had met years ago" but he's married with children and lives a double live in secrecy.
I had dated a girl that was great and she asked about my sexuality and although she was understanding we also couldn't continue the relationship as she couldn't get over the fact that I'd want to put my "dick in some guy's poo-poo hole".

It's very hard to find guys that I'm attracted to enough to want to date. I find some gay guys just "too gay" or "too proud" or "to active" in my opinion. Why is there a need to be proud of one's sexuality? Why can't we just "be"? (I'll probably get a lot of flack about this one)

I'm the same way. Women are more attractive on an emotional level while men are more attractive on a purely sexual level. However, I know that I have the capacity to fall in love with a man or with a woman. It's no wonder that str8s and gays find us so confusing! In the beginning, it's confusing for us as well. Bisexual covers a much wider range and that's why many of us, including myself, don't particularly like labels. Some still define bisexual as "equally attracted" but I hardly think someone who is married and is truly in love with her and loves her body, but has an occasional triste with a man (whether drunk or not) can honestly call himself straight. It all comes back to the fact that we are socialized as heterosexuals. If being bisexual were more acceptable to our society, more would proudly be out. And as far as effeminate gay men, they're like women with dicks, kind of like transgendered only without the breast implants. :confused: I don't find them attractive. I like men who are men. :biggrin1:
 

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I'm attracted to some women. The reason I'm not attracted to many is I find some women my age are firmly rooted in my mother's generation. They are still dependent, unassertive and not very self-reliant. It's probably where I live too. Most women around me are still socialized to defer to men.

There's several strong self-reliant self-possessed women on LPSG though. Go ladies. I think that's why MZ is popular.
 

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The fact that 80% of the gay men had sex with a woman in the past five years? Well if they had sex with a woman five years ago and didn't have one the next year does that remove their "bisexuality"?
For the purposes of these surveys, yes, it did. (What they were trying to accommodate, I think, is gay men who long ago and far away had sex with a woman once or twice as genuinely "gay." As it turns out, however, that description fits very few men. Most "gay" men keep some residual heterosexual spice in their life through almost their entire sexual history.)

That is, the surveys were attempting to find out to what extent the common supposition is true that all bisexual men were fake "str8" men who fucked men on the side. It's not.

The point of my post is that research shows that just as many "bisexual" men (as judged by their behavior) identify as gay as identify as straight.
 

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I think that guys aren't that different from gals. Probably a large number of gals are ok with the idea of kissing or playing with another gal. The only thing is that it is more socially acceptable to do so and even guys think it is hot. For guys to admit that they would also like to touch a guys cock or be affectionate with another male, it clearly labels them as GAY at best or something much worse.

So I think many or most guys would like to touch another guy's penis and or would like to explore some male to male experiences, but fear being labeled, discriminated against, or even harmed. Girls are encouraged for the most part to have these type of experiences.
 

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I think that guys aren't that different from gals. WRONG! Probably a large number of gals are ok with the idea of kissing or playing with another gal. Wrong again! The only thing is that it is more socially acceptable to do so and even guys think it is hot. I know this, but don't understand it. For guys to admit that they would also like to touch a guys cock or be affectionate with another male, it clearly labels them as GAY at best or something much worse. Why the hell is bi-sexual much worse?!?!? I don't get this at all.

So I think many or most guys would like to touch another guy's penis and or would like to explore some male to male experiences, but fear being labeled, discriminated against, or even harmed. Girls are encouraged for the most part to have these type of experiences. ROTFLMAO Did you just land here from another planet? Cause almost nothing you have said is consistent with anything I have heard males or females say on planet earth. Maybe it's generational; but at no point in my 41 years on the planet has anyone ever encouraged me to experiment with another girl.
 

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I would never think a person who lists themselves on here as 90% str8 and 10 gay even likes men or dick. (or consider themselves bi) I would think they are just curious.

I listed myself as 10% gay because I haven't had many relationships with guys in reality. I'm not sure what you mean by "likes guys"? I like guys as friends generally speaking. Maybe these percentages mean different things to different peeps.