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If a bisexual man marries a woman. Theres always gonna be a longing for him to cheat and have sex with a man. So what do you thinks the solution should be for bisexuals who want to be in a committed relationship.
 

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Your scenario isn't any different than a straight man longing to cheat with another woman or a gay man longing to cheat with another man. The solution is the same: keep your commitment.

I don't understand why some people have the bias that bi/pan/omni men are more likely to cheat than anyone else. Somehow bi men don't have the capacity to remain true to one partner because of their orientation? They must be more promiscuous? Suffer more temptation? It's bollocks.

Full disclosure. I've never been married and am not currently (and have rarely been) in a committed relationship so I date freely.:cool:
 

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The solution is to not act on it and stay committed. If you cannot control your urges, break up with your partner and then have at it once you're single.

The above answer applies to hetero-, homo-, and bisexual men.

Just because I find both men and women attractive does not in any way indicate my likelihood of cheating on my partner should I be in a romantic relationship.
 

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I'm bisexual and have never had longing to cheat. I was married for 12 years to a woman, and guess who was the one that cheated. I'll give you a hint...Not me.
"Bisexual" means that I can and do find both men and women attractive. It in no way means that I cannot be faithful to either / or.
 

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Your scenario isn't any different than a straight man longing to cheat with another woman or a gay man longing to cheat with another man.

of course it is. Your partner doesn’t have the physical equipment to satisfy alternative urges

doesn’t change that you still shouldn’t cheat
 
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The original post is assuming the person who is bisexual is a 50-50. . What if that person is 70% attracted to one sex? Chances of them cheating is pretty low, I'd think. And as the others have said, when you commit to someone, you don't cheat on them. Now, on the other hand, I dated a guy who had such a hard time being true to one person. When he was with a man, that partner did not satisfy his need to be with a woman. When he was with a woman, he had the need to be with a man. I saw this as his own personal hell, as one partner would never satisfy all needs for him. I think this is rare, and probably doesn't happen all that often. (or I would like to believe this) Anyway, if a person is a cheater, straight, gay or bisexual, they will probably always cheat. If a person is not one to cheat, then they would probably always commit to one person. - This is just my opinion, and not based on scientific fact. It's just what I have seen in life.
 
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If a bisexual man marries a woman. Theres always gonna be a longing for him to cheat and have sex with a man. So what do you thinks the solution should be for bisexuals who want to be in a committed relationship.
I believe if you're in a committed relationship you should be faithful regardless of your sexuality. if this is not possible, don't tell someone you can commit. I am in a committed relationship with a woman that I love and I use porn to satisfy my same sex urges.
 

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I don't believe any one person can be everything for anyone else, regardless of sexual orientation. The solution is honest communication of your needs and committing to a person who knows what those needs are and is willing to let you meet them if he/she/they can't. Open relationships aren't just for gay couples. There are lots of versions of open relationships; they key is negotiated boundaries that make both people feel secure, heard, and respected.

But yeah, please don't stereotype bi people.
 

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I’ve been in a committed relationship with a woman that I’ve lived with for 8 years. We had sex on the regular for the first 2 years. 6 years ago she stopped having sex with me and refuses to anymore.Just over a year ago she kicked me out of the bedroom for good, and doesn’t want to sleep in the same bed me. During this time is when I started to have casual encounters with men at the gym, who offered to service and jerk me off. That’s a another story that I’ll share later. I’ve come to the realization that me and my woman are not compatible anymore. I still love women, but now I’m intrigued about possibly having a committed relationship with a man. Later , I found out that she’s been probably playing me and cheating on me on the side. I’m in the process of moving out on my own and ending the relationship.
 
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from my perspective, it is no different for any man, you choose to stay faithful or you don't. people think that because the field of potential partners to cheat with is larger, there is more temptation. not so. Since not everyone is sexy, so the field really is not bigger just more diverse.
 
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If you’re comfortable and secure with yourself is it easier to enter into a open relationship? I would think if you are insecure having an open relationship won’t work so well.
 

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If a bisexual man marries a woman. Theres always gonna be a longing for him to cheat and have sex with a man. So what do you thinks the solution should be for bisexuals who want to be in a committed relationship.
I decided when I was still in my teens that I should tell the truth about my bisexuality when starting a new relationship. Otherwise keeping that kind of secret can be pretty damaging if you're getting serious about the other person. When I confessed to my current gf that I was bi, she laughed and admitted that she still dug chicks. We have a great relationship, the sex is great, but there's also trust because we were honest with each other.
 

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If you’re comfortable and secure with yourself is it easier to enter into a open relationship? I would think if you are insecure having an open relationship won’t work so well.

Totally true. Trust, communication, and a healthy sense of sense are important.
 
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I'm a 50-50 right down the middle bisexual guy. I'm married to a wonderful woman and while I may check people out and perv on here, I wouldn't cheat on her in a million years, with anyone else. Period.

As stated before, this post is borne of the offensive stereotype that bisexuals will screw anything and can't remain faithful.
 

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I believe if you're in a committed relationship you should be faithful regardless of your sexuality. if this is not possible, don't tell someone you can commit. I am in a committed relationship with a woman that I love and I use porn to satisfy my same sex urges.

This totally proves my point. Your turning to porn to satisfy your same sex urges. However one day porn might not be enough and your gonna find yourself wanting to find a real man to have sex with because porn will only intensifying those urges.