Javierdude22: DMW and Blo...thanx for your posts....they are very insightfull....
I have a problem with attention so im gonna wrap this up concerning this aspect of the bi-topic.
DMW...although i appreciate your post very much...it is actually nót so much my family i am worried about. Mainly, cause i intend to not let them know ever...that will not be hard, as they will not expect it from me, even if ill be single at 40. It is very much so the religion part...and although in part i do agree that, like many would claim, it is silly to be -unhappy- over a religion, i feel strong about it. Like some people feel strong about being vegetarian, although the analogy isnt all that :-/
DMW, your right in the sense that the catholic church accepts homosexuals, they however do not accept the act of homo sexual sex, and the pope many times advocates this stand. Hell will be the consequence, so he claims. The bible has a few notes on the topic as well, but as i mentioned somewhere earlier, it is open for interpretation.
My -problem- however is kinda different. It is two tiered.
I have moral feelings about sex with guys, thats the religion part. I feel like total crap after i had sex with -em. But i do feel some sort of attraction to them.
The attraction however does not go so far that i feel strong emotionally...it tends to go towards being buds, and having occasional sex on the side...dont know how to explain it.
With girls, i like the physical sex part less, but i feel stronger about them emotionally, although it takes me quite some time to feel anything for anyone. Even though i am very emotional about friends and my family.
Either way: this will not fit the relationship franework of the western society, meaning being monogamous, feeling secure, love, and maybe having kids and all, basically: a family life. I hold that framework kinda dear, cause i just happen to be traditional like that.
So it doesnt fit a relationship, but in a certain way i could live with that, i could throw these -worldly- desires (a monogamous relationship, kids, etc) out the door, and live with a certain degree of unhappiness about that, and focus on other things, like my career, relatives etc.
But at the same time, i would occasionally have to follow that -hopping- lifestyle, cause the desires would maybe get too strong from time to time. Thats when the religion part kicks in, cause lets be honest: sucha life does not fit any religions ideas of a good lifestyle, and certainly not the christian one. I wanna adhere to what i am Being asked, which is the ten commandments,and the many guides to life the Bible gives us...meaning no causal sex for example.
So what to do, ya know. Thats kinda my point. I have to say that, writing this, it became very clear finally, what i have been trying to get at all along, but i am not sure if anyone outside of my head understands what im saying.
Laterz