Bisexual <--> Monogamy

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  1. Bariton

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    If you are bisexual,
    does it mean you have you have a (sexual) relationships with men and women at the same time?

    Or are you serial monogamous: one time with a man, the other time with a women.
     
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    I've always thought that bisexuality meant you had the ability to see the beauty in both sexes and were attracted to each of them. It doesn't have anything to do with monogamy.

    I think it depends on how young you are too.

    STEREOTYPE ALERT!!!!

    Bi-sexuals who are younger, tend to explore more, having partners and seeing what they like. As you get older, I think they still see the beauty of both, but many have chosen a side they would like to stay with, to settle down with. There are exceptions, of course (Ian_the_tall comes to mind, with a boyfriend and girlfriend, with child in a committed relationship):rolleyes:
     
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    I like men and women equally,but now that I'm married again,it's likely I will be monogamous,with Mr. Ed. Although Mr. Ed is also bisexual,I encourage him, to go with his feeling for whom or whatever,catches his fancy. I would totally like to see him, with another man,if he didn't object.
    Unfortunately for me, he say's he doesn't want to "cheat" on me. I don't consider it cheating,I call it being true to yourself. I certainly wouldn't leave him just because he had sex with a man. It's only sex.
    As usual Jeff is right on the money!
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
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    My buddy is new to being bi and i have to say my hat is off to him for having the courage to act on his feelings. I have known him and worked with him for 18yrs and never knew that maybe he might like guys. So after 2.5yrs, we are still seeing each other. When he can make time away from his g/f, which he trys very often to do, he is at my place and we are in bed, and all i can say is yes at times it is very frustrating because he will be scared to try something, or if i do something to him it "freaks" him out, so to me it has been a real learning curve to be with this man, but i do enjoy it very much when he can make it over.
    So i guess to answer the question does being bi mean you are a player? I guess it all depends on the person.
     
  6. biguy2738

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    Bariton, no, just because one is bisexual, one need not necessarily have sexual relationships with men and women at the same time.

    Bisexuality comes in more than 13 different forms and it's possible for someone to have a combination of them within their sexual makeup.

    Here's a couple of examples:

    ALTERNATING BISEXUALS:
    May have a relationship with a man and then after that relationship ends, may choose a female partner for a subsequent relationship, and may go back to a male partner next.

    CONCURRENT RELATIONSHIP BISEXUALS:
    Have a primary relationship with one gender only but have other casual or secondary relationships with people of another gender at the same time.

    EMOTIONAL BISEXUALS:
    Have intimate emotional relationships with both men and women, but only one sexual relationship with one gender.

    INTEGRATED BISEXUALS:
    Have more than one primary relationship at the same time, one with a man and one with a woman.

    LATENT BISEXUALS:
    Completely straight or gay/lesbian in behaviour but have strong desires for sex wiht another gender, but have never acted on it.

    TRANSITIONAL BISEXUALS:
    Temporarily identify as bisexual while in the process of moving from being straight to being gay or lesbian, or going from being gay or lesbian to being heterosexual.

    With all of these differing forms as well one's preference ratio (a bisexual can express their bisexuality/attraction to a gender) coming with so many variances - predominantly heterosexual, a bit more heterosexual than homosexual, an equal attraction to men and women, slightly homosexual, predominantly homosexual, it's really difficult to cut all bisexuals from the same cloth or to stereotype. Some are monogamous, some aren't. Some by choice, some aren't. That's just the way it is and all that we can do is to try to discover our own truth/reality and establish our norms and values based on it.
     
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    Nicely done, sir.:biggrin1:
     
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  9. rob_just_rob

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    Some bisexuals are monogamous and some aren't. When I was in my bisexual phase, I was "emotionally monogamous" and sexually non-monogamous. Now, I'm still "emotionally monogamous" and mostly monogamous sexually.

    It's been my experience than bisexuals are less likely to be monogamous than heterosexuals, but I don't claim to have canvassed an exhaustive sample size.
     
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    All that's bit complex for me, I just enjoy sex with women maily and men occassionally but either when I can get it :smile:
     
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