Chiming in that this is total bollocks. My porn collection is almost exclusively gay-male. I love seeing miles of manflesh and men touching each other.dongalong said:For the above reasons I don't think that watching 2 guys enjoying each other's bodies would give much cerebral stimulation to women. That is why they don't encourage it.
I wanted to quote this whole post. Mme. Zora, you are officially a hero of mine.madame_zora said:...No one knows how "all women feel" on any given subject, so it would do us all some good to take a step back and realise that women are individuals, just like men... Of course women have as many partners as men! Who do you think the men are fucking? Men don't like to think that the woman they are fucking has been with other men and knows the difference between good sex and bad, and this is the basis for every cultural injustice we suffer...
mercurialbliss was also right on the money with the brother's "introductions to bisexuality." If these girls continued putting on shows for straight guys, that does not make them bisexual, that makes them calculating. They know they'll get attention and a reaction, so they pursue it.mercurialbliss said:If she continued her sexual activities with women without other men present or encouragement from other men, then i'd say she's most likely bisexual. If she's continuing to carry on FFM's, then i'd question her bisexuality.
sares said:Chiming in that this is total bollocks. My porn collection is almost exclusively gay-male. I love seeing miles of manflesh and men touching each other.
This is also because gay porn isn't as mainstream (read: plastic and boring) as het porn, so you're more likely to see a really good blowjob, a gentle touch, some real passion. Sometimes amateur het is good when the girl is really into it.
My point is, women don't dislike porn because they're "cerebral," they dislike porn because most porn is really shitty.
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There it is in writing. Thank you, Sares.
Stronzo said:Welcome sares.
My fear is that our detractors are skipping over the posts written by the females in our midst. Your input is sorely needed.
Thanks, Stronzo
mercurialbliss said:sares said:Chiming in that this is total bollocks. My porn collection is almost exclusively gay-male. I love seeing miles of manflesh and men touching each other.
This is also because gay porn isn't as mainstream (read: plastic and boring) as het porn, so you're more likely to see a really good blowjob, a gentle touch, some real passion. Sometimes amateur het is good when the girl is really into it.
My point is, women don't dislike porn because they're "cerebral," they dislike porn because most porn is really shitty.
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There it is in writing. Thank you, Sares.
Mercurialbliss:
may I ask you a question??
I can read in this thread, that some women say that they watch male gay porn, and, they would like to encourage their male lovers to engage in homosexual encounters w other males .
I am straight, and never heard of such a thing. I am not here to insult no one ( I can read what is been thrown around ) , I am interested in bringing my point of view.
Never , a girl has asked me to engage in homosexual acts , never heard of something like that, I have 4 sisters, and, I can hear comments they make about guys that they found attractive, but to their dissappointment, were found to be gay. straight women , from what I know , would dump a BF that was found to do things like that.
It is not putting no one down, it is different sexual preferences. From what I know, most ( if not all ) straight women would not even entertain a thought like that.
Mercurialbliss, I ask you because I read your replies, you seem to be a very well balanced and , a woman that is sure about herself.
Would you encourage your BF to engage in something like that for your amusement?
Does it appeal to you? the notion of your BF and another man??
Would you enjoy seing him engaged with another man?
Not that I need to know, I believe I heard about it extensively. But I want to hear the opinion of straight women.
More over, it is a dead end proposition, both ways, I do not think, a woman can compell me to engage in homosexual acts , because simply I can not, will not ,and , do not want, to do it. That would be like asking me to jump of the empire state building, just because.
Same the other way around. I would not ask my GF to get into lesbian sex, for my pleasure. And, I do not expect a straight woman to comply.
If the man in the example, or the woman, complies to such a request, these two that are complying, are doing so because they want to do it.
Honestly, I can not imagine a straight woman, that is not bi, nor likes women, to go down on another woman, and kiss her, just to please a BF.
It just does not fly.
pichulon said:Same the other way around. I would not ask my GF to get into lesbian sex, for my pleasure. And, I do not expect a straight woman to comply.
If the man in the example, or the woman, complies to such a request, these two that are complying, are doing so because they want to do it.
Honestly, I can not imagine a straight woman, that is not bi, nor likes women, to go down on another woman, and kiss her, just to please a BF.
It just does not fly.
pichulon said:Mercurialbliss:
may I ask you a question??
Of course.
I can read in this thread, that some women say that they watch male gay porn, and, they would like to encourage their male lovers to engage in homosexual encounters w other males .
I am straight, and never heard of such a thing. I am not here to insult no one ( I can read what is been thrown around ) , I am interested in bringing my point of view.
Pichulon, 85-90% of pornography is created for heterosexual men. There is pornography for heterosexual women but most women find it boring because it's based on preconceived notions of what women find sexually enticing. Gay male porn is on the rise and heterosexual women often find this more palatable because the sex involved in gay male porn is more egalitarian. Everyone is pleasured in gay male porn, whereas in hetero porn the focus is on the pleasure of the man, or what he/they are doing TO the woman not FOR her. If anyone can find hetero porn with a woman having an actual orgasm, please let me know. Ive yet to see a woman have a real orgasm in hetero porn. And yes, we can tell if it's fake.
As for desiring male lovers engaging in homosexual encounters, it's a fantasy like any other. Women, like men, have fantasies. Madame Zora's already addressed this point. Not only about men performing on each other either. The problem is that if you ask a woman about her fantasies, she may feel uncomfortable divulging that information for fear of what others may say (as I addressed earlier). When society keeps drilling into you that fantasies are a no-no, you will keep them to yourself. Heterosexual men haven't experienced this which makes it more difficult for them to understand.
Never , a girl has asked me to engage in homosexual acts , never heard of something like that, I have 4 sisters, and, I can hear comments they make about guys that they found attractive, but to their dissappointment, were found to be gay. straight women , from what I know , would dump a BF that was found to do things like that.
It is not putting no one down, it is different sexual preferences. From what I know, most ( if not all ) straight women would not even entertain a thought like that.
Let's clarify a few things here. This thread is about women who are pressured into performing single sex acts from hetero men. Women won't ask you to perform same sex acts for their benefit because they are afraid you, like other many other men, would dump them in an instant for suggesting it. This isn't about being attracted to another man and discovering he's gay, that's another issue. But straight women are kowtowing to men's desires to have two women in the same bed, which has to stop if the men aren't willing to reciprocate in kind. If a man has two women who aren't gay and they're present to pleasure him and not each other, that's fine (that was my MFM situation. They weren't even remotely interested in each other, only me). The problem lies with men who are pressuring their sexual partners to perform on each other when they're not gay. The women who perform on each other are highly praised for doing so; therefore, they keep performing. My experience, as you read, was the exact opposite.
Mercurialbliss, I ask you because I read your replies, you seem to be a very well balanced and , a woman that is sure about herself.
Would you encourage your BF to engage in something like that for your amusement?
Does it appeal to you? the notion of your BF and another man??
Would you enjoy seing him engaged with another man?
I wouldn't encourage it unless he were bisexual and desired it for himself as well. And even then, the "talk" about the repurcussions on the relationships would be necessary at that point. But to directly answer your question, no. Most hetero men don't want to perform same sex acts and I respect their wishes. My amusement is not the most important part of the equation; however, our mutual desires are.
Honestly, I can not imagine a straight woman, that is not bi, nor likes women, to go down on another woman, and kiss her, just to please a BF.
It just does not fly.
mercurialbliss said:There is one more aspect of this topic that crossed my mind. Heterosexual men are encouraged to indulge in their fantasies while women aren't. This is ever-so-slowly changing for the better, but only recently have women become more vocal about their desires. Thus, some heterosexual men are taken aback when they're told women share the similar sex drives and fantasies and disbelieve us when we tell them otherwise. This is why all women need to speak loudly and clearly about their desires.
Since you quoted me, I figured I should clarify as well. Like mercurialbliss, I like gay male porn for visual fantasy stimulation, but:pichulon said:I can read in this thread, that some women say that they watch male gay porn, and, they would like to encourage their male lovers to engage in homosexual encounters w other males. I am straight, and never heard of such a thing.
I like watching men, but I don't want to see my own partner in bed with another man, because I know that doesn't turn his crank. Knowing he would be performing only for my benefit would be a massive turnoff. I absolutely make the distinction between enjoying pornography with bisexual overtones and expecting my husband to act out.mercurialbliss said:I wouldn't encourage [my partner to have a MMF] unless he were bisexual and desired it for himself as well.
Just because you can't imagine it doesn't mean it isn't happening. The linked article is all about girls performing public "lesbian" acts for the benefit of male admirers.pichulon said:Honestly, I can not imagine a straight woman, that is not bi, nor likes women, to go down on another woman, and kiss her, just to please a BF. It just does not fly.
sares said:Just because you can't imagine it doesn't mean it isn't happening. The linked article is all about girls performing public "lesbian" acts for the benefit of male admirers.
dong20 said:Ha, I've seen this same 'argument' a thousand times, here and elsewhere, I've not seen it first hand, therefore it doesn't exist. Well, I've never seen a Lion chase, catch and eat a Zebra first hand yet I'm pretty sure it happens.
Lesbian 'acts' are just that; acts, and thus have little if any relevance to this thread as they have little if any relevance to bisexuality beyond the skewed perception of those watching them. The participants already know this of course and well.
I very seldom watch porn, for the reason yourself and MB have so ably said; it's 95% formulaic, boring tripe. The remaining 5% that 'works' for me really falls more into erotica than porn. For me it's because I think the mind can create a scenario far more erotic than the eye. That 5% can just help get the process started and as often as not even that is unnecessary. All it takes is the right person and a little imagination. Rob, on this, I guess I may be fashioned too.
Two women 'together' is only really appealling in the context of an MFF aimed at my pleasure, and as MB says I agree that's not really two women 'together' in that sense anyway. That's probably selfish but there you go. It's never happened, except, on occasion in my warped and twisted mind and it probably never will. I expect in reality it would be somewhat less satisfying, riddled with perfomance anxiety and unrealistic expectations.
I may be atypical but certainly, for me, lesbian porn also has only minimal appeal and I suspect even that is only a subconsious attempt at transposing myself into the 'mix'. I've watched little of it for the simple reason that as an end in itself, it's of no real interest, fails to punch my buttons and often is actually quite boring. I get zero sexual response from watching two men 'together', it simply holds no interest for me, it never has. I have no interest in an MFM, perhaps I don't share well, perhaps I'm repressed, or most likely my mind is simply not wired that way. In some ways it's true, men don't multi-task...
As for the issue of coercion, for whatever reason, well, it's a no no. Dongalongs 'brother' is truly deluding himself if he believes he 'introduced' those girls into experiencing anything beyond his beery breath and misplaced ego.
If I ask a girl to do something and she refuses point blank (not refusal as in "Sorry, I'm not in the mood for that now, maybe tomorrow") as in; "no, end of story" well, that's the end of it. I would be mortified and dissappointed if she acquiesced merely out of misplaced loyalty or fear of 'losing' me. This works both ways of course and if either party doesn't like the others refusal, well, they know where the door is.
I mean the above without condemnation because I do understand what can make someone do something for such reasons, I have done so myself, though never in the sexual realm. It's not wrong to put someone elses needs above ones own but it should be an informed, balanced and conscious decision, free from direct emotional pressure. Sadly it doesn't always work that way.
rawbone8 [QUOTE said:The fact that these acts can be degrading to the partner, or that she (or he in the case of gay couples) is coerced into participating speaks to the selfishness of the instigator. I think it also can be viewed as an angry hetero backlash, at the changes feminism has brought to society. Revenge in bed.[/QUOTE]
This statement spooked me. How unnerving if it's true. Small wonder as to why the bisexual chic phenomenon exists.
But it is too easy to state that most hetrosexual males endorse this. Just because the media jumps on it as a problem for some does not make it endemic. I acknowledge that it is a real and serious problem. I don't believe that it is the behaviour of the majority.
Real and serious problems of this nature were once the opinions of the majority, unfortunately. Some people just can't let go and their attitudes prevail regardless. Personally, I believe the problem doesn't appear to be widespread because the behavior is subtle, not overt.
The weak minded and insecure female (or male) who can not say no and tell the asshole to fuck off is a pitiable soul. Young women are more likely to be in this position. Pop kulture maven Madonna kisses Britney, so it must be like um hawt, right? Many hip hop and rap lyrics are rife with misogyny. Pink has a great rebuttal pop message for them.
So sad, but true.