Bisexuals and Monosexuals. What are your thoughts?

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  1. widenine

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    Those who self-identify as gay or straight have a primary, single sex orientation. I refer to them as monosexuals ... as opposed to bisexuals. In that sense homosexuals and heterosexuals may have a common point of view. I see self-identifying bisexuals as more enlightened and as having a heightened sense of freedom in their sexual expression. It just looks that way to me. What do you think?
     
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    Well, I think you are stirring up a hornet's nest, but as a bi guy, I don't disagree with you. I was just thinking today about the fun that I've had with both sexes, and feeling bad for ... as you put it ... monosexuals for missing out. But, hey, to each his own.
     
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    There's no judgement coming from this end. I'm telling it as I see it. That's why I'm asking for other perspectives. There really shouldn't be any raw nerves or "hornets" disturbed by this :)
     
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    No, I think it's good to stir this up. People who identify as totally gay or totally straight often don't understand what it means to be bi ... the challenges, the opportunities, and how it's a real, intrinsic part of who we are; it's not just that we're afraid to commit to being straight or gay. I think it's a gift.
     
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    If all you do is wank yourself, does it make you a monohomosexual?
     
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    it makes you auto-sexual.
     
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    i don't think humans are monosexual by nature.

    but no one wants to hear that. well in this case, read.
     
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    I think it makes you a Manusexual.

    Manu being the Latin word for Hand.
     
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    I could not agree more with krispdx.

    I have always thought that being BI was a gift, a blessing, and an honor.
    If only the world saw it the same way.

    I have stopped trying to explain my orientation to people (it does no good
    to try to "convience") that I am not a "closet Gay" and just denying that
    fact to myself. But, I'm not "just" gay. Part of me likes men and the other
    part likes women. I personally don't see that's a problem to understand.
     
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    it's only a hard concept to grasp for mindless followers and the ignorant. our society has been so socially conditioned to think of sexuality in a very narrow, one-dimensional way.
     
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    Agreed, I think I think that if there were no social constraints, at either end of the scale, around ten percent would be 'mono', the rest bi.
     
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    so if i'm asexual, what does that make me?:confused:
     
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    I don't think either group has any advantage over the other...

    I don't believe that straights or gays are necessarily less free sexually simply because they have a preference & choose to stick to it...
     
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    I've always thought everyones bi
     
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    an issue ive noticed concerning bisexuality is the 'trendiness' of it...

    im not accusing anyone on this board, i dont know anyone personally, so dont get defensive...
    but im sure many of us have gone to some bar or club and seen two girls make out...and i dont mean to generalize, but i would guess that 90 out of 100 are just doing it for attention...they want the surrounding guys to whistle & yell & buy them more drinks...

    ive had this discussion with bi girls before, and they agree with me...it makes it harder for an honestly bisexual girl to find a relationship, because she doesnt want to fall for a girl who is just messing around for attention.

    the only bi friends i have a female, so i dont really know about the male aspect, ive never seen two guys make out at a bar just to get attention.
     
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    BIPHOBIA is very real, mates. You all touched on several of the primary reasons that monosexism plagues us. Of course, a lot also depends on the environment or social setting you're in. The example drumstyck gave about bi girls reminds me of a good mate of mine back home who crossed the pond for graduate school in counseling and attempted to date as an openly bi man.
    Neither the women or men he met accepted his being bisexual: in his case the girl he was seeing felt as though she alone would never be enough to satisfy his needs.

    In many ways its like being BIracial in some respects. Here is an individual of two ethnic bkgrounds and yet they are often never fully accepted in either community for that 'other half'. We could all stand to learn to be more tolerant of the differences between us.
     
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    "In many ways its like being BIracial in some respects. Here is an individual of two ethnic bkgrounds and yet they are often never fully accepted in either community for that 'other half'. We could all stand to learn to be more tolerant of the differences between us."

    Just a note:

    Your example above is definitely not true in the U.S. Almost all blacks in America are mixed to some degree. We can be three quarters something else or one tenth. Usually, they are embraced as black and, if part white, never embraced by anyone as white. This is especially true is they grow up in the black cultural traditions.
     
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    Asexual is someone who has no interest in having sex with another person. Asexuals are neither straight nor gay. They just don't want to have sex. That's it.
     
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    AVG_Joe: Assexual?

    That means you've chosen Not to be sexually active. There are usually issues to be dealt with that have led to an emotional detachment from sexual outlets ... and therefore you're physically non-responsive. Is this really how you see yourself?
     
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    Let me make it clear that I am not an asexual. I just explain the definition of asexual.
     
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