Bisexuals DO exist!

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  1. B_henry miller

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    Sort of in response to the earlier thread where someone said that we don't exist....
    http://www.lpsg.org/139776-do-bisexual-men-exist.html

    I find that my attaction to men is strengthening my attraction to women, and vice versa. It's as if opening myself to an erotic attraction to men has opened the floodgates and made me that much more open to my erotic attraction to women. Just last night, I had an encounter with a man ... and later I was turned on by two hot straight women at a night club. I know that I was genuinely turned on by the women. Why would I lie to myself? That would be pointless. :rolleyes:
     
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    Count me in!

    Not only do we exist. We get to experience it all!
     
  3. D_Jared Padalicki

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    Yeah, why would you lie :rolleyes: it's like changing your percentages every single time :rolleyes: you know, why doing such thing
     
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    I've thought a good deal about this. I once considered myself a bisexual. But increasingly I'm of the belief people are sexual.

    Are there ABSOLUTE heterosexual and ABSOLUTE homosexuals? Yes I think there are but I think their numbers are relatively few.

    There's so much that influences us in what we do sexually. First there's genetics (which I consider the biggie), then there's the family in which we're raised, and then there's the society into which we're born.

    Speaking for me only I'm a homosexual whose dabbled in heterosexuality and still find the notion of heterosexual pornography erotic. I can see myself performing in a threeway with another guy and a woman but it would have to be a total involvement kind of thing.

    This notion of two men with a woman but neither of them touching one another is gross - only "inflicting" penis on the woman.

    That, to me, sounds a bit control-related verging on the notion of rape.
     
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    I know human sexuality is fluid but chamealianatic? You? Now that's just silly.
     
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    I only gave you the gist of my own experience Nick. What I wrote is my truth as I've lived it and my observations as I've taken them in.

    We'll call it opinon.
     
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    Of course bisexuals exist. Those who would propose that someone is only one sexuality at any given time are just ridiculous. Is the overwhelming majority of the population asexual, because at any given time most people are NOT having sex? Are those who are masturbating autosexuals? I mean, c'mon. If you, as an individual, find that you are aroused by both male and female, and you find that the term "bisexual" fits you based on your ability to be aroused by members of both sexes, the by golly, you're a bisexual!!!
     
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    Im not even here.
     
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    I agree with what you wrote about sexuality and influences and orientation.

    Do you identify as being sexual, bisexual, or gay? Do politics have anything to do with it?

    I'm not sure why you think that two men having a MFM 3 way with no homosexual sex or contact is somehow "rape" or gross?

    Would you say the same about a FMF 3 way where two women have sex with a man but no homosexual sex or contact goes on?

    I'm sure there are men and women here who fantasize about the above happening and they do not see it as rape or gross.

    I see nothing wrong with someone not wanting to do something sexually that they are not into like having gay/bisexual sex if they are not bisexual.

    I'm all for people doing what they want sexually with other consenting adults as long as it's safe, sane, and consensual. This includes consensual "rape" scenes too.

    I know that people do have opinions of biphobia but they're just ignorant and hypocritical and need to get out more.
     
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    Okay.

    None of them. If someone else needs to place me neatly into a pigeonhole to accomodate their limitied ability at the diverse nature of humankind I'd reluctantly write "homosexual". But I'm really none of the above.

    Not one blessed thing. How would politics influence one's sexual orientation? I'm curious.

    A ménage à trois is just that; three people. All should involve themselves if I'm to participate. Otherwise I'd want no part and like anyone else I tend to look at that sort of an arrangement as a very subjective thing if I'm one of the players.

    As stated in my previous I (I) perceive it as domination and subjugation more than I do sex. From pornography I've seen where this has been the situation the woman invariably does not appear to be enjoying it and invariably get jizzed on her face by both mean. There's a demeaning piece in it to me. The men call her "slut" and she looks up at one man as she gives him head with a smile aching for approval (and while he often tries to choke her with his thrust) while the other dude rams his dong up her asshole. That's why I said gross.

    And don't get me started on "double dipping".

    What's in that for her? Nada.

    If (as I perceive it) the woman is not enjoying it (in spite of her scripted ooooooooos and ahhhhhhhhhhs mostly sounding like pain) I say it's only another example of heterosexual male dominance and has little to do with sex. If a guy gets his rocks off imposing himself sexually on a woman I don't think of it as pleasurable for the woman. The way I (again IMO here) perceive sex it's a completely mutually beneficial experience.

    Never seen one. And I submit should they exist they're rare.

    Are you sure? Find me one and we'll talk.

    Okay. But what's that got to do with anything I wrote? I can tell you from personal hands-on experience I've never once had sex when I haven't wanted to. I simply won't rise to the occasion. I like that my dick has that reaction. No one's forcing anyone to do anything here. That's my point in writing you this lengthy response. I think anything forced is not sex. Again though - my opinion.

    Now we're getting into iffy territory.

    In my view the word consensual is key here. Consensual and rape are mutually exclusive in my opinion... as is the notion of the "good kind of threeway MFF" and the so-called "bad kind of threeway" according to heterosexual men the MMF variety where the guys have interaction.

    It's very telling to me that many hetero men have said "oh women are more prone to bisexuality where men aren't".

    They didn't invent the term "circle jerk" because there were women on site....

    As much as I realize that society dictates that hetero men say that lest something think them homosexual - it's utter unadulterated bullshit in my view.

    never heard of it

    ** aside: lol @ "by golly!" :biggrin1:
     
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    I hardly change my percentage every time. I've changed it like three times, from 100% straight to 50/50 and now to 70/30. I'm hardly the only person on this forum to change percentages.

    I went from "straight" to "bisexual" and stayed there. The percentage thing is inexact. Whether 50/50 or 70/30, I'm still "bisexual." The percentage thing should probably actually be converted into options like what are on MySpace: "straight," "bisexual," or "gay."
     
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    But do any of us really exist?
     
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    funny, who said I was talking about you :rolleyes:
    if you think the percentage is wrong, why don't u use insure or leave it blank. You can't change your percentages like that, for yourself it is like telling lies.
     
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    I definitely agree with you on this one, Stronzo. In fact, this is partly why the Kinsey scale came about. Sexuality isn't dichotomous (heterosexual or homosexual) and once you add bisexual in the mix, people often assume it's 50-50.

    One of the things I've been impressed with about this site from the moment I stumbled onto it was the way it allowed you to select the percentage you are attracted to men/women/both. It's something that very few places have and/or are even aware of and I think it's great.

    But still, the problem lies in labeling. In social psychology, there are theories that people have an inherent need to sort everything into nice, neat, labeled categories and keep them that way. By nature, we're resistant to change and we don't want to re-think the labels we've already assigned everything--it uses up too many of our mental resources. Hence a lot of people's inability to grasp the concept of bisexuality.

    And on a personal note, about a month ago, I told a friend that I was bisexual and we got to talking about boyfriends/girlfriends. After talking for a little bit, he asked me if down the line I saw myself with a man or a woman. When I replied that I could honestly see myself with either and couldn't answer the question properly, he asked me again, if it would it be a man or a woman? It took a lot of explaining on my part and I'm still not sure he fully understood.

    To me, bisexuality is a huge gray area in the realm of sexuality and there are some who only see it in terms of black and white, heterosexual or homosexual, not really in-between.
     
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    How come? Sexuality is not a set quality, rather a fluid or dynamic phenomenon.
     
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    :rolleyes: How about we ban all of the breeders from posting juvenile comments for an entire weekend?
     
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    I need to find a couple to see if I am bisexual!!!!
     
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    Honey. I wasn't talking to you. For what it's worth, I was talking to the OP. Promise.
     
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