Black guys who ONLY date white guys...

[Fishsqueezee69]

They're both afraid to answer the question if you didn't notice lol.

Both of them ignored what I'm asking, because they know damn well what their answers will lead them to. I've had this debate with friends before and I prove my point with those questions. It's always just a "preference" until you make them explain the reasoning. They know exactly why they refuse to answer truthfully. Not my first rodeo lol.

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I have done it a little differently. I ask, what do you like in a person? Then I ask, what about ppl from race X doesn't fit those characteristics?

But yes, in the end if you are screening ppl out based on race, that is technically racist. There is no if or buts.

 

[Fishsqueezee69]

I like white guys...

So you don't like anything else at all?

 

[deleted15805821]

Their reason is irrelevant, their body their choice.

I guess you answer questions you want to and ignore the ones that might give you a headache and/or expose the nonsense in your responses. To wit:

Black guys who ONLY date white guys...

 

[deleted21466931]

They're both afraid to answer the question if you didn't notice lol.

Both of them ignored what I'm asking, because they know damn well what their answers will lead them to. I've had this debate with friends before and I prove my point with those questions. It's always just a "preference" until you make them explain the reasoning. They know exactly why they refuse to answer truthfully. Not my first rodeo lol.

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Sweetie... I'm not afraid of some 24yo Grindr boy.

My personal preference is that I don't have a preference. I have been with the same man for 25 years, but before I met him I seriously dated a ginger Scotsman, a brown-skinned Mizrahi Jewish guy, and an impossibly handsome Greek guy who turned-out to be a total douche.

Your juvenile attempts at a "gotcha" have failed, because you're just a boy, and I could have you for breakfast, any day of the week.

Good luck finding what you want. With your attitude, you're sure gonna need it.

 

[Peter1999]

My personal preference is that I don't have a preference.

All of a sudden you have no preferences after stating you had preferences. How very convenient those preferences vanished when pressed.

Gurl your legs are buckling under the weight of your bs.

 

[Fishsqueezee69]

Sweetie... I'm not afraid of some 24yo Grindr boy.

My personal preference is that I don't have a preference. I have been with the same man for 25 years, but before I met him I seriously dated a ginger Scotsman, a brown-skinned Mizrahi Jewish guy, and an impossibly handsome Greek guy who turned-out to be a total douche.

Your juvenile attempts at a "gotcha" have failed, because you're just a boy, and I could have you for breakfast, any day of the week.

Good luck finding what you want. With your attitude, you're sure gonna need it.

You did say that no one should call you a racist because of your personal dating preferences.

BTW I think this list you provide is a lot less impressive than you think it is.

 

[Onryoki]

Personally I don’t give a damn what someone’s skin colour or heritage is. If I find a guy cute and he finds me cute and we like each other we’re gonna date.

 

[ahaahahahaa]

You know, the point I think we are all trying to make here is not that we want you to give unfettered access to your body to every non-white person in this world (I assume you are white). The point is that we need to recognize racist attitudes within each and every one of us.

The issue with your statement is that you don't say, I tend to generally prefer to date ppl of x or y race or culture. The issue is you are saying you can base your dating preferences on race and exclude an entire group of ppl based on their race.

Like, I don't get why it is ok to put "dating preference: white only" or the equivalent on a dating profile. Just let ppl message you and reject them for who they are or what they look like.

I agree. You should tell that to the other people in here trying to force others to date people they dont like, not me.

 

[Fishsqueezee69]

I agree. You should tell that to the other people in here trying to force others to date people they dont like, not me.

No one here advocates for such a thing. I haven't seen it in any of the comments above and replies to you. What we (at least I) advocate is that you don't base your dating preferences on race. It should be down to individuals. To say all or must ppl of X race or Y country are undateable and/or ugly is quiet a strong statement that seems unjustifiable to me.

 

[Peter1999]

I agree. You should tell that to the other people in here trying to force others to date people they dont like, not me.

Absolutely no one said this. We're calling out the fact that you're willing to deny entire groups of people simply because of skin color or race aka definition of RACISM.

 

[Peter1999]

Personally I don’t give a damn what someone’s skin colour or heritage is. If I find a guy cute and he finds me cute and we like each other we’re gonna date.

Exactly my mentality. Someone's race or skin color never even crosses my mind if I find someone attractive. It wasn't until I started openly dating in the gay community that I started seeing "no blacks, no Asians" in many profiles or being openly said in bars in Weho. Hell, I had a best friend that used to say he "wasn't racist, but guys with darker skin turned him off." Like how is that not racist? Lol

I personally have no knowledge of being turned down because of my ethnicity, but I also recognize it's because I'm an in shape, light skin Latino.

 

[Fishsqueezee69]

Exactly my mentality. Someone's race or skin color never even crosses my mind if I find someone attractive. It wasn't until I started openly dating in the gay community that I started seeing "no blacks, no Asians" in many profiles or being openly said in bars in Weho. Hell, I had a best friend that used to say he "wasn't racist, but guys with darker skin turned him off." Like how is that not racist? Lol

I personally have no knowledge of being turned down because of my ethnicity, but I also recognize it's because I'm an in shape, light skin Latino.

Same here. We'll, when I was dating I was a fairly in shape Latino with light skin and light eyes.

Even then, I think some ppl did turn me down because of being Hispanic but I can't proof that... it's just a hunch.

What I can say with certainty is that being a latino, some guys would want to be with me just for the sex and not to date me. They wanted to know what it was like to be with a hot latino papi, if you know what I mean. This may be especially true for us Puertorricans as we have a reputation and there are stereotypes about us.

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[Peter1999]

Same here. We'll, when I was dating I was a fairly in shape Latino with light skin and light eyes.

Even then, I think some ppl did turn me down because of being Hispanic but I can't proof that... it's just a hunch.

What I can say with certainty is that being a latino, some guys would want to be with me just for the sex and not to date me. They wanted to know what it was like to be with a hot latino papi, if you know what I mean. This may be especially true for us Puertorricans as we have a reputation and there are stereotypes about us.

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Yeah I know what you mean.

Like I said, my bestie said he isn't racist because he's willing to be with any race as long as their light skinned. He said this with such a serious face as if he had ended racism himself. So impressive.

 

[Peter1999]

I'm still waiting for you to tell us which skin color/ethnicity/race you don't find attractive and the reasons why. Please elaborate in detail. (CANNOT BE: because I'm not attracted to them.)

 

[wsnki07]

I'm black. My current partner is white. I've dated Black men, Asian, Hispanic, and more. I was mainly attracted to Black and Hispanic men growing up. I believed in the "my penis has innate desires that i just cant help, etc etc" but life is more nuanced than that. I grew up in a predominately Black and Hispanic area and consumed media that had predominately attractive Black and Brown men that I related to, so it's no surprise what my attraction was lol

My "preference" for Asian men began where I crushed on this MMA dude and suddenly I found myself attracted to asian men all around me. The most I remember from that time was the way I projected these idealized aspects to every Asian dude I fancied. It was definitely borderline fetishization and I got a wake up call when the reality never lived up to the fantasies I projected onto them.

Thankfully, I realized by then that preferences to me are nothing more than projected fantasies based on whatever preconceived notions that I had of that person based on their race and ethnicity.

And thankfully I grew out of that many years ago so I could be more honest with myself regarding who i found attractive and why. I don't think i'd be with my partner now if he wasn't as consciously aware of these things as I am.

 

[Peter1999]

I'm black. My current partner is white. I've dated Black men, Asian, Hispanic, and more. I was mainly attracted to Black and Hispanic men growing up. I believed in the "my penis has innate desires that i just cant help, etc etc" but life is more nuanced than that. I grew up in a predominately Black and Hispanic area and consumed media that had predominately attractive Black and Brown men that I related to, so it's no surprise what my attraction was lol

My "preference" for Asian men began where I crushed on this MMA dude and suddenly I found myself attracted to asian men all around me. The most I remember from that time was the way I projected these idealized aspects to every Asian dude I fancied. It was definitely borderline fetishization and I got a wake up call when the reality never lived up to the fantasies I projected onto them.

Thankfully, I realized by then that preferences to me are nothing more than projected fantasies based on whatever preconceived notions that I had of that person based on their race and ethnicity.

And thankfully I grew out of that many years ago so I could be more honest with myself regarding who i found attractive and why. I don't think i'd be with my partner now if he wasn't as consciously aware of these things as I am.

Interesting and I can see your point.

So you made "projected fantasies" on Asian men you wanted due to lust and fantasies inside you. So in your opinion, what would be the projected notions for groups/races you wouldn't want?

 

[Fishsqueezee69]

I'm black. My current partner is white. I've dated Black men, Asian, Hispanic, and more. I was mainly attracted to Black and Hispanic men growing up. I believed in the "my penis has innate desires that i just cant help, etc etc" but life is more nuanced than that. I grew up in a predominately Black and Hispanic area and consumed media that had predominately attractive Black and Brown men that I related to, so it's no surprise what my attraction was lol

My "preference" for Asian men began where I crushed on this MMA dude and suddenly I found myself attracted to asian men all around me. The most I remember from that time was the way I projected these idealized aspects to every Asian dude I fancied. It was definitely borderline fetishization and I got a wake up call when the reality never lived up to the fantasies I projected onto them.

Thankfully, I realized by then that preferences to me are nothing more than projected fantasies based on whatever preconceived notions that I had of that person based on their race and ethnicity.

And thankfully I grew out of that many years ago so I could be more honest with myself regarding who i found attractive and why. I don't think i'd be with my partner now if he wasn't as consciously aware of these things as I am.

Very interesting. I get what you are saying.

I am on my cell but when I am back on my computer, I would like to add to this.

 

[wsnki07]

Interesting and I can see your point.

So you made "projected fantasies" on Asian men you wanted due to lust and fantasies inside you. So in your opinion, what would be the projected notions for groups/races you wouldn't want?

when I was closeted and struggling with homelessness, I definitely had internalized anti blackness in the sense that I could platonically and sexually hook up with black men, but I could not bring myself to be emotionally and romantically intimate with black men. This was so strange to me because I was mainly attracted to my black peers growing up. I believe that was because I didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin based on shitty life experiences in my early adulthood and I was looking for validation outside of me.

even though that was a long time ago, I’m still a bit ashamed that I ever internalized that type of self hatred.

 

[igotthebigone]

Hell yeah! ,I’d have sex with a white guy

 

[Peter1999]

when I was closeted and struggling with homelessness, I definitely had internalized anti blackness in the sense that I could platonically and sexually hook up with black men, but I could not bring myself to be emotionally and romantically intimate with black men. This was so strange to me because I was mainly attracted to my black peers growing up. I believe that was because I didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin based on shitty life experiences in my early adulthood and I was looking for validation outside of me.

even though that was a long time ago, I’m still a bit ashamed that I ever internalized that type of self hatred.

Thank you for being so honest unlike most of the people hiding behind the "my preference" reasoning. You took accountability for the issues inside of yourself instead of just coping. This is exactly what I want people to realize. Thanks again for keeping it real.