He claims not to want to mortify me, but I think he just wants people to think he meant it when he said he wouldn't respond. I'd like to shatter this illusion. In a message titled: A Disgrace
sweatyblackballs said:
I do not want to mortify you so I will extend this privately. Your conduct is oftentimes disgraceful with people, and as you say, you should 'know better'.
I just read your post in 'Black People & Tattoos' and instead of keeping a dignified silence you responded, as I knew an arrogant woman like you would have to and further highlighted your conflicting moral compass. You must understand that your behaviour is that of a grown woman and yet it is not acceptable for a grown woman to behave so irresponsibly. That Uncut did not respond to you is probably due to your overwhelmingly volatile nature, even on a computer screen. I can only suggest you take a leaf out of his noble book. Hypocrisy is not spelt Hypocracy. That you had to look up the word 'Ignoramus' which you thought was 'made-up' also deems you an ignoramus. Just because a question comes from a place of ignorance, it does not mean the asker is not an ignoramus, since this word carries negative and positive connontations ... (look it up.) If I a child asked what a negro is does that mean he/she is not black?
You are also wrong, not all questions are posed from a stance of ignorance. Indeed, some are posed for reassurance and some are rhetorical. Do not challenge me on that for the sake of your own sanity, or better yet, look it up. While you are doing so, look up the word 'lady' and then apply some of the connotations that word holds to your conduct, before you have the audacity to stick your neck out of the racial bracket as an ambassador for racial progress, which you clearly are not.
Regarding your 'trained' singing ... I see you left that well alone or are you a superstar singer on par with Whitney Houston or Ledisi! That would be a rhetorical question. One, in laypersons terms, which does not require an answer.
I am almost certain that if you were singlehandedly responsible for the advancement of the people you claim to be so proud of, we would indubitably be culturally and racially in danger of extinction.
In closing, here is one word you should know the meaning of ...
Ashamed: embarrassed or feeling guilt because of something one has done or a characteristic one has: "you should be ashamed of yourself "
A dignified silence? Have you kept a dignified silence? Or have you written a response? You wrote a response, but you did it secretly hoping everyone would believe you were 'too dignified" to respond. What a gentleman! The perfect counterpart to a lady.
I will almost always back up my statements with logic and metaphors. I do not let contradictions lie unanswered, though I sometimes agree to disagree.
I am not an ignoramus. I sometimes make spelling errors. I also sometimes do not manage to hit the space bar hard enough, causing some words to sit right next to each other. Sometimes I catch these errors, and sometimes I do not. When I do misspell a word, it is not so mangled that the average person cannot understand which word I meant (unless I accidentally spell an entirely different word, which has happened at least once). This is why I do not correct people on spelling unless I think they want to know. I do not, however, use words whose meanings I do not know. You have done so here; your nitpicking over my better-than-average spelling suggests you are ashamed. For what it is worth, I may have thought that the word ignoramous was made-up, but I never used it, I looked it up of my own volition and without being told, and there are NO positive meanings of the word. It means an ignorant person, a person without knowledge, a dunce. Which one of those is positive? (That's another one of those rhetorical questions.) At any rate, if I am faced with something I don't know, then I try to find out. I am completely bereft of willful ignorance.
I am not ashamed.
I have never claimed to be a lady.
I am not arrogant. I bet you think any woman who dares to defend her ideas until they are proven fallacious is arrogant. Admittedly, I'm just guessing.
I know the meaning of the word rhetorical. The question I asked did not require an answer, nor was one desired. Your comprehension skills are more and more appalling every minute if English is in fact your first language. Twice it has been asked, neither time rhetorically.
I left the singing tangent alone because it is just that- a tangent. It was only a metaphor for the difference between amatuers and professionals. But to answer your question I am a classically trained singer with star-quality vocals. I have not been trained to sing pop music, and so would not comapre myself to Whitney Houston (who is not completely untrained though she wasn't classically trained). If I wanted to pursue singing, the next course of action for me would be to go back to my last teacher (who was the BEST I ever had) and resume regular training. I'd need a month to get back to my best I think, and then I'd request to be introduced to a coach. I'd practice with a coach for probably three months working on a repertoire for auditions. I have heard professionals who are exponentially better than myself, and professionals who are not nearly on par with me. To be clear: I can recognize a voice as untrained/poorly trained; that doesn't mean I cannot appreciate that voice if it is also beautiful.
As for the bass, I have played with professionals, and have played in Carnegie Hall. Sadly, whatever it was that used to drive me to practice so obsessively dried up. I never wanted to be a professional musician, though the opportunities did keep presenting themselves. My father was, and his life was very hard despite his talent. He loved his life, but I would not have enjoyed it. For every Whitney Houston there are 1000 Dakota Statons, and 1000 more who are just as gifted, but even less recognized. *shrug* I'm thrilled for anyone who is living his or her own dream. I'm not a hater.
I will concede to one thing: You are right about the reason for asking some questions. I will rephrase my point to more accurately convey my meaning:
When a person has questions they want answered, they are usuall asking because they KNOW they are ignorant of the answer, and because they find this abberant or otherwise unacceptable, they pose the question.
I have a question for you. (Feel free to answer it publicly. LOL) How would challenging you on that point alter my sanity? It would make me incorrect, for sure. However, people can be wrong without being insane. You need a better dictionary, Dude.