AAAAIIIIIEEEEEEEE! I think we are having a serious culture disconnect here. I would like to tell a little story which may (pardon the expression) shed a little light on the story. When I was a kid, I remember riding the school bus one afternoon when two boys who lived down the street from me began engaging in a verbal sparring that many black people know as "putting each other in the dozens" or "the dozens" for short. Allegedly, this came from slavery where slaves were given moentary value for particular characteristics. For those who were younger , older or with flaws it was said that one could buy "A dozen of them for one good one" . For years, skin color has been made to divide and conquer within the black diaspora community. One's Africaness or African features (hair , color features) were looked down upon by the majority, a reminder of slavery. Both of these boys were extremely dark (Bittersweet chocolate or darker)and the dialog went something like this:
Jimmy: Man, you are so dark that they had to turn out the lights to find you....
Chris: Man, you aint funny! Your a.. is so black that ....
It went on for 10 minutes with the argument eventually dissolving into insults about each other's mothers, family members, dogs etc. Now, other people on the bus (white) had been laughing the entire time and were shocked when the boys began to fight in earnest and call each other mofo and etc. But most of the other black people on the bus knew what was going on. Even though it seemed as though it was an innocent game, both of these guys were trading insults that deeply hurt one another because for those very same reasons they had been made to feel less than or not as good by others. I am sure many who are white or of other ethnicities may not understand what seems to be uber sensitivity but when something has been used to deny one basic rights let alone privileges in life it does give pause.
Showoff,
I apologize to you if I in any way helped to start a firestorm from your question but I will tell you if a number of culturally black forum members (LIght and dark alike) had the same instant response it is something to think about. You may not have meant any harm and probably are feeling like "WTF is wrong with these people" 400+ years of post traumatic color stress may be a part of the answer.
LEX,
This is such irony that the thread has brought me full circle to understanding finally what the big deal is. No matter how anyone perceives a comment to be racist or not, I must say that the individuals feeling do count. I am sorry again brother for even seeming to make light of your feelings earlier this year in a similar incident. Though time can not be turned back, there is always a new year. I do hope it brings love and healing for all concerned.
Folks,
This may not have been one of the best years for LPSG in terms of the way in which we treat one another. Let's hope in the year to come that we can all try to step back a few minutes and think before we speak. Stick and stones may break your bones, but words can kill.