Bleeding During Sex

[petite]

I had a partner who wasn't particularly big but used to last too long. At the start of our relationship he wanted sex six times a day. My lubrication quickly dried out and I ended up with nasty friction sores which I showed him. He acted a little guilty but next day when I wanted a break from sex to heal he got angry and claimed I didn't love him.

That guy didn't appreciate you enough. There are lots of other men who will!

My ex used to bleed a small amount during or after sex - usually if we'd been using a certain position where I would go all the way in and nudge her cervix.
She always used to get a bit embarrassed about it (I told her it was fine even though I barely understood what was happening), but she never asked me to stop.
I'm glad to hear it does happen to other guys, I've never really discussed it with anyone. I thought maybe it was just something that happens to some people more than others, like a nosebleed.

I've read that certain kinds of low hormone level birth control pills can cause breakthrough bleeding.

I'm bothered that you would experience this with their partner and not be concerned that there wasn't something seriously wrong that she would need to see a doctor about, if it's coming from her uterus. I'd be concerned about a venereal disease or a tumor or something else scary. It's not normal.

Why didn't you encourage her to go to see her gynecologist about it? Weren't you worried about her health? About your health?

 

[Gillette]

I think you're being incredibly judgemental here, Petite. The OP doesn't ask about the aftermath, emotional or physical, he asks if it's happened to others and if we can suggest possible causes or corrections to avoid it. Given that men are generally more inclined to fact-speak than share emotions I'm not surprised they'd simply share their own experiences rather than go into emotional detail on a question not asked just in case some fluff in a huff is offended by a perceived lack of empathy. You see, there is empathy being shown. In sharing their experiences they're telling the OP that he's not some monster and that this can sometimes happen. There's not a single post in this thread that reads like a celebratory high-five so your disgust at this "sick" "ego boost" is purely projection. Get the fuck off your high horse.

Many men are sufficiently mystified by the fact that we bleed on a monthly basis alone. They have nothing to compare it with so they rely on us to know what's what with our bodies. If the blood during sex isn't coming from their dick it's not surprising that they would rely on the woman's judgement regarding this blood in cooch event as well. If the woman shows no panic, tells them to continue, in fact shows nothing more than the embarrassment that would accompany a particularly loud queef, it doesn't follow that the man should insist she see a doctor immediately. Unless the guy is a oby/gyn it's rarely wise to gainsay a woman regarding her own body. Sheesh.

To the OP the two main sites for bleeding during sex are the fourchette a.k.a. frenulum labiorum pudendi located at 6 on the vaginal clock (one of the first things looked for in rape cases) and the cervix.

While the cervix can change position according to a woman's cycle and level of arousal it doesn't have the ability to flex with or dodge a direct hit. Pounding the cervix head on can cause bruising and bleeding. To avoid this your best bet is slow thrusts until you can feel where it is then adjust your angle to above or behind it (anterior or posterior fornix).

The fourchette is a thin skin bridge connecting the labia at the posterior of the vaginal opening. Unlike the labial walls this thin membrane doesn't hug the penis but is sort of perpendicular to it, acting as a squeegee scraping off lubrication from the shaft where it rubs against it. Lack of lube = increased friction + thin = increased chance of tearing. The bigger your girth the more likely it is you'll encounter this problem. Solutions include slowing down (less speed = less friction), angling your position to put pressure more at the top of her vagina (her clit will thank you) and lube, lube and more lube. If there's any anal or perenium play pull this area slightly away from the vagina to reduce the pressure on the fourchette. (This will also stretch the labia tighter around your shaft, so it's a win-win all around)

My experience with sex induced bleeding was from my fourchette. During sex it only caused pain when he was putting a lot of pressure against it but no pain when he changed his positioning as asked. We didn't notice the blood on the condom until after and when the endorphins faded it stung like a nasty paper-cut. A very unfortunately placed paper-cut. It didn't cause any problems for walking or sitting nor was there any pain during urination (perhaps I'm just that precise a pisser). I was good to go again within the week.

One thing I will say is if you do experience vaginal bleeding during sex it never hurts to do a gentle cleaning and inspection to find the source and hand your lady a mirror.

 

[Draconis71]

A vagina is designed to stretch to accommodate the birth of a child... If you are giving her proper foreplay and not trying to shove your arm up inside her, she can handle almost any penile girth (length is obviously a problem since the vaginal cavity goes a set depth). Just watch some of the porn out there and you will see fisting and multiple object insertions with no "damage" to the vagina. If your female partner is suffering from bleeding, then urge her to seek out medical attention to determine if there isn't a gynecological problem. Yes, vagina's do tear and this is a part of life, but if she bleeds during intercourse, then this can lead to more problems... Like infections or easier STD transmission. It might be a ego boost to tear her hole, but if you are doing it, you may be too rough or proceeding to quickly.

Hell, there's a lot of vids out there...
... done by a very few women.
Childbirth is also helped by HORMONES... not usually overly present while the woman is NOT in labour.
It takes a LOT of foreplay (and I mean a LOT) for the average woman to take in 3-4 fingers or more... Go too fast, there will be bleeding, and a good damned risk for infection. As for bleeding... I was a jerk recently, trying too fast... Even with fingers, I hurt my partner (and, as a result, got nowhere). Bit drunk, quite a bit over-eager...

 

[JetID]

I'm skeptical of the OP and the posters on the first page. She'd tell him if she tore her vagina. He'd know where she was injured. Why would he be asking us this question, when they're the only ones there in bed? If it's happened sooo many times, shouldn't he have asked the poor injured woman at some point?

This is a sicko boasting thread full of made up stories. It's disgusting.

I agree. The guy across teh hall, from me, in college was reportedly HUGE. Very early, in his sexual career, he put a girl in the hospital. He was horrified at the damage and pain. Perforated, the top of her vagina, right at the uterus. he said everything seemed okay, until he went too deep. She had a huge flinch, then started pushing on him and shouting "stopSTOPSTOPSTOP!!!!"

I never met her, but everybody who was in the house, heard about it and talked about all the blood. There was no way to stop it, the normal way, because the injury was inside.

The fraternity replaced the carpet in his room. That much blood. Screaming, crying, the police came to question him, at the hospital, but his story and hers matched about it not being a rape. No idea who called the police, doctor, nurse?

She was okay (as in "did not die") but she also never, ever even went out with him, again. IIRC she was only the second girl he'd ever had sex with. I'd wager he was one gentle guy after that.