Blessings - My definition: Those attractive attributes which you possess but which you have had little or no part in cultivating. On this site the main thing is the penis, above average and, thus, outstanding. However, I think we can agree that there are other blessings, not all of them having to do with appearance, that draw the attention and admiration of others. Furthermore, we can probably generalize that the attention from all such blessings can be mixed. My experience, without getting specific, is that I cannot take pride in those things which I did not personally accomplish, but I often enjoy the attention they bring me... and, yes, I have used them on occasion to my advantage. While I try to be unassuming and reserved, it is often enough clear that others admire one attribute or another. Sometimes they are so bold as to say so to my face, but more often it is a certain nervousness or flirtatiousness that is hard to miss. In and of itself, that sort of thing is not that big a deal and can be managed with some grace. My problem is that I don't always know if it truly is one of THOSE attributes, and sometimes I get a stare or a remark and wonder if it is dismissive or even from revulsion. Yes, I confess, I occasionally have bouts of insecurity, and I suspect that other "attractive" people have them also. Do some people ever truly get so confident about their attractiveness that they NEVER question why they get noticed?