Sorry, but this doesn't have anything to do with the sexual act, as suggested in the title. I just cannot think of any other way of describing this issue.
One Sunday morning I went into the gym and this guy was already there. As it is a 24-hour gym and a weekend, there's no one there but just the both of us. He's definitely older than me (probably in his thirties) and he starts to talk to me. Being the friendly person that I try to be, I talk back.
So after a while he left me alone doing weights and he went to one of the bike machines. Then he approached me and starts chatting to me, and noticed how my muscles are developing (not much, but it is) and starts to touch the area. I haven't been into a situation like that so I let him touch. Then he asked me, "you seem nervous". I was, but I told him no, which was so obvious that I was lying. Honestly, my heart was racing and blood was rushing to certain places of my anatomy but I was not attracted to this guy. It doesn't help that he smells really bad too.
During that time as well, he asked me if I have some coins for him to get coffee. After that, I thought, "WTF, the nerve on this guy!"
Anyway he went back to his bike, I went back to my routine and then after a while he came back again and starts talking. He asked me "Are you alright?" and said "yes, why?" He did mention that he "is interested," and I probably did say a bit too much personal stuff because I tend to blab a lot, which was a huge mistake. Then he asked, "You're gay, right?" to which I responded with a shrug. And he starts to telling me I should come out, etc. Througout that time I kept silent then he left me alone and left the gym, leaving his stuff.
I never saw him again til last week while working out in the morning before work. He just left his stuff and went out. I thought to myself, is this guy homeless or what!?!
Then on Sunday, I was supposed to go to the gym after my mom and I go out for mother's day. I brought all my stuff with me and to leave in the gym lockers. Then I saw him in the bike machine. I walked past, he still smelled bad (to the point that his body odor grosses me out and I wanna puke), went into the lockers and took off. He did ask a question when I walked past to exit but I ignored him and pretended to be grumpy.
After all the mother's day 'festivities' I went back to the gym, and he was there in the changing room in his undies. I mean, come on, he's been there for more than two hours, probably just sitting in that bike machine thing or going in and out of the place. I took my bag out of the lockers and he said "a bit grumpy today, eh?" as I was walking out and touched my shoulder. I am actually feeling myself get grumpier with this guy being all touchy-feely.
I have a feeling that our paths will cross again, and starts chatting me up once more. I'm not the kind of person who can fight back and says something witty to shut them up like they do in movies or TV (well, I am able to think of something, but cannot to do it on the spot). I don't want to seem rude to tell him off, but I'm getting to the point that there's no other choice. I know I've led him on to thinking that I want to build a friendship with this guy (or something more) and I am really regretting my actions.
My contract is expiring by the end of July and I was really thinking of moving to a much bigger gym in the city (which would probably break my budget even more), or somewhere closer to home. That is probably my best move, but until then I'd have to suffer through hoping that I won't have an encounter with this guy and get suffocated with both his chats and his stench.
Any suggestions?
One Sunday morning I went into the gym and this guy was already there. As it is a 24-hour gym and a weekend, there's no one there but just the both of us. He's definitely older than me (probably in his thirties) and he starts to talk to me. Being the friendly person that I try to be, I talk back.
So after a while he left me alone doing weights and he went to one of the bike machines. Then he approached me and starts chatting to me, and noticed how my muscles are developing (not much, but it is) and starts to touch the area. I haven't been into a situation like that so I let him touch. Then he asked me, "you seem nervous". I was, but I told him no, which was so obvious that I was lying. Honestly, my heart was racing and blood was rushing to certain places of my anatomy but I was not attracted to this guy. It doesn't help that he smells really bad too.
During that time as well, he asked me if I have some coins for him to get coffee. After that, I thought, "WTF, the nerve on this guy!"
Anyway he went back to his bike, I went back to my routine and then after a while he came back again and starts talking. He asked me "Are you alright?" and said "yes, why?" He did mention that he "is interested," and I probably did say a bit too much personal stuff because I tend to blab a lot, which was a huge mistake. Then he asked, "You're gay, right?" to which I responded with a shrug. And he starts to telling me I should come out, etc. Througout that time I kept silent then he left me alone and left the gym, leaving his stuff.
I never saw him again til last week while working out in the morning before work. He just left his stuff and went out. I thought to myself, is this guy homeless or what!?!
Then on Sunday, I was supposed to go to the gym after my mom and I go out for mother's day. I brought all my stuff with me and to leave in the gym lockers. Then I saw him in the bike machine. I walked past, he still smelled bad (to the point that his body odor grosses me out and I wanna puke), went into the lockers and took off. He did ask a question when I walked past to exit but I ignored him and pretended to be grumpy.
After all the mother's day 'festivities' I went back to the gym, and he was there in the changing room in his undies. I mean, come on, he's been there for more than two hours, probably just sitting in that bike machine thing or going in and out of the place. I took my bag out of the lockers and he said "a bit grumpy today, eh?" as I was walking out and touched my shoulder. I am actually feeling myself get grumpier with this guy being all touchy-feely.
I have a feeling that our paths will cross again, and starts chatting me up once more. I'm not the kind of person who can fight back and says something witty to shut them up like they do in movies or TV (well, I am able to think of something, but cannot to do it on the spot). I don't want to seem rude to tell him off, but I'm getting to the point that there's no other choice. I know I've led him on to thinking that I want to build a friendship with this guy (or something more) and I am really regretting my actions.
My contract is expiring by the end of July and I was really thinking of moving to a much bigger gym in the city (which would probably break my budget even more), or somewhere closer to home. That is probably my best move, but until then I'd have to suffer through hoping that I won't have an encounter with this guy and get suffocated with both his chats and his stench.
Any suggestions?