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My wife and I dont engage in much oral sex. Normal straight sex and some hand stuff has been the limits of what we get up to. Writing it down makes us sound so boring.
My wife has always felt a bit anxious giving blowjobs to the point she hasnt done it in many years. I was able to convince her to give it a go again last night. It was enjoyable and she was able to finish me off with hand work. She was pleased about that.
While I did enjoy the feeling, Im wondering if any experts are able to give me any pointers on what makes a great blowjob? My and my wife's inexperience is such that she is open to taking pointers and i get it so infrequently Im afraid to take time and experiment with what feels good.
Is more sucking better than less? Is there something specific she should do with her tongue or hands?
Im also concious Im looking a gift horse in the mouth here.
 

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My wife and I dont engage in much oral sex. Normal straight sex and some hand stuff has been the limits of what we get up to. Writing it down makes us sound so boring.
My wife has always felt a bit anxious giving blowjobs to the point she hasnt done it in many years. I was able to convince her to give it a go again last night. It was enjoyable and she was able to finish me off with hand work. She was pleased about that.
While I did enjoy the feeling, Im wondering if any experts are able to give me any pointers on what makes a great blowjob? My and my wife's inexperience is such that she is open to taking pointers and i get it so infrequently Im afraid to take time and experiment with what feels good.
Is more sucking better than less? Is there something specific she should do with her tongue or hands?
Im also concious Im looking a gift horse in the mouth here.
In talking to many men they all said once they got married all the BJs and so-called good sex went out the door lol. While I concur with some when married my wife was good in that department until we split. She knew what I liked and also knew how to execute what I liked as I her. Since then dating has been speratic and some I have dated have downplayed oral both giving and receiving, in those cases I say its been nice and goodbye as I am an oral freak even if she doesn't reciprocate, I have to taste the goods. In saying that those who have experienced what I like never complained. Maybe counseling would work if you and your wife are willing and open. talks most important these days. Good luck1
 

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My wife and I dont engage in much oral sex. Normal straight sex and some hand stuff has been the limits of what we get up to. Writing it down makes us sound so boring.
My wife has always felt a bit anxious giving blowjobs to the point she hasnt done it in many years. I was able to convince her to give it a go again last night. It was enjoyable and she was able to finish me off with hand work. She was pleased about that.
While I did enjoy the feeling, Im wondering if any experts are able to give me any pointers on what makes a great blowjob? My and my wife's inexperience is such that she is open to taking pointers and i get it so infrequently Im afraid to take time and experiment with what feels good.
Is more sucking better than less? Is there something specific she should do with her tongue or hands?
Im also concious Im looking a gift horse in the mouth here.
Hey, Mr. Straight guy! Good to see you around…. Ohhhh, the wife not giving the blow job thingy, huh?… as a gay guy, I NEVER under this… it’s like all women can’t stand the thought of a cock in their mouth. My theory is, they want to do it, they just have seen too many porn or Hallmark shows with the eyelash beating as the randomly lick around the head and giggle non stop. So, all the ladies: LISTEN THE FUCK UP!

1) Does your man smell good down there? If not, and you really wanna suck that bad boy, just have a shower together, soap that such long up, rinse it and get to work. Or, just say get your funky ass in the shower and meet me in the bedroom. *MEN: This means TAKE A SHOWER. Wash your whole body, underarms, your cock and balls, and always scrub your asshole at least three times with soap. Wash, rinse, repeat, no excuses. Oh, and guys, USE A CLEAN TOWEL an and DRY YOURSELF OFF COMPLETEL. If you are one of the guys who take a 2 minute shower, take the towel, run it over your leg, maybe an arm and then pull your underwear on, the SMELL that leaves after a few hours, along with your dirty asshole is like going down on a dirty dog who just took a shit and rolled around in mildew for an hour. Sorry to be graphic, but as a gay man, that is my BIGGEST a complaint with straight guys. Oh yeah, and NO COLOGNE directly on your cock and balls or pubes. It BURNS your mouth and taste’s disgusting! DON’T DO THAT EVER!

2)Okay, back to women: Miss Cock Sucker. Get to sucking…not hard, but let him into your mouth, hold his cock and do it slowly. When he is in your mouth, use you tongue UNDERNEATH the shaft behind the head of his dick and along the sides of his shaft about 1 1/2 inches down (@4cm). Gently but firmly hold that hard cook from the underside against the top of your tongue and move that bad boy slowly from side to side and up and down while you move your head. Yes, for effect, pull of of him and suck his head while you bat your eyes (wear makeup and look hot) and do this once in a while, not forever, just 3 seconds each time. Continue with this. In the middle and often, take him all the way down your throat if you can and use your throat and tongue muscles like you were swallowing food. The feeling of this against your mans cock is unbelievable for him. Even if you don’t have a gag reflex and suck a whole kielbasa, give him the pleasure of a gentle “gaging sound”. Men wanna know they have a huge cock and you can’t take it. Also, stop once in a while and say “I love your cock baby”, suck it again briefly and say again “you are so sexy. I love this cock”.

Bingo. You just got yourself a good hard fuck twice a week, a new car and a credit card to buy whatever and whenever you want. Same applies to women. Make your your hooohaaa is CRYSTAL clean, no fragrances, USE A TOWEL, wash your asshole GOOD (guys like to roam around, ya know?) and moan softly as they eat you.

Okay, I need to give a blowjob now. Thank me later!

kisses on your pink parts, stud
JEFF
 

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Perhaps the best place to start is actually exploring giving her oral sex and learning what she likes. This may also include hands.

It's a rather simple game, experiment with different ways to stimulate her pussy, in particular her clit and the more she likes something, the harder she squeezes your hand or shoulder. This should not be a lead into penetration. It's just about making her cum with no reciprocation.

Make it fun and do it at a time when you have plenty of time to experiment.

Hopefully, after a while, your partner will be inclined to play the game with the roles reversed.
 

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Thanks guys. I fully took the shower thing on board and cleaned well down there. Ill admit on one or two occasions at the start of our rekatio ship she caught me off guard, in the car at the end of the day so it definitely wasnt as fresh as it could have been.

Good advice give if my wife was reading it. I was more looking for what you guys like. Im sure many of you are more experienced so would have tips that i could pass on while shes doing it. I did ask her to suck a little harder just to try it, but i didnt notice much difference.

Im not lucky enough to be getting blown enough to try different things. Im hoping to give advice and get great BJs as soon as possible.

Dont get me wrong, it was fun and with some hand work, I came. Id just like to know what you guys like and tell your parenters to do.
 

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My wife and I dont engage in much oral sex. Normal straight sex and some hand stuff has been the limits of what we get up to. Writing it down makes us sound so boring.
My wife has always felt a bit anxious giving blowjobs to the point she hasnt done it in many years. I was able to convince her to give it a go again last night. It was enjoyable and she was able to finish me off with hand work. She was pleased about that.
While I did enjoy the feeling, Im wondering if any experts are able to give me any pointers on what makes a great blowjob? My and my wife's inexperience is such that she is open to taking pointers and i get it so infrequently Im afraid to take time and experiment with what feels good.
Is more sucking better than less? Is there something specific she should do with her tongue or hands?
Im also concious Im looking a gift horse in the mouth here.
Its fairly simple.

if she’s doing something you like *make it known*. Don’t be silent, move, make some sounds. Like you’d want if it was reversed.

it’s sort of new/new again. Be like experimenting teenagers!
 
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My wife and I dont engage in much oral sex. Normal straight sex and some hand stuff has been the limits of what we get up to. Writing it down makes us sound so boring.
My wife has always felt a bit anxious giving blowjobs to the point she hasnt done it in many years. I was able to convince her to give it a go again last night. It was enjoyable and she was able to finish me off with hand work. She was pleased about that.
While I did enjoy the feeling, Im wondering if any experts are able to give me any pointers on what makes a great blowjob? My and my wife's inexperience is such that she is open to taking pointers and i get it so infrequently Im afraid to take time and experiment with what feels good.
Is more sucking better than less? Is there something specific she should do with her tongue or hands?
Im also concious Im looking a gift horse in the mouth here.
It's been my experience that a woman will never do it as good as one who was born with a cock. Because we know first hand what it wants and needs. I'm probably preaching to the choir here. LOL
 

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My favorite position is laying on my back with my wife between my legs. To start she strokes my dick and plays with my balls. I love it when her tits are hanging out. It drives me crazy when she drags her tits from my stomach downward. Her tits catch my dick and pull it downward. For me, there is a point where her tit locks in my dick, pulls it downward, and the sensation that she could "break" my dick stretching it down. Usually she holds this stretch position for a bit. Then she will move her tit and my dick pops back up hitting my stomach. My wife can't take me all the way. It is a combination of hand and mouth. That little stretch downward with the blowjob really amps up the sensation.
 

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It's been my experience that a woman will never do it as good as one who was born with a cock. Because we know first hand what it wants and needs. I'm probably preaching to the choir here. LOL
So a woman is the only one that knows how to caress and lick breasts because they have the equipment? :laughing:
A woman is the only one that knows how to perform cunnlingus as they are the ones with vaginas? :laughing:

I've never received head from a guy, and never will, and I can assure you I've had tons of amazing blowjobs from the women I've been with. Multiple women have also told me that I give them the best head they've had, and I've never been the owner of a vagina.

Feedback, body language, and communication are the key! The advice to the original poster @IrishWank to give his wife feedback while she is going down on him is great advice and has always worked for me. When she does what you like, moan, say "that feels great!" and hopefully she will take the cues to keep doing what works best for you.
 

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So a woman is the only one that knows how to caress and lick breasts because they have the equipment? :laughing:
A woman is the only one that knows how to perform cunnlingus as they are the ones with vaginas? :laughing:

I've never received head from a guy, and never will, and I can assure you I've had tons of amazing blowjobs from the women I've been with. Multiple women have also told me that I give them the best head they've had, and I've never been the owner of a vagina.

Feedback, body language, and communication are the key! The advice to the original poster @IrishWank to give his wife feedback while she is going down on him is great advice and has always worked for me. When she does what you like, moan, say "that feels great!" and hopefully she will take the cues to keep doing what works best for you.
If you haven't had a blowjob from any men, it would be hard to judge if you have actually been getting amazing blowjobs without something to compare against.

In a way, it would be like saying women's basketball is amazing without ever seeing men play.
 

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What I do to my man that really makes him cum is licking his frenulum. He also likes licks on the glans, but when he wants to cum, it's licks on the frenulum that do the job.

He doesn't like sucking much. I think he's afraid I'll accidentally hurt him with teeth, but also, he doesn't like sucking much in general. It's kinda too much.

He told me once that a woman licked his perineum and that he liked that. But I don't do it much.

Very light sucking of his balls, he likes, but it has to be really light.

Then there's eye contact, of course, and seeing how much I'm enjoying it. I really enjoy giving oral. He's lucky on that front.
 
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If you haven't had a blowjob from any men, it would be hard to judge if you have actually been getting amazing blowjobs without something to compare against.

In a way, it would be like saying women's basketball is amazing without ever seeing men play.

If you haven't had a blowjob from any men, it would be hard to judge if you have actually been getting amazing blowjobs without something to compare against.

In a way, it would be like saying women's basketball is amazing without ever seeing men play.
I think lots of women are afraid that u will cum in their mouth. Some have had lovers who have when they didn’t want it. Some want to cum on their face like in porn. Some men are just jerks.
But some women are good at though I’ve never experienced that woman.
 

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I just asked my wife and she says: PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE

No matter how much advice you get from internet strangers, nothing is going to change until she starts practicing whether it's with you or someone else (hopefully with you). You're going to have to be patient with her and let her experiment with your cock in a very clinical manner, plus she has to be willing to go all-in on this endeavor, otherwise it won't work out.

Whenever my wife or myself want to try something new, we both agree that we both want it and then we practice. We will plan a sex session that we try it out. It's always clumsy, funny, and sometimes painful but we both go at it with intent and don't include it into our lives unless we both like it after the fact.
 

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Sounds like she may be too caught up in knowing she doesn't have the experience you want or worrying that she's not doing you much good. When I was married to a woman years ago I remember telling her how I wanted her to suck my dick, and when she started doing so I was blown away, no pun intended. To me all the adlibbing, carrying on, hand movements (not that those don't help) and fancy work just doesn't feel that good. The erogenous zone, about an inch below the head needs concentrated suction on it. The feeling I got from that pure form of sucking gave me sensations that are second to none. That is the method I adopted, and recently I had a very powerful and talented cocksucker ask me where in the world I learned how to suck cock like that. My advice, tell her to relax and just think about it.. Just use the strong muscles of her mouth and simply SUCK, not just move her mouth on the erogenous zone. Also, the up and down movements with the mouth don't do much for me at all. If she masters simple, concentrated suction to your erogenous zone she'll have you begging for head every night and she'll probably enjoy it as much as you.