Blowjobs just not that great

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  1. seterwind

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    Well, I've been wondering how many of you guys love getting bowjobs. The second question is, how many of you still cum from them? The first time I got a bj it took the poor girl 10 minutes to make me cum, and it felt fantastic.

    After that I haven't cum from a bj. My wife isn't bad at them either, she can make the typical guy cum in 1-2 minutes, and a harder to cum guy in 5-10. She is very talented in that respect so I'm pretty sure it's not her.

    Though if you know of any tricks to suggest, please do share and I would happily pass them along to her.
     
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    Mine's like a Tootsie roll pop. Just how many licks does it take? The world may never know......................

    I dearly LOVE BJ's, but can never cum that way.
     
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    Cum everytime and love them. I go quicker that way than with sex.
     
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    I have no problem cuming with a BJ but I think you have to take a lesson from what DOES make you cum. Timing, tempo, variation, and handling that last few seconds that tip you over the top - watch how these things progress when your willy is having a great time with penetration or jerking off. Then, translate that progression to you wife and make sure to give clues along the way - "hotter" or "colder" - to reenforce the "right path" to explosion.

    if that fails, try a finger ;)
     
  5. seterwind

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    We do try the whole hot cold, and I know what pleases my cock fairly well, just as good as it feels (and damn does it feel good), she can just never get me over the edge...

    *laughs* The finger thing doesn't count :p Hard to do that in public places...
     
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    I love a blowjob as much as the next guy but I don't guess I've ever technically cum from it. My wife gives me great blowjobs but when I reach the point at which I'm about to cum she has trouble maintaining the rapid rhythm necessary for me to cum so she either stops sucking and jacks me off or jacks me off while still sucking! I leave up to her to decide how she to finish me off! Either way it's nirvana!
     
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    I would very much contest that the speed at which she makes you cum is equal to her "talent" at it. Why rush it?

    Rather, a talented woman (or man) should keep you on the edge as long as possible without tipping you over, until you're begging her (or him) to let you cum.
     
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    I know this question was aimed at the men but I have a few questions for you:

    Have you ever masturbated in front of your wife? Did she pay attention to the placement of your hand/s and the pace? Did she note how often you change pace and how? Have you discussed with her what feels good and what's possibly missing when she gives head (more/less pressure with mouth grip, more/less licking or sucking on the head, etc.)?

    I pay close attention to my partner's reaction during oral. That's how I gauge my progress on his pleasure. If I get little or no reaction, I will ask him outright if there is anything he'd like me to do. Communication is the best and fastest way to amazing oral.
     
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    Just like mercurialbliss says, give her instructions as your pleasure builds up.
    You should use your mind to decide went to come, think of images that have made you cum before, might be from past sexula experiences or porn.

    When your mind is turned on and her pressure/speed is at its maximum it should be difficult to hold back!
     
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    I probably would but it's never happened. At best they can get the very end damp, and that's not quite enough to inspire anything dramatic. Even that has its merits, but I don't think I'd actually call it a bj.
     
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    [qoute]I know this question was aimed at the men but I have a few questions for you:

    Have you ever masturbated in front of your wife? Did she pay attention to the placement of your hand/s and the pace? Did she note how often you change pace and how? Have you discussed with her what feels good and what's possibly missing when she gives head (more/less pressure with mouth grip, more/less licking or sucking on the head, etc.)?

    I pay close attention to my partner's reaction during oral. That's how I gauge my progress on his pleasure. If I get little or no reaction, I will ask him outright if there is anything he'd like me to do. Communication is the best and fastest way to amazing oral.[/qoute]

    Yes I have, we've mutally masturbated, it's a great way to learn how to please another. We have on many occasions, and I believe she has payed very close attention. We have discussed alot about what feels good, lots of signals and communication, just never really builds up to the climax.

    As for hand jobs, that as well, but her arm just doesn't typically have the stamina to make me cum, though she is incredibly good.

    I'd like to thank everyone for their input so far, I think just more communication and just general refining of technique is probably whats needed I guess.

    [qoute] lvsxy808:
    I would very much contest that the speed at which she makes you cum is equal to her "talent" at it. Why rush it?

    Rather, a talented woman (or man) should keep you on the edge as long as possible without tipping you over, until you're begging her (or him) to let you cum. [/qoute]

    I agree, but by those times I mean when she wants to make a guy cum, she can typically do it with ease. Normally she will tease the guy, and build them up to great orgasms.

    Though still any other tips or tricks you've come across (women as well are welcome to post), would be helpful. Thank you all again.
     
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    You make it sound like 10 minutes is torture for her. Typical sessions of oral sex with me last 15-25 minutes, usually starting with her going down on me but almost always progressing to 69. Usually I make her cum first, and then she'll either work me up to cumming, or will be so frantic for intercourse that we'll move to that. But a 30 minute BJ isn't uncommon, nor looked upon as anything but glorious by both of us.
     
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    I'm impressed, doing anything with the jaw/tongue for a full 10 minutes straight is strenous I find. Let alone 30 minutes, I'm extremely sore after eating her out for that long, if ever I even have, typically after 4-6 min it blows out into sex...

    I guess I may be different in that respect.
     
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    I never cum from a bj either (maybe once or twice as a teen). I get ten times the pleasure having my balls licked than I do from any bj. I couldn't care less about getting bj's.
     
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    Blowjobs ALWAYS get me off, just the combination of a warm mouth, supple lips and flicking tongue , it's just the best (mmmm). But I have yet to meet a woman that can get me off with a handjob.
     
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    Hanjobs I find are tough cause you kind of get used to making yourself cum in a certain way masturbating. But unless you can suck your self I don't think you would get too used to cumming a certain way via BJs.
     
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    I do! I always cum more quickly from a good blowjob than I do from intercourse.

    My advice would be for you to refrain from any sort of sex for a day or two or three. That should help you cum more quickly from anybody's blowjob, and increase your semen output as well.

    I'd also follow the example of our gay brethren, and look at a bj not just as a sideshow, but as an incredibly sexy main act. Folks who enjoy giving bj's are more enthusiastic, and I think this translates to more intensity.

    I love loafing along, getting closer and closer to orgasm, for 10 or 15 minutes. I don't think that's an unusual time to get blown.
     
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    Hey seterwind, you don't have to cum to enjoy a great bj! I agree with what lvsxy888 posted.

    I have a very skilled and loving girlfriend who can keep me right on the edge forever. It's a game we play- I hold back and she tries her damnest to make me cum.

    She not only gets the end wet, she licks and plays with the whole cock and balls. Kissing, stroking, blowing, biting, licking, and I am right on the edge forever. Repeatedly. Every millimeter of my dick is so senisitized after awhile, it's like a continuous orgasm without cumming. We take tea breaks every so often!

    Later when we fuck, we conitinue in the same vein, she's demanding that I give to her and me fucking her super hard but holding back the cum for dear life! But I rarely make it past 30 mins. The orgasm is unreal after being ready to spurt for so long.

    But when we don't have much time, she can make me cum in 5 mins or so.
     
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    Dude my girlfriend blew me today on my lunch break, and I came in under 5 minutes, whereas when we're 69ing for 30 min or more, I get super-hard but never even close to cumming. What's the difference? I control my PC muscle differently.

    When I'm just letting her suck me during foreplay for sex, I try and totally relax my PC muscle, and if I have any involuntary contractions, I view that as 'bad.' She can get me SO hard this way because the total relaxation allows her mouth suction to really pull the blood up into my dick...

    When I want to come in her mouth, (like today during lunch) I contract my PC muscle hard and just hold it there, letting her bob up and down and feeling the cum well up inside of me. She knows what to do to as she starts rubbing my cockhead against the back of her throat along with the rhythm of my slight pelvic thrusts.

    I bet if you clamp your Kegel and do some thrusting, you'll come in no time.
     
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    "Blowjobs just not that great"? How could you possibly think that? Your statement completely contradicts every fiber of my cocksucker existence. :)

    Seriously, as stated by some of the posters above, there could be several factors at play. First, we all have our preferred sexual activities, and for some men, a blowjob just isn't it, regardless of the fellator's cocksucking ability. Secondly, even if he is enjoying the blowjob, some men are just not able to ejaculate from getting head.

    As some posters above suggested, why does a blowjob have to end in ejaculation all the time, and why is how quickly one ejaculates from a blowjob being used as a "measure" for how good or how successful the blowjob was? Could the pressure to ejaculate actually be contributing to why you are not able to ejaculate?

    My friendly word of advice to you would be to relax and just enjoy the blowjob experience without feeling like you have to ejaculate. Just enjoy the experience, ejaculation or no ejaculation. It's not just about the end result (i.e., the orgasm)---the process of getting there (or not) can be an equally wonderful experience, and it is!

    As a gay man who has a penchant for cocksucking, I will often "edge" the guy I am servicing, specifically to intensify the blowjob experience and to help them recognize that it's not just about cumming. Some of my favorite regulars already know that my blowjobs are far from hurried, and unzip with the knowledge that they'll be around for the next two to three hours. I've had guys who thoroughly enjoyed the head I gave them, were not able to cum, but must have enjoyed the experience nevertheless, as they've come back for more.

    In summary, it's not just about the ejaculation. A good blowjob can happen with or without ejaculation. It's all about the entire experience, or the "suck journey" as I like to refer to it.
     
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