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I've mentioned before about my body-image problems, which seemed to exist no matter what my weight was (I used to think I was too thin! Now I think I'm too fat AND too small breasted at the same time!) I guess we all have issues though...still doesn't help me when I look in the mirror.

Still, I do have some "positives". I have a nice ass. I have pretty eyes (although my vision is really bad! I've worn glasses since I was 4 years old, and was nearly blind back then, although I'm not now).

I think it might help my self image though if I didn't go 4 and 5+ years with NO men asking me out! That's a killer. And my weight doesn't seem to make a difference. I was very slim in my teens and didn't date at all. I was actually BARKED at as I walked down the halls in my school.

Interestingly enough, I heard the guys in my high school talking about women and they even thought Cheryl Tiegs was ugly! So there you go. They seemed to only like very busty women.

I think the environment we grow up in has a lot to do with our body image. I know that this is the case with me.
 

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I'm a guy, but as guys we get the same kind of crap too. We know who girls think are hot, what an "ideal" body should look like, etc. Worst is dick size though. Expecting 8 inches out of every guy is like expecting <105 lbs out of every girl
 

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Also, this girl I was getting with had a great body--she was lean, had very big tits and a decent ass. She was also petite and cute. She was under the impression that she needed to lose some weight though, which she didn't at all. I talked to her about it (we're actually very close, true "fuck buddies", lol) and her problems stems back to when she was 14 and her cunt best friend at the time would belittle and make disregarding comments to her body, out of her own insecurities I'm sure. Eitherway, I think it's all deep-rooted like that. I remember being told that I was a skinny/scrawny bitch and all of this terrible shit that really affected me to the point where I never wanted to take my shirt off. Finally one day I decided to stop giving a fuck and I started going to the beach. Guess what happened? Tons of girls (and ladies) were checking me out. All the time. Everytime I went I had girls come up and hit on me. I don't work out but I'm pretty lean and naturally cut. I could be a bit more musclar, but it's apparently not necessary to get the girls. So much for being a scrawny bitch. Eitherway, I feel this is the same process I'm going through on my endowment...
 

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Reading this thread didn't put me a million miles away from crying... which is a hard thing to do.

For anyone with self-image issues, stop looking in the mirror and take a fucking look around at other people. You can't see their face close-up and notice that zit, you can't see that scar on her thigh, you can't tell that one of her legs is longer than the other, you can't see that she is missing a toe or two.
But if you saw them naked and close-up(like you do yourself), then you would see all those things.

Take it from an ugly person - it takes one to know one, and I don't know any of you. :redface:

Not a single woman who posted in this thread is unattractive, both from my perception and societies.

And yes, I refreshed my memory by checking out each of your galleries.
And no, I didn't hurry it.
And yes, I enjoyed it. :biggrin1:
 

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My sister and I had a good laugh once over the fact that while so many women hate their hips and thighs, in the trannie world they are greatly prized.

At many of the drag balls I attended in my younger days, we actually had separate categories for the 'models effect', 'petite' and 'big' girls' because each had their own unique style. Nothing was more exciting than the big beautiful girls battling it out on the runway. They were definitely the most stunning of all.

Women today have to be very strong, focused, and smart in the face of 'media image overload.' Stay away from those fucking magazines. If you're not depressed because you don't look like the fantastic, photoshopped images, you're depressed because you can't afford the shit advertised. That's the point of advertising, to make you feel that you lack something.

I know a flawless fashion model with terrible self-esteem and an older, average-looking woman with confidence and joie de vivre. Who do you think is happier?

I always think of Cleopatra. In truth, she was quite ordinary looking. But her intelligence, poise, confidence and sensuality had not one, but two of the most powerful men in the world whipped.

PS - remember how Jack Black flirted with Helen Mirren at the Oscars? Not with some flawless starlet, but with 61 year old Helen Mirren.
 

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Hello ladies,

I was just wondering if you ever have bad body image days does posting here or reading other peoples posts help you feel better? With society praising stick thin women most of the time I just wondered if it got to you sometimes and how this site might help you remember how many people actually love and prefer woman with wonderful curves.

Thanks.

PS. I've always thought that women's weight issues are analogous to men's penis size issues. What do you think?

First posted on Chubby Parade

I think analogous is a good chose of words. I've had insecurity about my penis size for a very long time. Even after some growth from exercises in the past few years I'm still insecure about my size. Back to the topic concerning women, I see beauty in all women. However, just like the woman who has an ideal preference in penis size, I do have an ideal preference in women's bodies. I'm a size king. Bodies like Beyonce, Serena Willams, JLo, etc, are the type I most prefer. Even then I have some minor adjustments I would make on them. Beyonce could stand to have a bigger rounder butt and bigger breasts; Serena could stand to have wider hips, as they don't quite matchup with her tremendous other assets; and JLo could stand to have much more breasts size. Butt ranks top on my list, thighs a close second, and breasts are third. Notice that they all have thick shapely thighs, which very much gets my attention. Once again though, don't get the impression I'm not drawn toward other body types. Women bring a type presence and beauty to this world that men don't. And no matter what the women's shapes are, I see beauty.
 

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I have plenty of body image problems. I have been insecure about penis size for well over 30 years. I am also insecure about my looks and physique in general. Sometimes I wonder if I'm a "real man". Aging has not helped me any with this either. I actually am worse now than when I was younger.

Being here does help. Especially if I get some favorable comments. I would like to get over this, but I don't know how. I wonder if one can ever truly get over something like this.

I would say that breast size correlates better to penis size than does weight.
 

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i need to lose weight. i'm curvy, and my husband made a comment about my waist ... probably one of the only places i thought looked OK!!!! was he serious? i cried.

i kicked the scale under his side of the bathroom vanity. i only get totally naked in front of a mirror AFTER i've taken out my contacts.

then i joined a kung fu temple after a 17-year hiatus (so i can kick the husband's ass ... ok, in my HEAD) and also took up irish set dancing after an 8-year absence. i swapped my big dinners with my small lunches.

is it making a difference? i doubt it. but i feel better because i know i'm living healthier by doing something active 4x/week and eating better.

the funny thing is that i have enormous self-confidence. no one would guess by the way that i carry myself or talk that i was insecure about my weight and cry about it. they see big tits and say how lucky i am to have such a curvy body, and i agree with them. but mentally, i'm thinking, "omg, my fat ass and my cellulite-ridden thighs and my wobbly belly and my back fat and my..."

we're all a work in progress. some days are just better than others, i guess.
 

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i need to lose weight. i'm curvy, and my husband made a comment about my waist ... probably one of the only places i thought looked OK!!!! was he serious? i cried.

i kicked the scale under his side of the bathroom vanity. i only get totally naked in front of a mirror AFTER i've taken out my contacts.

then i joined a kung fu temple after a 17-year hiatus (so i can kick the husband's ass ... ok, in my HEAD) and also took up irish set dancing after an 8-year absence. i swapped my big dinners with my small lunches.

is it making a difference? i doubt it. but i feel better because i know i'm living healthier by doing something active 4x/week and eating better.

the funny thing is that i have enormous self-confidence. no one would guess by the way that i carry myself or talk that i was insecure about my weight and cry about it. they see big tits and say how lucky i am to have such a curvy body, and i agree with them. but mentally, i'm thinking, "omg, my fat ass and my cellulite-ridden thighs and my wobbly belly and my back fat and my..."

we're all a work in progress. some days are just better than others, i guess.

For that your husband is an a$$h0le. I would say you should pick on something you know he feels insecure about but I don't think that would help anybody. Maybe you should talk to him and tell you how he made you feel or consider if you want to stay in that kind of relationship.
 

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My self image of my body was somewhat low until I hit my early to mid twenties. One day I was so pissed because my ex kept comparing me to certain women in the media ("that's what you'd look like with larger breasts") I decided to stop worrying about what other people thought (including my ex) and embraced myself. B-cups, juicy ass and all. When I did he noticed the change in my attitude and stopped comparing me to other women. Go figure.
 

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Yeah, and I've been told I have a waist like a man! :eek: Besides only being a B cup (ok larger side of B/small side of C since I gained all this weight...) I'm not very curvy, just overweight.

It's strange though - I guess we ALL have these kinds of issues no matter what.

I did my walk tonight. I need to get out and do that more. I think exercise is good for body image. It's healthier, no matter what your body type.

I think being able to get a date without going 4 or 5 years without any would help a lot too! I have a fairly decent social life except for the dating part now. I still have to work on the shyness some but I do better in structured activities with my clubs. Just not good at parties and stuff.
 

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I tend to be very conscious when it comes to external beauty, male or female. But that doesn't mean I don't give others a chance and look for the inner beauty. I am equally harsh on myself as well. There are days, when the extra 5 lbs over what I perceive as my ideal or feel good weight is unacceptable. That usually prompts me to start being more conscious about my consumption habits in terms of quantity, even what types of foods I eat. There was a day when "all you can eat", I definitely got my money's worth from indulging excessively. Those days are gone, I eat to live, not live to eat, the penalty for gluttony to me was too much a price to pay in terms of simply how I felt physically after stuffing myself to excess after that meal.

That covers caloric intake, physical activity is another area. And like eating, there are times I use the mirror and harshly gauge whether or not it's time to get off my @ss and go do something that challenges my conditioning. I've recently started playing soccer and cycling, I don't think I'll get six-pack abs doing it, but what additional weight in terms of lower back and hip fat, not to mention the slight belly I've let happen to me from inactivity is coming off.