body language in job interview

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    My gut feeling is most body language is random and meaningless. But I'm curious anyway:

    About halfway through the interview, the interviewer started to push her hair behind her ear, and kept touching her left ear. A nervous habit? Irritating earrings? Was she bored?
     
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    Girls usually do that when they are nervous, like attracted to sombody or other things, I think
     
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    she wants your cock
     
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    Ummmm or maybe she was uncomfortable and was trying to just find a way to be nice till the interview was over...... Who knows....... Let us know what you hear back....... Gl!
     
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    Wow, body language... what a twisty maze of self-deception.

    Was she smiling while she was doing this? Or did she seem more annoyed?

    When she was doing it, did you feel aroused or nervous or puzzled or nothing at all?

    A lot of body language is processed by parts of our brains that we don't consciously follow along with, so a good way to learn to consciously read body language is through the effects that seeing it has on the level of arousal and attention in your own body. A poor way to learn to consciously read body language is to learn lots of rules about "when someone does this it means that" from books, because you might end up as a detached observer of people rather than someone who seeks to connect with people.

    Was she touching her left earring with her left hand or right hand? Which fingers? If it was with her right hand, she'd be forming a barrier between you. With her left hand, she'd be opening her posture up to you and possibly allowing you to see the inside of her wrists. Do you find the inside of a woman's wrists attractive? Because I sure do.

    When she pushed her hair back, was it exposing more of her neck to the air?
     
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    Wow, sounds like a good perspective. Yes, I found her attractive. She's new to her job, and she seemed a little uncertain about herself and even admitted that she's still learning.

    Left earring, left hand. The hair wasn't at all in her eyes, it was parted on the left, combed to the right, no bangs.

    I'm just trying to figure it out because we ended by discussing salary and when I can start. She really rushed me to get me to the interview. Since then, nothing. If I really blew the interview, (which I didn't) why did we end with 'what are your salary requirements and when can you start?'

    I needed to get her more information about current my salary & benefits, which I've been doing, but I've heard nothing back from her side of it. And I'm not sure if I should continue to try to contact her. It's been two weeks. So I'm trying to deconstruct the situation to figure it out.

    It's like we had a good first date, agreed to see each other again, and now she won't return my emails.
     
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    Sounds like a flirting type of thing, you should Google body language specifics and let us know.

    Twice I have been at a casino and casually started talking to the lady next to me, neither was attractive, during their playing they both put lipstick on which was a sign that they were interested in me.
     
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    Yeah, I googled it which is why I asked here--seems like there aren't any definitive answers about this stuff. A woman pushing her hair behind her ear can be flirtatious, nervous, bored, itchy, etc.

    At this point I probably should bring this up, too, but the other day I was working with a woman at work, left for a break, came back and noticed she put lipstick on while I was gone. I didn't mention it.
     
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