Body type and mate selection research

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I have always not been sexually attracted to the bodybuilder type. I haven't read the article but I've always gravitated toward more lean men.


Bodybuilders are the epitome of lean. They compete at 4% body fat. You prefer more slight builds. There's a difference.

As for me... there is a line between "attractive/appealing" and "gone too far". If his muscles look deformed, it's too far for me. When they get to a certain point, there's no smooth transition between muscles anymore. They get lumpy and awkward. That's too much for me to look at and be turned on by. There is also "too lean". I typically prefer somewhere along the 10% body fat line on a man. When competitive builders get competition ready, bleh. Too vascular, too many striations. It's just not something I want to touch. I think their bodies are beautiful in the sense that I know what it takes to achieve what they achieve, but aesthetically.... doesn't do it for me.

I have found the vast majority of body builders to be wildly insecure, which is incredibly unattractive. Never violent. Often, they're big teddy bears, in part because of the insecurity (also, a fair chunk of them are pretty submissive in bed... go figure). They also tend to be fairly possessive and loyal. The ones you'd need to be more wary of breaking your heart are typically the "tank top trainers". They're the shallow, vain, playboys. They train biceps and abs because they think that's what women like. It works. They use it to their advantage.

Obviously, these are all broad generalizations. There are good and bad in EVERY body shape/level of fitness. Just like there are good and bad in every skin tone, religious background, financial class... blah blah blah

My suggestion if you like muscle but not vanity... Powerlifters :) That's a group of good shits :)
 

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I just wanted to reiterate that no matter how attractive a man is, an intelligent thoughtful sensitive and kind man will always win out over a shallow dumb mean one. I prefer to be with a witty guy who has a great personality and a paunch over a fit man who doesn't have anything else going for him.

A bad personality can make anyone ugly.
 
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otters. not too lean. fuzzy.
:smile:

there is a kinda muscle mass you gain from being physical, either from physical labor or being physically active, is the body i like. could be a wiry dude, could be a beefy dude. urm, naturally fit, maybe?

is the body type i go for on womangs and mens. also a fan of extra pillow on top of a healthy body.

i don't assume anything about a brawny dude's personality. maybe his diet, amino-acids and protein shake farts are a turn-off :tongue1:

for true.. i come from a circle of Conan men. giant dudes, all of 'em spending hours weekly *some daily* gettin' "swoll up" the dudes are funny, helpful, polite, are the stereo typical gentle giant men. devoted to family and being good folk. not violent. not angry. not abusive.

is like pitbulls.. if you just believe the hype vicious killing beasts. if you have/know a pitbull, ya know the breed as the best dog ever since dogs started being dogs and stopped being wolves.

crazy insane muscle dudes.. is physically unattractive. a dude shouldn't look like a spray tanned erection when he's relaxed :eek:

one rule - body fat shouldn't fall into single digits :cool:
flesh is smexy.
 
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The thing I hate about studies like these and the repsonses you'll find in these types of threads (and nothing against them, I get the responses and I would've responded the same way.. since the article already set the tone) is that these studies, or at least the articles based on them make things look so 'objective' and like it's a big part of dating behavior.

People look at appearance, but I always take articles like these with a grain of salt. Someone's body and the impression they make with it are one of many impressions and while you may think 'narcicism' when you know they're built.. if their overal impression (through personality, body language, etc) could say the opposite.

I think I'm just rambling now. I'm just saying... studies/articles like these are about 1 variable in dating behavior, which probably has hundreds of variables.

At the end of the day, people just like dating people they like.

And KaiLuvAngel hs the best avatar of LPSG.
 

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The thing I hate about studies like these and the repsonses you'll find in these types of threads (and nothing against them, I get the responses and I would've responded the same way.. since the article already set the tone) is that these studies, or at least the articles based on them make things look so 'objective' and like it's a big part of dating behavior.

People look at appearance, but I always take articles like these with a grain of salt. Someone's body and the impression they make with it are one of many impressions and while you may think 'narcicism' when you know they're built.. if their overal impression (through personality, body language, etc) could say the opposite.

I think I'm just rambling now. I'm just saying... studies/articles like these are about 1 variable in dating behavior, which probably has hundreds of variables.

At the end of the day, people just like dating people they like.

And KaiLuvAngel hs the best avatar of LPSG.

Yeah but knowing your body type and knowing what immediate connotation it receives before you ever open your mouth is good to know when talking to girls. Like if you fall into the brawny category not everyone would realize that girls would think they tend to be more dominating and possibly violent.

I've made the mistake of not displaying enough interest often and I'm sure girls may worry or just give up knowing I have a bunch of options and haven't invested at all.
 

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Yeah but knowing your body type and knowing what immediate connotation it receives before you ever open your mouth is good to know when talking to girls.

I'm saying that you don't know. It may be a connotation, but your eye color, haircut, the way you dress yourself, body language, proportions, how tall you are, how you smell, how you move also has connotations. And then WHEN you open your mouth, the tone of your voice, what you have to say and how you say it, how much attention you pay to them.
 

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Something I've learned over the years. Yes health is important *note to self* but I look at the whole person in terms of the joy I receive and them in return. Sorry I don't get into long drawnout explanations.
 

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otters. not too lean. fuzzy.
:smile:

there is a kinda muscle mass you gain from being physical, either from physical labor or being physically active, is the body i like. could be a wiry dude, could be a beefy dude. urm, naturally fit, maybe?

is the body type i go for on womangs and mens. also a fan of extra pillow on top of a healthy body.

i don't assume anything about a brawny dude's personality. maybe his diet, amino-acids and protein shake farts are a turn-off :tongue1:

for true.. i come from a circle of Conan men. giant dudes, all of 'em spending hours weekly *some daily* gettin' "swoll up" the dudes are funny, helpful, polite, are the stereo typical gentle giant men. devoted to family and being good folk. not violent. not angry. not abusive.

is like pitbulls.. if you just believe the hype vicious killing beasts. if you have/know a pitbull, ya know the breed as the best dog ever since dogs started being dogs and stopped being wolves.

crazy insane muscle dudes.. is physically unattractive. a dude shouldn't look like a spray tanned erection when he's relaxed :eek:

one rule - body fat shouldn't fall into single digits :cool:
flesh is smexy.

:) <3
 

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As someone who gets up at the butt-crack of dawn 5-6 days a weeks to workout and who is conscious of what she eats so she doesn't spread like an ice cream sandwich on a hot summer day, I (for one) am appreciative of a man who is health-conscious and takes care of his body. However, body builders are a whole different animal.

The closest I ever got to any sort of fitness competing was in California when I was in my mid 20's--and I soon walked away from it. The eating restrictions, the plastic surgery on top of literally pushing your body past any semblance of normal limitation--meh. Sorry, but if you have to get implants because your body ate all its fat (including your breasts) that's a good indicator something "ain't" right. But, I digress...

Weekly it takes me about 3-5 hours of cardio and 3-5 hours of weight training to maintain my weight and muscle tone--and I am thin. But a bodybuilder? Oy, they're in the gym for hours a day, and when they eat it's almost a religious ritual (what with the measuring and counting). That, I don't find attractive. Well, that and the impression that their muscles appear to have been inflated with a bicycle pump.

I appreciate the dedication to the work; I really do. But it's just too much for me. Give me a man who works out, takes care of his body, and looks good when he takes his clothes off (but doesn't work out so much that he looks strange with his clothes on).
 
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I just wanted to reiterate that no matter how attractive a man is, an intelligent thoughtful sensitive and kind man will always win out over a shallow dumb mean one. I prefer to be with a witty guy who has a great personality and a paunch over a fit man who doesn't have anything else going for him.

A bad personality can make anyone ugly.

This is where gay men differ from women. Most gay guys would take the hot guy over the nice personality one since talking after the sex is an option. :tongue:
 

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American heart association recommend 3 time 40 min to 4 time 30 minute of cardio per week for optimum conditioning of your heart. They now also recommend to be under 20% body fat for a healthy heart. I say with cardio and warm up and cool down with some resistance training, that 1-1.5 hours in fitness routine 4-5 times per week would be adequate. however it doesn't have to be in the gym. Some of the cardio could be ball room dancing with salsa and your partner, or hiking the trail at a park.

Just seeing some numbers that suggest bodybuilder spending 2 hours in the gym everyday, as being too obsessive. I think for some people that maybe that is require to make changes in their body, because of their metabolism. I am surprise to find many bodybuilder that compete have story of debilitating condition that mode them take the path of bodybuilding to overcome the challenge of some chronic illness. It takes a lot of work to get the body they want or need, but once there, the maintenance is less of the time and demand to keep your shape.
 

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This is where gay men differ from women. Most gay guys would take the hot guy over the nice personality one since talking after the sex is an option. :tongue:
i think you're right.

kinda.
guys have different tastes in guy looks than women have, in general.
 

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I've gone for men with different body types and levels of fitness.

One thing is for certain once I was finished with them they tended to be as fit as a race horse.
I'm rather demanding.
 

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This is where gay men differ from women. Most gay guys would take the hot guy over the nice personality one since talking after the sex is an option. :tongue:

for casual/easy sex.

for casual sex the charm/personality requirement is something like "smart enough to not talk themselves out of my panties/boxers/buttonfly jeans/leather jockstrap"

long term relationships gay dudes focus on things from the neck up. is kinda the same for everyone.

when living with/seeing someone daily/regularly the more import things like compatibility/companionship/conversation become. ya have to like, heck, adore the person taking up half your personal space.

like some personality to exposure equation.
 
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