B_RedDude
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I think getting married is a really serious commitment and people take it too lightly these days. I think girls react badly to that kind of joke because they think 'If you loved me, you'd want to marry me'. But marriage really isn't (or shouldn't be) about love. It's about committing yourself to another person for the rest of your lives. It's about supporting each other through daily hassles and the major dramas life throws at you.
Women hey? :smile:
I think your chick is a little bit of a hoe for letting him get all touchy feeley with her. And dancing like that in front of you. Get some balls and dump her.
I'd like to get married some day for the right reasons, and to the right person. My girlfriend isn't ready and neither am I. But I'm not confident that we will ever be.
No, just her. :smile: Most women I know are willing and able to support themselves, and are more independent and responsible and have a better handle on finances. But I'd still rather have my girlfriend for a lot of reasons. Mainly the reasons that people would label "unhealthy", I think.
I can kind of understand that. Although, this all happened after I left. I only know what she told me. I do have a feeling that there are some bits that she is keeping from me. I asked her how he knew I was gone, and how he ended up dancing with her and how long they danced, and she said "I don't really remember", which is crap, because she was perfectly lucid when I left, and when she got back to the room as well.
I bet what happened is she got pissed at me for leaving, and she probably expressed that to this kid. (He was seated right next to us at the table.) And maybe she wanted to flirt with him a bit to get back at me. She says that she let him stand there with his arm around her for an entire song! Because she "didn't want to make a scene". I think she could have walked away quite easily. She also told me that she moved away as soon as he started grinding on her. But then she later told me that he "kept doing it", like it was for two whole songs or so.
It's no big deal. I know they didn't have sex or anything because there wasn't enough time for that. And I bet that if she did flirt with him out of revenge, even if it was just the slightest bit, he took that as a green light to get all over her like jam on toast. I don't blame him for that.
That's totally the way it goes! What a sad thing! It's expensive too, and so is the divorce. What a clusterfuck when all is said and done. In the end, it's mostly just the state, the church, and the lawyers that benefit.
I'd like to get married some day for the right reasons, and to the right person. My girlfriend isn't ready and neither am I. But I'm not confident that we will ever be.
No, just her. :smile: Most women I know are willing and able to support themselves, and are more independent and responsible and have a better handle on finances. But I'd still rather have my girlfriend for a lot of reasons. Mainly the reasons that people would label "unhealthy", I think.
I can kind of understand that. Although, this all happened after I left. I only know what she told me. I do have a feeling that there are some bits that she is keeping from me. I asked her how he knew I was gone, and how he ended up dancing with her and how long they danced, and she said "I don't really remember", which is crap, because she was perfectly lucid when I left, and when she got back to the room as well.
I bet what happened is she got pissed at me for leaving, and she probably expressed that to this kid. (He was seated right next to us at the table.) And maybe she wanted to flirt with him a bit to get back at me. She says that she let him stand there with his arm around her for an entire song! Because she "didn't want to make a scene". I think she could have walked away quite easily. She also told me that she moved away as soon as he started grinding on her. But then she later told me that he "kept doing it", like it was for two whole songs or so.
It's no big deal. I know they didn't have sex or anything because there wasn't enough time for that. And I bet that if she did flirt with him out of revenge, even if it was just the slightest bit, he took that as a green light to get all over her like jam on toast. I don't blame him for that.
What was she supposed to do after he wrecked her car, walk with him?She was sleeping and you had to walk 3 miles home? Fuck that shit.
I had to accompany my girlfriend to a wedding this weekend. She was a bridesmaid. I wasn't thrilled about going, because I didn't know anyone well, and I felt I had more important things to do. Anyway, the rehearsal dinner was fine, but we got in a car accident on the way home. I hit a curb and did $2000 worth of damage. I didn't sleep well that night, and I got up very early to take the car to a mechanic and have it fixed. My girlfriend was still asleep so I had to walk 3 miles to get back to the apartment. I did not want to go to the wedding after that, but she made me feel obligated.
Ok so it was enjoyable and you decided to be pissed off anyway. Sounds like you have some growing up to do.Most of the wedding was fine, if not even enjoyable, until the dancing began. I was in a terrible mood, stressed about the accident and repair bill, and mad at my girlfriend for dragging me there, so I did not feel like dancing. I was ready to leave by 10, but I felt akward walking out while everyone was having such a great time. So I just sat there by myself without even anyone to talk to. Eventually, everyone had been drinking and dancing for a while, and people were commenting that I looked miserable and it was depressing! I understood that as I didn't want to be there anyway.
I snuck out at 11:30, and immediately my girlfriend's groomsman partner, the groom's 19 year old brother, tried to seduce her. He put his arm around her while she was just standing off the floor during a slow song. Then he came up and grinded his crotch on her ass during several fast songs. I was appauled to know that he did this right in front of everyone, both families as well as all our mutual friends, especially since he met me and we shared two meals together, and he knew I was sleeping right upstairs. He put a lot of pressure on her to keep drinking, and then he tried to invite her up to his room for an afterparty.
He was actually going to sleep with her right that night if he could get away with it. It's unbelievable. He had been talking about how much he wanted to hook up with someone, anyone, since the rehearsal dinner. He really wanted the bride's cousin, but I guess he didn't go after her because her boyfriend was there the whole night. His aunt even informed us that he had a "beautiful girlfriend" back home, whom he had been dating for two years. Apparently the kid even flirts with his brother's girlfriend (now wife), and gets really touchy with her, and sends her texts on her birthday and stuff.
Oh yeah, a while ago I was told that the groom had a "big dick", and I knew that my girlfriend was going to partner with one of his brothers. So I couldn't help but wonder if he was packing and if he would end up trying to seduce her. At least one of my fears was confirmed. :frown1:
The entire bad time was you, nothing and nobody else.What a terrible experience! Makes me want to avoid weddings now, as well as any kind of get-together with her friends. Yesterday I told her that it could have been worse, I could have been the guy that got married. She was not amused.
So you wrecked her car and were a total ass at the wedding, but she gave you a great bj....You are a lucky fuck to have such a gf.But anyway, she felt bad that she forced me to go and totally understood that I was stressed. She felt so bad that she made up for it by giving me one of the best blowjobs yesterday, and later that night she made a real effort to take it in the butt! Didn't make it in, but I appreciated the eagerness. :biggrin1:
The whole thing stinks. I am a very secure Guy. But this would raise an eye brow even with me.
So you wrecked her car and were a total ass at the wedding, but she gave you a great bj....You are a lucky fuck to have such a gf.
What was she supposed to do after he wrecked her car, walk with him?
Your gf is a hoe. Get some respect for yourself and your relationship.
What did you have to do that was more important than making her happy?
OP, you have really been growing IMO, and so has she.
Unhealthy reasons? You've raised my curiosity now :smile:.
The fact that she is telling you anything at all, not just saving it for her therapist, is a very big step forward.
She's been telling me about men flirting with her from day one, and I'm sure she does it to make me jealous. At least she used to do it for that reason. This time I can't tell. I wonder if she is playing coy to keep me unnecessarily anxious and jealous about the whole situation. If so, it's working. I'm wondering, did she initiate the flirting? Did she encourage him to dance with her? What else might have happened?
The fucking "I don't really remember..." comment (accompanied by the distant glance to the side) is pure bullshit, intended to get a rise out of me. She used to do this to me a lot back in the day, and it drove me nuts, and she knew it.
I'm starting to get more pissed off the more I think about it.
Keep myself happy. It took me three years to learn this.
After reading some responses here and talking to my friends, I'm dissatisfied with her lack of candor regarding the details of her interaction with that kid. I just don't believe that she "doesn't remember". She seemed completely sober to me. I doubt anything serious happened, but I'm bothered that she won't tell me everything.
Honestly, I'm starting to feel like the sex keeps pulling me back. Not just the physical aspect, though. I crave the emotional connection as well. I just wonder how it would be without sex.
Tell her this.
Wait, didn't she just get jealous at you for going through the check out with the hot girl?
It sounds to me like you both have some jealousy issues.