Boo weddings!

[HiddenLacey]

I have talked with her about this on many occasions. I don't think she wants to stop. I think she likes exercising the power to make me jealous. I just texted her today, telling her how bothered I am by her behaviour in this particular instance. I know she has a therapy appointment later today so she can bring that up if she wants.



Yes, exactly. She is naturally stricken by extreme jealousy over me. I believe she plays these mind games because she wants me to feel jealous as well. I think she wants to drag me down to her level so she is not alone down there. Plus it might make her feel good about herself to know that I am jealous over her.



Why do you think I have jealousy issues? I have never felt jealous or distrusted her. I always encourage her to go out with friends to bars, clubs, etc. I don't mind if she has guy friends or spends time with guys. I just don't like when she plays games and tries to make me jealous by telling me some details but not all. I don't like what she is trying to do. She is trying to make me jealous and that bothers me. I just want honesty, that's all.

It would not have bothered me to see her dance with that guy or other guys that night. I just don't like the way it was done behind my back, combined with him trying to get her drunk and get her in his room. Then I don't like the lack of full disclosure after the fact.

I don't think I have jealousy issues.

Let me rephrase that, what she is doing is making you jealous. I think it's she does it to get a rise out of you. You over thinking everything that happened that night with him is a jealous reaction, BUT she is making you feel like this by acting coy. It's manipulative, been there had it done to me.

 

[alwaysguessing]

We all make mistakes, subgirrl. It sounds like you have matured and learned from it, and you should be very proud of yourself for that. Thank you for sharing. :smile:

I hate the "I don't really remember" bullshit! She's been doing it forever. It was way worse in the beginning. Here's a weird story she told me sometime in the first month or so.

"I think it's a really bad idea for parents to make their kids walk to school. It's really dangerous. My parents used to make me walk to school when I was 13. I used to walk with my friend every day. And sometimes, these older guys, who had already graduated high school, would pick us up and take us to the woods."

"Oh... what did you do there?"

"Nothing..." (smirking and looking far away out of the corners of her eyes)

"No, seriously, what happened?"

"Nothing!"

Fuck me. That's still on my mind years later.

 

[MickeyLee]

does your lady friend know you post so many personal details about her life online?

i mean just throwing out there that she may or may not had some sketchy shit go down in her youth.... a confidence you seem to think she dropped as a way to manipulate or inflame your jealous passions.... seems disrespectful.

i'd be a bit more ired-up if i wasn't convinced you're completely full of shit.


tsk-tsk to the ladies for encouraging his bullshit

 

[alwaysguessing]

does your lady friend know you post so many personal details about her life online?

Whaaat?

This is anonymous! No one knows who I am or who she is. What harm is being done? Would it be better for me to talk about this with friends and family that know her in real life? Or should I just bottle this all up inside?

Lots of people post stories about their relationships. This forum is fucking dedicated to that purpose! Why are you picking on me?

i'd be a bit more ired-up if i wasn't convinced you're completely full of shit.

What does this mean? You think I've fabricated all these stories about my life for fun?

 

[MickeyLee]

Whaaat?

This is anonymous! No one knows who I am or who she is. What harm is being done? Would it be better for me to talk about this with friends and family that know her in real life? Or should I just bottle this all up inside?

so i am guessing she doesn't know. i doubt she'd be thrilled to read what you really think about her.

Lots of people post stories about their relationships. This forum is fucking dedicated to that purpose! Why are you picking on me?

check my post history, i picked on those other people too. :smile:

lately, the tide of bullshit is just too damn high.

What does this mean? You think I've fabricated all these stories about my life for fun?

:yup:

not so much for fun... i am thinking you're in it for the attention or a twisted version of sexual role play.

vaguely cuckoldish, a touch of Othello and a splash of martyrdom. absolutely misogynist.. all the women in your world are manipulative whores and ultimately all their actions are centered on you.

you even manage to stuff in a savior complex... you got her into therapy, you encourage her to grow up and be responsible. you support her. blahblahblah.


in light of the recent ban-demic on LPSG you are getting parked on ignore. along with the rest of the "charming" little asshats clutting up LPSG since about april of this year. :smile:

 

[alwaysguessing]

You can believe whatever you wish. Bye.

 

[B_subgirrl]

We all make mistakes, subgirrl. It sounds like you have matured and learned from it, and you should be very proud of yourself for that. Thank you for sharing. :smile:

Thanks and you're welcome :smile:. That mistake is a hard one for me to deal with because I broke my own code of ethics. Very embarrassing :redface:.

I hate the "I don't really remember" bullshit! She's been doing it forever.

I would hate it too. I'm a total disclosure kinda girl. If they disclose everything I'm never going to get any big surprises I need to cope with on the spot. And if I disclose everything to them I know they are accepting me for who and what I am. Plus, if you've told everything nothing can come back and bite you on the ass later. And if they say 'I don't remember' I suspect they're lying about something.

It was way worse in the beginning. Here's a weird story she told me sometime in the first month or so.

"I think it's a really bad idea for parents to make their kids walk to school. It's really dangerous. My parents used to make me walk to school when I was 13. I used to walk with my friend every day. And sometimes, these older guys, who had already graduated high school, would pick us up and take us to the woods."

"Oh... what did you do there?"

"Nothing..." (smirking and looking far away out of the corners of her eyes)

"No, seriously, what happened?"

"Nothing!"

Fuck me. That's still on my mind years later.

That is one strange story. My interpretation (based on the little info she's given): She did something consensual (as far as it can be at that age) but she's very embarrassed about it and wishes she hadn't.

Of course she may just have been playing mind games and been trying to make you jealous or something. With my curiosity I wouldn't be able to resist bringing it up again and trying to find out what really happened. I hate not knowing stuff :smile:.

 

[alwaysguessing]

That is one strange story. My interpretation (based on the little info she's given): She did something consensual (as far as it can be at that age) but she's very embarrassed about it and wishes she hadn't.

Of course she may just have been playing mind games and been trying to make you jealous or something. With my curiosity I wouldn't be able to resist bringing it up again and trying to find out what really happened. I hate not knowing stuff :smile:.

I've brought it up a few times, and gotten some more information. Eventually she told me that her friend would go off into the woods with the guys, and she would wait in the car by herself. She says the girl didn't have sex anyway, she just smoked pot with them.

I'm happy to believe that. I just don't like the way she introduced it, because I'm sure it was just another mind game at first. For months she had me convinced that she was a closet whore with more experiences than I could ever dream of having.

She also used to describe in great detail all the satisfying sex she used to have with her ex boyfriend (freshmen year of high school, six years prior), while refusing to recreate those acts with me.

WTF!!!!

 

[B_subgirrl]

I've brought it up a few times, and gotten some more information. Eventually she told me that her friend would go off into the woods with the guys, and she would wait in the car by herself. She says the girl didn't have sex anyway, she just smoked pot with them.

I'm happy to believe that. I just don't like the way she introduced it, because I'm sure it was just another mind game at first. For months she had me convinced that she was a closet whore with more experiences than I could ever dream of having.

Thanks for satisfying my curiosity again :smile:. If she eventually told you something that you feel is the truth I'd be inclined to believe she was playing mind games. I hate mind games! If I'd known you then I would have been telling you to get out while you still could. Now you've got way too much history with her to throw the relationship away that easily.

 

[B_subgirrl]

She also used to describe in great detail all the satisfying sex she used to have with her ex boyfriend (freshmen year of high school, six years prior), while refusing to recreate those acts with me.

WTF!!!!

She was teasing you honey :smile:. Why? I couldn't tell you, but she was obviously teasing you on purpose.

 

[helgaleena]

Just like she let those long-ago older boys take her to the woods, you are letting her wind you up and refuse to drop her after years and years. I think you should just accept that she's a game player and it is her style and you don't hate it enough to get away from it.

Your coming separation from each other will do you a lot of good.

 

[B_New End]

I have no reason to believe he is lying at all.

 

[alwaysguessing]

I have no reason to believe he is lying at all.

I guess my life is really just unbelievable! :laugh2:

 

[B_New End]

I guess my life is really just unbelievable! :laugh2:

I'm actually surprised by people saying you are lying or exaggerating. Sounds like a fairly typical American life to me.

 

[MickeyLee]

I have no reason to believe he is lying at all.

cuz we all know LPSG menfolk are notorious for their ability of spotting fakers

 

[B_New End]

cuz we all know LPSG menfolk are notorious for their ability of spotting fakers

well I certainly am. I don't know what makes you think I have ever been fooled by a faker. I am one of the most cynical members here, I'd say.

 

[MickeyLee]

well I certainly am. I don't know what makes you think I have ever been fooled by a faker. I am one of the most cynical members here, I'd say.

true. you is a cynical and tactless bastard.. i like that about you. :smile:

 

[alwaysguessing]

cuz we all know LPSG menfolk are notorious for their ability of spotting fakers

I can think of at least one LPSG womanfolk that's pretty bad at it.

 

[alwaysguessing]

I told her that I was bothered by how unforthcoming she was when I asked her for details about the flirting and dancing. And she was finally able to answer questions that she "didn't remember" when I asked the night before. But then she accused me of badgering her and not trusting her. :frown:

I guess it would be best if she just keeps these things to herself from now on. I can't help but be intrigued so I don't know why she tells me if she doesn't want to discuss it at all. I think she would understand if the situation was reversed.

 

[B_subgirrl]

I told her that I was bothered by how unforthcoming she was when I asked her for details about the flirting and dancing. And she was finally able to answer questions that she "didn't remember" when I asked the night before. But then she accused me of badgering her and not trusting her. :frown:

I guess it would be best if she just keeps these things to herself from now on. I can't help but be intrigued so I don't know why she tells me if she doesn't want to discuss it at all. I think she would understand if the situation was reversed.

Thanks for keeping us updated :smile:. I can understand why she might think you were jealous or untrusting, as on the surface it does seem that you are jealous. However, to me it seems like your problem with it is the same one I would have - not that she flirted or danced (who cares if she did) but that she wasn't honest about it.