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Kissing and bottoming are asking for a lot in my experience. I’d really be surprised if they go for it but you never know.After doing some googling, i landed on masseurfinder. I'm planning to book a massage. What should I need to know? Also, how do I ensure that the masseur is fine with kissing and him being the bottom?
Set expectations in advance. This isn’t the time to be coy. Ask what he allows. Some are mutual touching only. Most give the happy ending. Many let you suck them.
Kissing and bottoming are asking for a lot in my experience. I’d really be surprised if they go for it but you never know.
Set expectations in advance. This isn’t the time to be coy. Ask what he allows. Some are mutual touching only. Most give the happy ending. Many let you suck them.
In my experience those who will suck you are in short supply. A few more will top you. It’s a small group who bottom.
This is just my opinion based on decades of massages. Good luck.
How do you set this up? Through text? I thought most of them do not write these things explicitly whether on their ad or via text/email?
They will often discuss this in messaging on the website or in text. If not you discuss it when you arrive.
The guidance above is very accurate. Unless the masseur is a full-on sex worker, you're unlikely to get much more than a handjob.
If they are a well trained and legitimate CMT the price will reflect that (~$120-150/hour). If the price is $200+ then they're more likely to be willing to do more as that's the starting price point for penetrative sex work. But even then expect them to suggest an up-charge if you want them to bottom as that's usually far afield of a rub and tug.
That's my guess. If the masseur is comfortable with you, he might be open to more. But there may be a price tag to it.Thanks. So if it's $150, it's going to be a rub and tug at best?
It can take weeks, months or even years to develop a relationship with your LMT.Thanks. So if it's $150, it's going to be a rub and tug at best?
It can take weeks, months or even years to develop a relationship with your LMT.
I have three who I’ve been going to for over ten years. The massages have changed dramatically over the years; going from a simple release to sex.
It was an organic process that took time. I kept going back because the massages are fantastic and that’s my number one requirement.How many sessions did it take before it became sex? Also, how did that discussion go from there? Or was it spontaneous (if so, who initiated it)?
It was an organic process that took time. I kept going back because the massages are fantastic and that’s my number one requirement.
The quickest transition was about one year. The longest took over five years.
That said, I’ve gone to guys who were pretty sexual from the first session. I wouldn’t say they give the greatest massages but everyone has his own goals and standards.
In the U.S., there are three categories of therapists on that site:
Massages are difficult and exhausting for the therapist, especially if he is not trained. I have had a lot of massages and I’ve never had a good erotic massage. The therapists have a very limited repertoire of what they’re willing to do and it rarely involves kissing or fucking. You must be very explicit as to what you’re looking before you show up. If you want to fuck, my advice is to find a rent boy who gets the joke and is prepared to deliver what you want. Any massage is likely to be perfunctory and disappointing.
- Licensed, legit therapists targeting gay clientele, but will not engage in sexual activity, at least not until after an established relationship and only if they are sexually interested
- Erotic massage therapist that have no license, minimal training, and are just looking to make a few extra bucks giving handjobs on the side; they are part timers and not very good at what they do
- True rent boys (aka, prostitutes) who use the massage as a cover to mask the transaction for legal purposes
In the U.S., there are three categories of therapists on that site:
Massages are difficult and exhausting for the therapist, especially if he is not trained. I have had a lot of massages and I’ve never had a good erotic massage. The therapists have a very limited repertoire of what they’re willing to do and it rarely involves kissing or fucking. You must be very explicit as to what you’re looking before you show up. If you want to fuck, my advice is to find a rent boy who gets the joke and is prepared to deliver what you want. Any massage is likely to be perfunctory and disappointing.
- Licensed, legit therapists targeting gay clientele, but will not engage in sexual activity, at least not until after an established relationship and only if they are sexually interested
- Erotic massage therapist that have no license, minimal training, and are just looking to make a few extra bucks giving handjobs on the side; they are part timers and not very good at what they do
- True rent boys (aka, prostitutes) who use the massage as a cover to mask the transaction for legal purposes
I agree it varies from one guy to another. A few times the massage was more or less sexual the first time. Although maybe not the best massage but okay. Another guy that I have been seeing for over 20 years - it took a couple of years to transition it was never discussed - after a few sessions he began to relax the draping and finally went to no drape..... then after about 2 years one night he just gently rubbed around and close to my penis - then be began to gently stroke it - gave me a most explosive HE (totally unexpected) . Other visits he didn't go anything - the massages are so great that it really doesn't matter - some sessions he goes down on me - but even that doesn't happen every time.... he never asks nor discusses - often when I climax - he will say "Wow - you really needed that".... I have only been with one LMT who bottomed - I have been with a couple that asked if I wanted them to penetrate me.....It was an organic process that took time. I kept going back because the massages are fantastic and that’s my number one requirement.
The quickest transition was about one year. The longest took over five years.
That said, I’ve gone to guys who were pretty sexual from the first session. I wouldn’t say they give the greatest massages but everyone has his own goals and standards.
After doing some googling, i landed on masseurfinder. I'm planning to book a massage. What should I need to know? Also, how do I ensure that the masseur is fine with kissing and him being the bottom?[/QUOTE
Based on the timeline in your first post you should’ve had that first massage. How did it go???
The price difference doesn't guarantee anything - really.... of course with massage envy you don't get a true hour massage (more like 45 minutes if lucky) if you decide to book through masseur finder be sure in text messages to see what the boundaries are- it varies from one therapist to another. There is always the element of surprise. Which can be exciting. Some that charge the $120 include a HE at the end and some don't - if you go only expecting a great massage then you will not be disappointed and if there is more then its an added joy.I go to Massage Envy which is a nationwide chain. The massages are $65 per hour for non members and $55 per hour for members. Of course the facilities are professional and all therapists are LMT. On the other hand Masseur Finder therapists prices range from an average of $120 and up for one hour and that's assuming you go to their location. What am I 'guaranteed' to get for a session with a MF therapist at a minimum considering it's cost is twice that of Massage Envy? What might be unsaid but still understood between the therapist and I?