Booking My First Erotic Massage In 7 Days. What Should I Need To Know?

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After doing some googling, i landed on masseurfinder. I'm planning to book a massage. What should I need to know? Also, how do I ensure that the masseur is fine with kissing and him being the bottom?
 

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After doing some googling, i landed on masseurfinder. I'm planning to book a massage. What should I need to know? Also, how do I ensure that the masseur is fine with kissing and him being the bottom?
Kissing and bottoming are asking for a lot in my experience. I’d really be surprised if they go for it but you never know.
Set expectations in advance. This isn’t the time to be coy. Ask what he allows. Some are mutual touching only. Most give the happy ending. Many let you suck them.
In my experience those who will suck you are in short supply. A few more will top you. It’s a small group who bottom.
This is just my opinion based on decades of massages. Good luck.
 

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Set expectations in advance. This isn’t the time to be coy. Ask what he allows. Some are mutual touching only. Most give the happy ending. Many let you suck them.

How do you set this up? Through text? I thought most of them do not write these things explicitly whether on their ad or via text/email?
 
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Kissing and bottoming are asking for a lot in my experience. I’d really be surprised if they go for it but you never know.
Set expectations in advance. This isn’t the time to be coy. Ask what he allows. Some are mutual touching only. Most give the happy ending. Many let you suck them.
In my experience those who will suck you are in short supply. A few more will top you. It’s a small group who bottom.
This is just my opinion based on decades of massages. Good luck.
 
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Went on the site. I couldn’t believe Mike Jones, the massage therapist who outed preacher Ted Haggard In 2006 was on there and still working as a therapist. Good to see he went on with his life. Nice guy. I enjoyed his services a long time ago. I wish him well.
 

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How do you set this up? Through text? I thought most of them do not write these things explicitly whether on their ad or via text/email?

They will often discuss this in messaging on the website or in text. If not you discuss it when you arrive.

The guidance above is very accurate. Unless the masseur is a full-on sex worker, you're unlikely to get much more than a handjob.

If they are a well trained and legitimate CMT the price will reflect that (~$120-150/hour). If the price is $200+ then they're more likely to be willing to do more as that's the starting price point for penetrative sex work. But even then expect them to suggest an up-charge if you want them to bottom as that's usually far afield of a rub and tug.
 

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They will often discuss this in messaging on the website or in text. If not you discuss it when you arrive.

The guidance above is very accurate. Unless the masseur is a full-on sex worker, you're unlikely to get much more than a handjob.

If they are a well trained and legitimate CMT the price will reflect that (~$120-150/hour). If the price is $200+ then they're more likely to be willing to do more as that's the starting price point for penetrative sex work. But even then expect them to suggest an up-charge if you want them to bottom as that's usually far afield of a rub and tug.

Thanks. So if it's $150, it's going to be a rub and tug at best?
 

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Thanks. So if it's $150, it's going to be a rub and tug at best?
That's my guess. If the masseur is comfortable with you, he might be open to more. But there may be a price tag to it.

Also, make sure you're freshly showered before going over. No strong cologne. Fresh breath. And if he is not equipped to allow you to shower afterwards, bring a small hand towel or something as you may want to wipe any remaining oil off your arms and legs before getting back in your car. (Wearing something you won't mind if any residual oil gets on it is a smart bet.)

Enjoy!
 

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Thanks. So if it's $150, it's going to be a rub and tug at best?
It can take weeks, months or even years to develop a relationship with your LMT.
I have three who I’ve been going to for over ten years. The massages have changed dramatically over the years; going from a simple release to sex.
 

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It can take weeks, months or even years to develop a relationship with your LMT.
I have three who I’ve been going to for over ten years. The massages have changed dramatically over the years; going from a simple release to sex.

How many sessions did it take before it became sex? Also, how did that discussion go from there? Or was it spontaneous (if so, who initiated it)?
 

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How many sessions did it take before it became sex? Also, how did that discussion go from there? Or was it spontaneous (if so, who initiated it)?
It was an organic process that took time. I kept going back because the massages are fantastic and that’s my number one requirement.
The quickest transition was about one year. The longest took over five years.
That said, I’ve gone to guys who were pretty sexual from the first session. I wouldn’t say they give the greatest massages but everyone has his own goals and standards.
 

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It was an organic process that took time. I kept going back because the massages are fantastic and that’s my number one requirement.
The quickest transition was about one year. The longest took over five years.
That said, I’ve gone to guys who were pretty sexual from the first session. I wouldn’t say they give the greatest massages but everyone has his own goals and standards.

Oh wow. Those that took a year or five to transition, How did those transition? Did you have to open the discussion up? Did they surprise you one day and pushed further? Or did you drop significant hints that that they wouldn't miss? =)
 

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In the U.S., there are three categories of therapists on that site:
  1. Licensed, legit therapists targeting gay clientele, but will not engage in sexual activity, at least not until after an established relationship and only if they are sexually interested
  2. Erotic massage therapist that have no license, minimal training, and are just looking to make a few extra bucks giving handjobs on the side; they are part timers and not very good at what they do
  3. True rent boys (aka, prostitutes) who use the massage as a cover to mask the transaction for legal purposes
Massages are difficult and exhausting for the therapist, especially if he is not trained. I have had a lot of massages and I’ve never had a good erotic massage. The therapists have a very limited repertoire of what they’re willing to do and it rarely involves kissing or fucking. You must be very explicit as to what you’re looking before you show up. If you want to fuck, my advice is to find a rent boy who gets the joke and is prepared to deliver what you want. Any massage is likely to be perfunctory and disappointing.
 

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In the U.S., there are three categories of therapists on that site:
  1. Licensed, legit therapists targeting gay clientele, but will not engage in sexual activity, at least not until after an established relationship and only if they are sexually interested
  2. Erotic massage therapist that have no license, minimal training, and are just looking to make a few extra bucks giving handjobs on the side; they are part timers and not very good at what they do
  3. True rent boys (aka, prostitutes) who use the massage as a cover to mask the transaction for legal purposes
Massages are difficult and exhausting for the therapist, especially if he is not trained. I have had a lot of massages and I’ve never had a good erotic massage. The therapists have a very limited repertoire of what they’re willing to do and it rarely involves kissing or fucking. You must be very explicit as to what you’re looking before you show up. If you want to fuck, my advice is to find a rent boy who gets the joke and is prepared to deliver what you want. Any massage is likely to be perfunctory and disappointing.

thanks! Very good insight! I think I might just do a #1 then. At least that's guaranteed. Also, it sounds like it's the cheapest and has no upcharge.
 

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I don’t want to rain on anyone’s parade. I think kissing may not be such a good idea at this time because of Covid?

But the again, your masseur will be breathing down your neck while he’s giving you a body rub. So you’ll catch Covid either way if he has Covid.
 

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In the U.S., there are three categories of therapists on that site:
  1. Licensed, legit therapists targeting gay clientele, but will not engage in sexual activity, at least not until after an established relationship and only if they are sexually interested
  2. Erotic massage therapist that have no license, minimal training, and are just looking to make a few extra bucks giving handjobs on the side; they are part timers and not very good at what they do
  3. True rent boys (aka, prostitutes) who use the massage as a cover to mask the transaction for legal purposes
Massages are difficult and exhausting for the therapist, especially if he is not trained. I have had a lot of massages and I’ve never had a good erotic massage. The therapists have a very limited repertoire of what they’re willing to do and it rarely involves kissing or fucking. You must be very explicit as to what you’re looking before you show up. If you want to fuck, my advice is to find a rent boy who gets the joke and is prepared to deliver what you want. Any massage is likely to be perfunctory and disappointing.

Great post! You’ve pretty much summed everything up.

I always go for category 1. I think getting a good massage is better than getting an expensive handjob which you can give yourself anytime.
 

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It was an organic process that took time. I kept going back because the massages are fantastic and that’s my number one requirement.
The quickest transition was about one year. The longest took over five years.
That said, I’ve gone to guys who were pretty sexual from the first session. I wouldn’t say they give the greatest massages but everyone has his own goals and standards.
I agree it varies from one guy to another. A few times the massage was more or less sexual the first time. Although maybe not the best massage but okay. Another guy that I have been seeing for over 20 years - it took a couple of years to transition it was never discussed - after a few sessions he began to relax the draping and finally went to no drape..... then after about 2 years one night he just gently rubbed around and close to my penis - then be began to gently stroke it - gave me a most explosive HE (totally unexpected) . Other visits he didn't go anything - the massages are so great that it really doesn't matter - some sessions he goes down on me - but even that doesn't happen every time.... he never asks nor discusses - often when I climax - he will say "Wow - you really needed that".... I have only been with one LMT who bottomed - I have been with a couple that asked if I wanted them to penetrate me.....
I have found that it's best to let them play by their own rules and boundaries - and their mood at the time. Most of those who advertise on masseur finder are professional LMT's (a few are not) if you text them they will be more open and let you know what their boundaries are - if you are asking for too much they may tell you that they are not interested in setting up a session.
 

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I go to Massage Envy which is a nationwide chain. The massages are $65 per hour for non members and $55 per hour for members. Of course the facilities are professional and all therapists are LMT. On the other hand Masseur Finder therapists prices range from an average of $120 and up for one hour and that's assuming you go to their location. What am I 'guaranteed' to get for a session with a MF therapist at a minimum considering it's cost is twice that of Massage Envy? What might be unsaid but still understood between the therapist and I?
 

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After doing some googling, i landed on masseurfinder. I'm planning to book a massage. What should I need to know? Also, how do I ensure that the masseur is fine with kissing and him being the bottom?[/QUOTE

Based on the timeline in your first post you should’ve had that first massage. How did it go???
 
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I go to Massage Envy which is a nationwide chain. The massages are $65 per hour for non members and $55 per hour for members. Of course the facilities are professional and all therapists are LMT. On the other hand Masseur Finder therapists prices range from an average of $120 and up for one hour and that's assuming you go to their location. What am I 'guaranteed' to get for a session with a MF therapist at a minimum considering it's cost is twice that of Massage Envy? What might be unsaid but still understood between the therapist and I?
The price difference doesn't guarantee anything - really.... of course with massage envy you don't get a true hour massage (more like 45 minutes if lucky) if you decide to book through masseur finder be sure in text messages to see what the boundaries are- it varies from one therapist to another. There is always the element of surprise. Which can be exciting. Some that charge the $120 include a HE at the end and some don't - if you go only expecting a great massage then you will not be disappointed and if there is more then its an added joy.