let me first point out that he is not my "boyfriend" per-say. we met about a month ago and see each other a few times a week. we've slept together several times with nothing sexual. last night we spend our first night naked in bed together after we went out drinking, but no sexual touching occurred.
there's quite a few things about my "relationship" with this boy that i feel like i'd like to address, but i don't want to start divulging details about us. so far our relationship has gone well, so i guess there's really nothing to complain about.
tonight we were laying in bed talking and watching a movie. the topic turned to fetishes and whatnot and he mentioned that he enjoys ass play, swallowing cum, fucking bareback, etc. now, this may be because i've not had many boyfriends in the past (and as far as i know, neither has he) and to me sex is a very personal affectionate thing between two people, but these details really made me feel uneasy. i really like him, and i'm trying to not feel bothered by this stuff, but i can't help but think about it. he kept asking me what my fetishes were, and really i don't like anything that isn't out of the ordinary. he didn't appear to seem too pleased about this. i mentioned i disfavor rimming, and he was very taken aback by it. thoughts of him with past lovers filled my mind with him doing all of these sexual things with them. it's almost as though that when this stuff, if it happens, does in fact happen with us, that it won't be as special to him as it will be to me. almost like it will be just another "chapter" in his book of relationships. is it normal to feel this about a partner? is this something i should address to him? i kind of don't want him to know that his sexual history bothers me, but i really don't know what to do about it. perhaps it's a trust issue... though i believe our relationship hasn't developed enough to fully trust him 100%. i just haven't known him long enough.
there's quite a few things about my "relationship" with this boy that i feel like i'd like to address, but i don't want to start divulging details about us. so far our relationship has gone well, so i guess there's really nothing to complain about.
tonight we were laying in bed talking and watching a movie. the topic turned to fetishes and whatnot and he mentioned that he enjoys ass play, swallowing cum, fucking bareback, etc. now, this may be because i've not had many boyfriends in the past (and as far as i know, neither has he) and to me sex is a very personal affectionate thing between two people, but these details really made me feel uneasy. i really like him, and i'm trying to not feel bothered by this stuff, but i can't help but think about it. he kept asking me what my fetishes were, and really i don't like anything that isn't out of the ordinary. he didn't appear to seem too pleased about this. i mentioned i disfavor rimming, and he was very taken aback by it. thoughts of him with past lovers filled my mind with him doing all of these sexual things with them. it's almost as though that when this stuff, if it happens, does in fact happen with us, that it won't be as special to him as it will be to me. almost like it will be just another "chapter" in his book of relationships. is it normal to feel this about a partner? is this something i should address to him? i kind of don't want him to know that his sexual history bothers me, but i really don't know what to do about it. perhaps it's a trust issue... though i believe our relationship hasn't developed enough to fully trust him 100%. i just haven't known him long enough.
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