Hello, I am fairly new here and found this site while researching my husband's fetishes online. I know there are no magic answers, but I guess simply discussing it with other women in serious relationships will be therapeutic. We've been married for over 10 years and I love him dearly. He is a good husband and father, is well-educated and successful, and I have no complaints except in the bedroom. Everything was fine until the last few years when he has brought up some things that range from uncomfortable to disturbing. On some levels I feel like I'm being prudish, but on others I feel like maybe he has some problems and needs counseling. The first issue to surface was an infatuation with penis size. His size is perfect to me, and is similar to the small number of men I dated before him. It seems perfectly normal to me. He doesn't feel that way and began asking me all of these detailed questions about my former lovers' penises. Also, lots of questions about do I wish he was bigger or do I fantasize about other men. I don't. He has been looking at alot of porn. He doesn't know that I know how much he looks at, but when I suspected he was doing it too much, I secretly began monitoring his internet usage. He not only is looking at porn 8-10 hours a week, some of the stuff is disturbing. There is "cuckolding", which I had not ever even heard of until I saw what he was looking at. He also has been looking at transexuals and bisexual porn. Almost everything is somehow tied to at least one participant having a large penis. Perhaps the most disturbing thing is that one of the only types of porn that he has been viewing that doesn't involve large penises is of women defecating. I found saved files of this, too. I want to confront him, but I'm scared about how he'll respond, or what the truth might be. I've noticed when we have sex lately it seems he is thinking about something else, as though I'm not even there and he is in some fantasy world. When he brings up penis size questions when we begin to have sex, I push back and let him know I don't want to go down that road, but it seems he wants that discussion almost every time we have sex. Also, I think he is looking at porn on his phone to get aroused right before he approaches me for sex, as though I'm not arousing to him and he needs something else. I'm still reasonably young and fit and it hurts to think that he is no longer attracted to me. I don't know if the porn is why he is no longer attracted to me, or if because he is no longer attracted to me he turned to porn. Sorry for the long post, but I'm upset. Reading this site, and seeing what goes on in the chatroom, I think I feel worse, as the reality of my husband's fetishes is starting to hit home and I don't know if I can deal with it. I feel like it is getting worse all of the time. Any guidance in managing this is appreciated.