I would be shocked if this question hasn't been asked here before, but I couldn't find the post. First of all, I don't do hook-ups, so my experience is rather limited. I can still (easily) count the guys all on one hand. They were all pretty close to average size, as am I. I'm pretty versatile. I enjoy all of it: top, bottom, oral, rimming - all the "vanilla" stuff, to steal from another post. My point: I'm not normally worried / afraid of bottoming. I'm starting to get involved with a guy who's bigger than I've had before - pretty long (8-9"), and a little thicker than I've had as well. He said he's mostlya bottom. Fine - great! I want to be prepared for the time when he wants to top. Heck, I'm going to need to bottom pretty soon or it's gonna grow shut - it's been a while since my last relationship. I know there are guys out there (maybe, a few on here) who would gladly bend over and let him take a running start. Even for average equipment, it takes me a fair amount of "warming up". Mainly, I don't want to be nervous when the time comes. You all know how it can kill the mood. Guys - Put my mind at ease. Is this likely to be a problem? Any advice - other than the obvious 55-gallon drum of lube? I found a product called "anal ease" - some kind of numbing lotion. #1 - Does anyone know if it (or something like it) is condom-safe? #2 - I don't really care for the idea of being numb during sex. Has anyone tried something like this? I'd particulary like to hear BBB2.5's point of view cause Day-um, you got skills girl. How did you learn to do that? I'm sorry for writing a book.