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Have any other bottoms been asked to top and were you able to? I have topped a few times and it was pleasurable but I'll be the first to let the guy know that I'm not the best top and it could go one of a few ways. I could either cum too fast or I might not be able to maintain my erection. I'm curious to know other guys experiences because I had a recent experience where I wasn't able to maintain my erection when in other instances I was able to stay hard and climax.
 

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I can *sometimes* top if its with a partner that I've been with for a while, but other than that it's usually not a fun experience for me. Even with the partner its not great.

I have the same problem as you described. I either cum waaayyyy too quick or I can't even get it up. In my case, i know its purely psychological. Nothing physical is causing it, I just get in my own head about it and it makes it worse and worse.

As for hookups - i make it very clear from the start. I'm the one getting fucked. End of story.

Happy to fuck a guy with dildos (love it, in fact), but I'm the bottom. Period.

Still occasionally get the "pretend top" who comes over and then goes, "oh no, i cant get it up/I'm too close/other excuse, so you'll just have to fuck me now", and my response is generally the same - goodbye and fuck you for wasting my time.

Try cialis though - helped me a bit with a vers friend who liked to flip.
 
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It's been years, like 12-15, since I've topped anyone. It's possible I can still do it but the question has not come up in, well, years. But I wouldn't bet a lot on that working out. I'm essentially a pure bottom at this point. If my Top boyfriend asked, I would give it a go but that's also unlikely.

We are a good pair that way.
Why mess with a perfectly good recipe?
 

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I've been asked to top many times. I usually tell them I am a bottom only, but there were a few times I have topped. I used to top my boyfriend from time to time. He is mainly a top, but he loves to get fucked occasionally.

I've also had a couple of fuckbuddies who were complete bottoms. The one I fucked because we had a "no face-to-face" thing going on. We would fuck through gloryholes, in the complete dark or blindfolded. That was the only part that I found interesting, I really didn't find him attractive, but he did have a beautiful muscular body.

The other guy worked for a few years at the adult bookstore. I always thought he was hot! A hairy muscle guy, kinda of a redneck country boy, with some tattoos. He also had a killer smile and beautiful blue eyes, he was very cute. I also thought he was completely straight. But it wasn't until after he had quit that I discovered that he was into me. He came over to my place or I would go to his place. We would suck each other (he had a beautiful 8" dick) and then I would fuck him. He couldn't get enough. It ended when he asked if I wanted to do a 3way with him and another top that loved to fuck. I agreed and my fuckbuddy backed out at the very last minute (I was already at the top's house). The top and I fooled around, he tried to fuck me but he couldn't get his dick hard and he was high on something. I ended up leaving. My fuckbuddy apologized after that but he also never called me again after that. But that was the same time that Craigslist got rid of personal ads. That is how we always communicated, by answering each other's ads.

But when I've had bottoms ask me to fuck them and it was either a one time thing or I didn't know them, I always told them "No thank you"
 
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I have the same problem as you described. I either cum waaayyyy too quick or I can't even get it up. In my case, i know its purely psychological. Nothing physical is causing it, I just get in my own head about it and it makes it worse and worse.

Yes to this :emoji_point_up_2:

I’m the exact same way. Before I was with my current boyfriend, I was exclusively a top. My sexual experiences were few and far between, but every time I always topped, mainly due to fear of the unknown and was too nervous to bottom. But whenever I topped the same thing happened (and still continues to happen): cum at light speed, or I struggle to get it in and then I get in my own head and lose my boner, and then becomes a total mood killer.

Now in my current relationship I decided to pop my bottom cherry and I’m 90% bottom exclusive and I’m happy with that decision. Every so often I will crave the top experience so we will keep it vers, keeps things interesting. But the same thing still happens, cumming too fast or struggling to stay hard. Changing up positions every once in a while tends to help a bit with that. Never in a million years did I think I would be a bottom but here I am lol.