I've topped and bottomed both orally and anally. It's kind of dependant on the relationship and where I've been sexually with any particular guy. I love to be sucked and I just simply adore sucking cock. I'm one of those very hungry cocksuckers who can suck all night and all day long if you let me.
Anally, I'm less experienced. And yet, I've done both. Currently, the guy I'm dating prefers being a top. Would he bottom? Yes, he would and he likes it. He just prefers to top. And he prefers large-bodied guys like me to fuck. He's a smallish Latin guy with a big cock. He says it has something to do with getting off knowing that in the world outside of the bedroom, everyone else seems to think that he'd be the bottom because he's smaller of body and a little more feminine than me, and inside the bedroom he knows that he can fuck me. So, I would guess that there is something about power in the bedroom. He also lets me fuck him though and he likes it. I don't see anything wrong with a little power play in the bedroom, so long as we can switch roles.:biggrin1:
And, I also have been into BDSM where power is a major turn on. And in BDSM, it looks like the top or dom has the power, when anyone who has experienced it knows that the bottom or sub has most of the power (you can always use a safeword if you know what you are doing). In BDSM I've always prefered being the top/dom. I decked a guy who was a dom/top who slapped me in a scene. It freaked him (and me) out. LOL. Also, though, sometimes BDSM play isn't exactly about sex.:wink:
Now, outside of the bedroom and in the relationship (of which bedroom play and sex are just parts of the relationship), we better be equals because the relationship just won't work otherwise.